Posted by wendy b on August 29, 2003, at 10:44:10
In reply to Re: This new x10 or whatever ban policy...., posted by djmmm on August 28, 2003, at 14:50:26
> > Are you saying that "please be civil"
> > is name calling ??
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> stjames,
> Yeah, civility is (I'm sure you know) adequate in courtesy and politeness : MANNERLY" and being asked to be civil is labeling me as "uncivil" and that is name calling, and offends me (...)I agree, as do many who are blocked and would like to comment. So thank you DJMMM. Being told that you're not civil is, in itself, an instance of name-calling. It infers, from a written, internet exchange - which can be and often is, misinterpreted - that the intent of the poster is a transparently-obvious negative blight on the Psychobabble landscape. So calling people uncivil is less than kind, wouldn't you say?
> (...) especially since the standard of "civility" is subjective to a myriad of things. (cultural relativism, etc)The standard of civility has been applied so unevenly, and, at times, with such heartbreaking results (posters feeling isolated, or judged, or simply worse than they already did, etc), that I am often left in a state of stupefaction.
(": the act of stupefying : the state of being stupefied.
Etymology: Middle English stupifien, from Middle French stupefier, modification of Latin stupefacere, from stupEre to be astonished + facere to make, do -- more at DO. Date: 15th century. 1 : to make stupid , groggy, or insensible 2 : ASTONISH, ASTOUND")> I guess my point is (obviously) that anything can offend anyone...
Excellent point. If you're looking hard enough, you'll find it.
>and censorship and labeling are on the top of my list, especially in a community of people struggling to regain a sense of who they are... people at their wits end with being depressed, suffering through often debilitating side-effects (that their doctors often never mention)...and looking for a reason to live.
Yes, this is the tragedy and the real human toll that results from some of the more egregious examples of turning people away from the board. I don't condone anyone taking pot shots at others, or people who are out to start fights, or who continually bait people until somebody bursts a brain vessel... Nevertheless, I'm sure Bob will now say that it's not clear that the examples I'm offering here are transparent, either, and round and round we go. It's simply too difficult to make any effort to derive sense out of what goes on here.
DJMM, I and those of my ilk recognize you and honor your input.
Sincerely,
Wendy
poster:wendy b
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