Posted by Susan J on August 23, 2003, at 11:36:02
In reply to Re: Blocked for 48 weeks » Dinah, posted by Larry Hoover on August 23, 2003, at 7:48:00
Hi, guys,
Yeah, I got drawn into the debate about defamation -- debating is fun for me, although it can become exasperating.
I do want to say that I REALLY tried to reach out to Lou at first. I could see there were problems with communication in those threads. Like Angelina Jolie said, "I don't know why I think I can help. All I know is that I really want to."
Sometimes when I see threads like these, I wonder if someone, or several people, have any medical disorders such as Aspergers, Borderline Personality Disorder, or Passive-Agressive Disorder. I'm not a psychologist in any way, but I do know those types of conditions may make communication more difficult. I DON'T MEAN THAT IN A BAD WAY OR CONDESCENDING WAY AT ALL. There is nothing I like better than to know the truth. I feel more confident in my actions if I know what playing field I'm truly on.
And if I listed all my faults here, I'd make Dr. Bob's server crash. :-)
But I "do" know sometimes it's easier for me to accept a person's foibles if I know it's the result of something outside of his/her control, and not because of any anger or ill will directed at me personally. Does that make sense at all? I "wish" I could be totally accepting and patient all the time, every time, but I can't.
I didn't get any sense Lou felt hurt or frustrated in these threads. I asked him directly and he never responded. That's totally OK -- I'm a total stranger. I guess I just couldn't tell from the threads that he "may" be hurting. I never meant to hurt anyone, even in my frustration at the circular arguments the threads inevitably took.
I'm sorry if I hurt Lou, or anyone at all. I'm a big believer in civility. It's a noble goal to strive for and makes life easier for all of us.
I'll try not to post again unless I can provide something constructive for all, not just constructive for me.
Susan
(the lawyer, who's NOT practicing law, just trying to find her sanity.)
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