Posted by Dinah on August 22, 2003, at 1:45:59
In reply to Re: The Lawyer Weighs In on Defamation Claims, posted by Dinah on August 22, 2003, at 1:28:01
I do understand your convictions about defamation, and share them.
However, I've always felt that a speakers words tell more about the speaker than whoever is spoken about. If someone, for example, makes racist comments in my presence, it wouldn't affect my view of the race being discussed. It would affect my view of the speaker of the racist remarks.
If someone gossips in my presence, I would draw more conclusions about the person gossiping than the person being gossiped about.
And if someone posts unkindly towards someone else, it wouldn't at all affect my view of the person being posted about. After all, in this site the person being posted about is also posting. And people can draw their own conclusions.
So, to be specific, Lou. My opinion of you is shaped by your own posts. Not the posts of anyone else. In the way you respond to unkindness, you are saying something about yourself. When you extend a hand in kindness (as you have to me) you are saying something about yourself. When you observe the rules of this site to the best of your ability, you are saying something about yourself. When you observe your block time without re-registering under another name, you are saying something about yourself.
I'm really glad of the civility rules. I like the way Dr. Bob's site isn't the free for all melees you might see on other sites. And it does hurt when someone criticizes your posting style or your personality, or anything else. I certainly know that as much as anyone.
But Lou, in the end, your posts speak far more loudly about you than anyone else does. Which is fortunate (and part of the natural order of this beautifully balanced universe) since in the end you can only control what you do or say, not what others do or say. Darn it! :)
I wish you peace and health, Lou. (And I'd still like to continue our discussion on Faith.)
Dinah
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