Posted by bozeman on March 29, 2003, at 14:18:40
In reply to controlling/moderation of this site, posted by fayeroe on March 27, 2003, at 7:11:10
Pat
I am sorry that you are (apparently) feeling so disappointed and frustrated with the situation, and I certainly understand where you're coming from. Soon I intend to query Dr. Bob on some of these subjects -- not as criticism, but as clarification of the boundaries so I too can feel more safe. I felt extremely powerless and helpless as the drama you referred to on PSB played out . . . powerless to help defuse it, helpless to offer support or moderation to what was obviously a misunderstanding (regardless of the personal dynamics behind it on either side.) I was torn by my "white knight on a horse" instincts to gallop to jyl's defense, but paralyzed to find a way to do so without risking being blocked myself because I don't think I understand fully enough what the boundaries are. If I got myself blocked, I'm no help to anyone -- but is getting blocked while defending someone else a worthy enough endeavor that the block is worth in considering the value in support it gives the person you are defending? But due to the "progressive discipline" approach to blocking, (which I do agree with, by the way, most of the time at least) -- is it worth it to blow my first "offense" in someone else's defense? Would this exempt me from the "double duration" progression if and when and if I say or do something worthy of intervention in the future?
Once I can clarify my thoughts and ask for specific solutions, I plan to bring up these things with Dr. Bob. But I'm still too unclear on my own feelings and role, that I'm not going to ask until I can clarify things well enough he doesn't have to write me a book in response, as I know how much work moderating this site must be.
What I want to say to you is, I truly deeply appreciate the honesty and passion you have brought to this forum, and your well-defined thoughts and ideas. It is rare to find someone with both open-mindedness and strong opinions, and I feel like you have both. I fully understand if you feel like you are gaining more stress than it's worth to continue here, but I hope that's a decision you reach in reason and not in passion (if that makes any sense.) I have been deeply touched by your voice and support in the short time you've been here, and will miss you if you decide you must go. I know you have a very full life and lots of things pulling you in different directions, and am amazed at your ability to keep it all together. I wish you only the very best, and want you to know that you have made a lasting impression on me. May God bless you always.
Peace and love to you and yours
bozeman
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