Posted by wendy b. on November 3, 2002, at 8:50:03
In reply to Re: pressuring others... » IsoM, posted by Dr. Bob on November 2, 2002, at 0:58:40
> > You've reminded us in the past to stop pressuring others to answer specific questions, for example. So I think IsoM should be given a break. I think I've read about 5 times in the last few days where you've repeatedly asked her to moderate, and she has told you why she doesn't want to, and yet you still keep asking her.
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> Fair enough. IsoM, do you feel pressured? If so, I'll stop...
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> BobNo, Bob, it doesn't work this way. Or at least, should I say, it hasn't in the past. In other words, you don't check with anybody else to see if their feelings are hurt, or if they feel they are being put down, before you PBC or block the offending poster. Why should you treat your own mistakes any differently? So, in other words, whether IsoM feels pressured or not, that IS what you're doing to her. And I believe that being a bully about it isn't fair to Iso... Whether she wants to make a point of it or not. And she may not want to because, as a nice person, she doesn't want to hurt YOUR feelings...
Wendy
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