Posted by shar on October 1, 2002, at 21:48:10
In reply to Re: To say or not to say » shar, posted by BeardedLady on October 1, 2002, at 15:11:44
> Shar:
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> I'm not interested in posting much, but I did want to respond to this post.........I expected you would.
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> > I'm not telling anybody what to write or not to write, or how to write it,
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> No, but it sounds to me (not an accusation) as if you're admonishing others for feeling compelled to ask a question and expressing disappointment with the answer.........Not admonishing. Just stating that I was not trying to tell people what to write or how to write it. Like the sentence said. Others are completely free to do what they like.
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> >I just hate that asking a simple question, and getting a reasonable answer will likely result in negative chaos.
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> First, the question you asked wasn't simple.....In your opinion.
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>And whether an answer is reasonable is subjective: some may think it is; others may think it isn't. (This isn't an issue of concern to me, so I'm neutral.)
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........Very true re subjectivity. In my post, that was my opinion I was expressing, and to me, in my very own opinion, it was a reasonable answer. I was not stating that it should or would be reasonable for everyone, a point I tried to make abundantly clear. I went so far as to point out that I was not trying to represent all possible points of view in my post.
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> But I don't understand why expressing a different opinion is termed "negative chaos"?
That opinion has often been a show of support for others, and I don't see it any more chaotic than the discussion of a movie, for instance.......A different opinion is not "negative chaos." I was referring to the sh*t storms that have erupted in the past. I believe I mentioned that. And, I know those terms are subjective, as they should be, since I was expressing my own opinion which is intrinsically subjective.
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> > Thus, I can say with certainty in advance that attacking me for my opinion, or for failing to mention all the opinions that exist, won't accomplish anything. I am not speaking for anyone else, just myself.
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> Does this mean folks who disagree with you are "attacking [you] for [your] opinion"?........No, it means people who attack me are attacking me.
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>Because I would like to think that most of us are not interested in attacking others........I would like to think that also.
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>but instead wish to impart our own opinions, even if they're different —in fact *because* they are different.........I agree. When people express a different opinion that is freedom of speech to me. If they do so by referencing the original situation (instead of, say, my post) and own their opinions (for example, using "I" statements, and, in this instance, talking about Dr. Bob contacting someone's ISP) it even feels like they would be expressing their very own opinion.
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> I was raised to question authority—if and when that authority begs questioning. Sometimes it does; sometimes it doesn't. I'm not an "America: Love it or Leave it" type of girl. I'd rather work to make it better, and sometimes that means questioning the authority when the authority seems unfair..........I agree completely.
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> I think that's why you asked your question, and the answer you got was satisfactory to you. But don't be surprised if it's not satisfactory to someone else.........It would surprise and amaze me if it WAS satisfactory to everybody else.
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> We're all different..........Yep. That's why I made it so clear (or made a concerted effort to be as crystal clear as I possibly could) that I was expressing my OWN opinion. Just mine. Only from my point of view. Not speaking for everyone else, or anyone else. Not saying other people should feel that way, too. Simply expressing how I felt, and my own opinion. Really tried to be clear about that, I did.
Shar
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