Posted by Dinah on June 14, 2002, at 7:46:12
In reply to Re: stymied » Dr. Bob, posted by IsoM on June 14, 2002, at 2:50:10
If you trust your intuition, IsoM, I hope you can "read" my feelings and thoughts as I write this. Feelings and thoughts that are only partially caused by the fact that I am aware that the boards are quieter when I'm not around, and so that I am one of the posters to whom you refer.
I am so painfully confused, and I really don't understand what you mean, what so many people seem to mean. Is a person's worthiness to contribute to a community judged by whether or not they make waves, whether or not things go smoother when they are absent? I can think of so many people whom the world would not have been blessed with if that were true. When someone cares passionately about something, when someone doesn't hold the majority view, they tend to disturb.
I am always drawn back here because I so admire Dr. Bob and the "values" he upholds here in this community. I so admire the fact that his blockings are done based on a poster's willingness to abide by a simple (to me, very simple and clear) and minimal set of rules he has established. I so admire that he doesn't base his decisions on how much he or anyone else "likes" a poster, or what his intuition tells him about a poster, or what he or the majority of posters feel of the "target" (I can't think of a better word offhand) of the incivility. That to me is a virtue, but to so many it seems a fault, and I get so confused and so frustrated that I can't seem to wrap my brain around the idea. It doesn't occur to me for one moment that Dr. Bob picks on the person he is blocking; on the contrary, I sense a great deal of liking on his part for some of those he blocks, and a fair amount of frustration towards the choices that force him to block someone. (Forgive me if I'm wrong here, Dr. Bob. I'm just struggling to make sense of it all.)
Please don't think I have any particular reason for addressing this question to you, other than that you have a clear and logical way of expressing yourself and I feel like I should understand better. And also don't feel that you need to reply. I completely understand (because I do take responsibility for my actions) if you would rather not.
I just feel so.... separate..... different.... sometimes, based on my inability to understand some things that others seem to understand so naturally.
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