Posted by Mitchell on April 12, 2002, at 18:27:56
In reply to Re: please be civil » ELA, posted by Dr. Bob on April 10, 2002, at 1:30:48
> Thanks for trying to be civil, I appreciate that, but some of your wording was still accusatory. Maybe one thing to try would be to put things in terms of what the other person might do better, rather than what they did "wrong". And some reactions are just better kept to yourself. As an example, here's a version with a little editing:
>
> > Your recent posts have been troubling me more and more.
> > I should feel as free to post as you do and I should like you to note that.> Bob
Thanks for the effort to further clarify the stance and voice you prefer in posts to this board. If I may offer a slight addition to the edit, I would suggest:
>I have become more and more disturbed at your recent posts.
(A person can accurately report their reaction to a subject, but they cannot reliably claim that another's words caused their emotional reaction. Their reaction can as well be a reaction to an internal condition as an external stimulus.)
>I *would* (not "should") like you to note that.
Just a suggestion
SM
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