Posted by Elizabeth on March 1, 2002, at 21:39:36
> Please don't jump to conclusions about others, post anything that they could take as accusatory, or put others down. You could've made your points without making it so personal, and that would've been fine.
Dr. Bob,
I can understand why you objected to my post, but I also feel unfairly singled out. Take a look at the post I was responding to (http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20020222/msgs/95479.html). Was Jane (jazzdog) being civil there?
You said I was being accusatory. Jane accused those who disagreed with her (in a post specifically directed at me) of having "already made up their minds." Did I jump to conclusions? Jane diagnosed her opponents with having "denial issues" (a typical example of an insult thinly cloaked in psychological jargon -- a pet peeve of mine, sorry). You say that I was making it personal? Jane never attacked the arguments made by myself or others -- just the people.
Up to that point, I had made a special effort to be polite to Jane (even though she'd been saying some things that I found rather condescending). I was upset when she didn't bother to show me the same courtesy. I should have kept my temper. But I also think that she shouldn't have provoked me in the first place, and I don't understand why it should be okay for her to do the same things for which you've chastised me.
-elizabeth
poster:Elizabeth
thread:3210
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