Posted by Dr. Bob on June 3, 2001, at 10:40:19
In reply to Re: Please be supportive: Dr. Bob, posted by shelliR on June 2, 2001, at 10:15:34
> It does seem like I'm picking on you--two posts in a row
It's OK, it's good to get feedback.
Digression: I experimented with letting people be uncivil to me, but decided that even if that were OK with me, it wasn't good for the community. It was like saying it was OK to break some windows, but not others...
> I realize that you are concerned that someone might come to the board, read too many bad things, and decide not to take an antidepressant. I think you have to take that risk or this board is going to become amazingly, boringly saccharine.
I think I understand what you're saying, but I think it's a matter of degree. If a lot of people have negative experiences and post about them, fine. That might deter others, but maybe that would be a good thing in that case. But it's different for someone to say:
> > all these people that say they love effexor xr, will reach a point where they think they don't need it anymore, try to go off and ... hate it then.
> No one got a warning if they said, you should never ever take opiates for an antidepressant--you will end up like my friend in horrible pain, or living on the street.
Did someone say that? I wish I could've done something to keep that thread from blowing up, maybe I missed something early on that I should've responded to?
> First, the rule was to be civil. Now the rule keeps extending. At one point, you gave a warning for an incorrect information in a post, which I also responded to. Now you are giving a warning for not being supportive. What comes next?
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> you seem to me to be getting more controlling in some ways over the year that I've been participating. You cannot try to create your perfect board without losing something.I know, I'm not happy about it either, more and more toes to watch:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20010315/msgs/1366.html
I loved the idea of just needing one rule, but I think it turned out not to be enough. Yes, we lose something, too, so the issue is whether the trade-off is worth it. Do you think it would be a significant loss, posts like the above?
> I can accept (and did accept) being told to be civil. But if you ever tell me to be more supportive, I'm afraid I'll have to start putting hugs in all my posts.
If I ever start saying people have to put hugs in their posts, someone please tell me it's time to retire! :-)
Bob
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