Posted by Dr. Bob on February 2, 2001, at 0:43:47
In reply to On playing well together, posted by Sal on January 31, 2001, at 23:24:56
> Some of us learned to avoid school and isolated ourselves. Eventually, some of us learned to cope, and even learned skills to counter and redirect such conflicts.
Learning to cope is good, but sometimes what works in one situation doesn't in others.
> Because we learned to stand on our own, and not to let others play with our heads, we sometimes still encounter the same responses
And it may in fact be *because* of how you learned to cope that you still encounter the same responses -- which reinforces those coping mechanisms, which leads to more of those responses, etc.
> But some of us grew accustomed to the predictable responses. We learned that, with effort, we could help change the situation. Some of us even learned to enjoy playing together in a way that would promote tolerance of divergent viewpoints.
I do think you've learned to play better, and to exercise more restraint, but unfortunately you still have a disruptive effect, so I'm going to block you again. To continue to try to "change the situation" here, please email me instead. Thanks,
Bob
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