Posted by allisonm on April 9, 2005, at 19:58:55
In reply to Me, too » allisonm, posted by Shar on April 8, 2005, at 1:34:19
I wonder whether we (the collective "we") are feeling upset because "we" had a picture in our minds of this person and his happy/supportive family. Then, suddenly, out of the blue (it appears to "us") the family is no more and there is another relationship beginning. We feel cheated, foresaken, abandoned, left out of the loop, what have you.
But all sorts of things were happening that we were not aware of, and then the end result sprung up on us, so we feel this resentment.
I know how quickly things can change in a relationship. I wasn't there, or even cognitively present on the board, so I am telling myself that I shouldn't be feeling offended or self-righteous about my feelings. I think I need to look hard and see that I let myself out of the loop and the world turned without me. My bad for not keeping up with the times, I guess.
Plus, I can't throw stones.
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