Posted by Kath on February 9, 2004, at 14:35:43
In reply to Marital Milestone, posted by Racer on February 8, 2004, at 20:33:08
WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Over the past maybe 4 months, I've gotten mad & been REAL with my husband....and as you say - nothing DREADFUL happened!!!!!!!!!!!
I even raised my voice!!!!!!!!
I even said "NO I DID NOT MAKE YOU FEEL BADLY - you felt badly as a result of something I SAID"
and WOW - I've lived to tell the tale!!!!
I even said, "I'm sorry that as a result of something I said, you felt badly" then later, said, "I've apologized. If you need anything further from me, let me know."
WOW - is this really me???????????
Good for you - I know how great it feels!!!
Kath
I just lost my temper with my husband to the point I couldn't hold it back any more. Long story, not enough energy right now, but I wanted to share my milestone with y'all. I told him not only what made me angry, but that I realized I'd never expressed my anger before because I knew that by any measurable standard, I was less valuable than he, but I couldn't keep it back anymore. I was angry, he could have been more responsible and more cooperative, but he wasn't and that was within his control.
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> Guess what? My head didn't explode. No one threw *anything*. I didn't throw up. Neither of us cried. In fact, although I really and truly did let him have both barrels, we hugged and made up some times afterwards.
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> I can't believe this is happening to me!
poster:Kath
thread:311056
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