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Posted by gardenergirl on April 22, 2007, at 0:24:48
In reply to Re: An Open Letter to Daisy - please hear, posted by Daisym on April 22, 2007, at 0:18:43
You feel what you feel. I'm sorry you're sad. It will be okay again, I feel certain.
In the meantime, when my new shoes come in, I can tell you all about them in my shoe fashion challenged way.
Namaste
gg
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2007, at 0:38:02
In reply to Re: An Open Letter to Daisy - please hear, posted by Daisym on April 22, 2007, at 0:18:43
since we're talking feelings
Disagreeing and speaking out isn't "fighting"
I wasn't splitting hairs.
You're always free not to respond. You don't need my permission.
Posted by Daisym on April 22, 2007, at 0:58:16
In reply to I feel accused dismissed guilt-tripped and sad, posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2007, at 0:38:02
I should give up but I really, really don't want you to feel accused, dismissed, guilt-tripped. I guess since I feel sad I wouldn't mind the company in that.
I'm not accusing you of anything. Actually, just the opposite as I am trying to unwind myself from the mess I've made. Apologies typed out never sound as sincere as I would like them to. But believe me when I say I'm trying to disengage without malice.
I'm trying to back away, take responsibility and make nice, not dismiss you. Hence my plea.
Guilt tripped - I hope not. You are so right that disagreeing and speaking out isn't fighting. I just don't want to do any of things anymore tonight.
I'm sorry you are sad. Me too. I think we all need ice cream. Or whatever makes you feel better.
Posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 7:01:29
In reply to Re: I feel accused dismissed guilt-tripped and sad » zazenducke, posted by Daisym on April 22, 2007, at 0:58:16
(((((Daisy)))) I am sorry you got in the mix of all this. I am sure I am one who started this, by speaking out against joking about abuse. I still am on this issue.
I think sometimes it seems when there is a controversial topic (and believe me I have been in a few around here), it seems like things do go off in many tangents to everything else other than the subject. Then the main issue gets lost in the shuffle and forgotten, which caused a lot of frusteration.
I think there are some main issues that have come from this.
1. should abuse jokes of animals and people be allowed on a mental health site because of the sensistivity of the "clientale"
2. Is it possible to be a deputy and a personal poster at the same time and still remain objective in a duel role.
I believe the trouble comes is when it become "personal". Can deputies not let their personal views "flavor" the decisions they make. I believe they can't all the time, and this is where a lot of hostility comes in because of their choices. I agree with everyone else that they do the best job they can under the circumstances and I do value their volunteer work. I personally don't think it is fair to put them in such a demanding role, especially since many are having their own personal struggle too.
Someone more neurtral would be better suited and I am sure Dr. Bob could get someone not connected to anyone personally here, who is in training to be a T or something simular, to volunteer as a depupty as part of their training. I feel it would save a lot of hurt feelings. Plus it would allow the deputies to be regular posters, were they are equal to everyone else.
So I don't think it is all bad stuff that has come out of this.And the thing about allowing abuse jokes , well I have talked enought about why it shouldn't be allowed here, and I won't keep bringing it up.
So I know there are a lot of hurt feelings here, people are taking of sides of who they want to support, which is fine, but if we all could look at things objectivley as possible,(without the personal feelings) maybe the issues that were addressed in the first place would have some resolution. In my heart, I am only trying to make Babble a better place. I am not trying to fight with anyone.
Posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 11:20:11
In reply to Re: I feel accused dismissed guilt-tripped and sad » Daisym, posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 7:01:29
I'm sorry, you took one trip over here wanting peace and got jumped on. I really didn't need to say what I'd said. I know you dont belittle people, I've had really good conversations with you in the past and respect the way you speak.
I'd tried to say that I didn't think it was your intent, but I could see how I would feel if I didn't know the poster, and that part is true. But it got lost in a muck of words, and in the scheme of things really wasn't necessary.
I apologize
Posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 11:47:47
In reply to Daisy » Happyflower, posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 11:20:11
Posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 12:15:18
In reply to Re: Daisy^^ whoops above for Daisy. (nm), posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 11:47:47
So it that a whoops-a-daisy? :)
Posted by karen_kay on April 22, 2007, at 12:36:49
In reply to An Open Letter to Babblers - please read, posted by Daisym on April 21, 2007, at 17:38:44
Posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 12:46:52
In reply to Re: Daisy^^ whoops above for Daisy. » Gabbi-2, posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 12:15:18
Do you ever wonder where those expressions come from? I mean 'whoops a daisy?' how on earth does something like that get passed down from generation to generation
Posted by Daisym on April 22, 2007, at 13:14:26
In reply to Daisy » Happyflower, posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 11:20:11
No worries Gabbi, but thanks for taking the time to post this. It made me feel better. And HF made me smile, she always does.
OK - how about chocolate all around, and we move on?
I read today in our paper about local parents who lost their son at VT. It made me cry. I am humbled by their loss and pain. It makes my friends even more important to me.
((((Babble))))
Posted by Deneb on April 22, 2007, at 15:49:40
In reply to Re: Daisy » Gabbi-2, posted by Daisym on April 22, 2007, at 13:14:26
((((((((((((((((Daisy)))))))))))))))))
I'm sorry there were misunderstandings.
((((((((((hugs for everyone))))))))))
Deneb*
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2007, at 17:24:44
In reply to Re: Daisy, posted by Deneb on April 22, 2007, at 15:49:40
thanks for being a peacemaker
i'm sure every one and daisy appreciates it
Posted by Kath on April 22, 2007, at 17:55:55
In reply to A sigh, posted by tofuemmy on April 21, 2007, at 22:37:52
> The sigh *I* am thinking of made me think, "I am exasperated, and feel without words". To me, it's a sound indicating a sad sense of feeling defeated or vaquished. Sorta giving up.
>
> I guess others see it differently?
>
> em***That's exactly how I interpret an 'online' sigh.
a sad sense of feeling defeated or vanquished; sorta giving up.Katah
Posted by Kath on April 22, 2007, at 17:58:20
In reply to Re: An Open Letter to Babblers - please read, posted by Honore on April 21, 2007, at 22:41:39
> > This evening, when I was out, I was telling someone what an amazing place this is, how many intelligent and thoughtful people contribute so much of themselves-- the deputies, as deputies and posters, and so many other posters here. That's it's really amazing that such a place exists-- that it was created by one person and that it continues in such a fine and deep way. Also that I felt bad that there was a bad time here now-- a lot of bad feelings-- and that I thought it was so easy to forget what a special thing it is here.--even now.
>
> I just hope that we can stick with one another here- through the rougher times-- and not become so disillusioned that we lose sight of what we've created together.
>
> Honore****Good thoughts Honore. I agree
Kath**
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2007, at 18:37:00
In reply to An Open Letter to Babblers - please read, posted by Daisym on April 21, 2007, at 17:38:44
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on April 22, 2007, at 19:29:54
In reply to Sorry Daisy. I shouldn't have replied. Forgive me. (nm) » Daisym, posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2007, at 18:37:00
sometimes I sigh when there's just too much pressure in my lungs and I realize that I've been holding my breath.
It's kind of like forgiveness in a way. too much pressure of anger and resentment. and then [whoosh] it feels... okay...
That's what I sigh means to me
-Ll
p.s. ice cream has gotten so expensive nowadays. I shopped at the poor-peeples grocery store though and found it on sale 2 for one.
p.p.s. That means ICE CREAM FOR EVERY ONE. limited flavors though. peppermint stick. and light vanilla (for my continuing smoothie experiments)
p.p.p.s. I thought it was oopsie daisy. kind of like the opposite of ring around the roses.
p.p.p.p.s. I did not mean to infer that bubonic plague is at all similar to the daisy's opposition
p.p.p.p.p.s. I've probably offended someone by now. That means a new cycle of grumpiness and misunderstanding has started. maybe it will be resolved by forgiveness and understanding, though. would be sweet.
Posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 22:20:43
In reply to Re: Sorry Daisy. I shouldn't have replied. Forgive » zazenducke, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on April 22, 2007, at 19:29:54
Okay, now I'm curious I'm going to see if I can find the origin of oops a daisy or whoops a daisy or oopsie daisy, I wonder if it's an english interpretation of synonymous word or expression from another lanuage. Hmmmmm
I hope it's not as morbid as Ring a roses.. or ring around the rosies, or ring around the roses.. shall I stop now. Yes I should fall down I think
Posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 22:25:53
In reply to Plague Trigger!! : ) » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 22:20:43
Though I found the origin of "whoops" interesting
From http://www.straightdope.com/mailbag/mwhoopsadaisy.html
With all respect to our British cousins, we think getting into a dither about "whoops-a-daisy" bespeaks a pretty low threshold of madness. We have taken the liberty of delaying our reply in hopes of toughening you up. If you think whoops-a-daisy is madness-inducing, wait till we drag you into a war with Iraq.
Alas, as with many etymologies, there's a lot of uncertainty. Terms such as "up-a-daisy" dates to the early 1700s, as an encouragement to a child who has fallen to stand up, or as an exclamation upon lifting a child. It's basically a nonsense phrase, presumably intended to amuse the little ones. Variants include "upsi-daisy" or "upsy-daisy" from the 1860s as well as "upsa-daisy" . . . any of them with or without hyphens.
The first use of "whoops-a-daisy" per se is around 1925, in a New Yorker cartoon. It's an expression of surprise or dismay, specifically upon discovering one's own error. The modern-day equivalent would be "D'oh!", I'm afraid, which is much less expressive. The term was shortened to "whoops" by 1937, and appears in that form in a letter by Ezra Pound, no less. One assumes that it was related to the expression "to whoop," as in giving "whoops of joy." That usage goes back to the early 1600s.
Posted by Phillipa on April 22, 2007, at 23:04:51
In reply to Pretty dull stuff.., posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 22:25:53
Gabbi boy you did you homework. Love Phillipa
Posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 23:05:23
In reply to Pretty dull stuff.., posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 22:25:53
I am not having a funeral, I will just have my self terminated with poisen and left to decompose what is left after the bugs got there fill of me. Leaving nothing but a dead carcus.
Nothing left of a happyflower, becasue she is now pronounced dead at 12:07 Monday morning.
Posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 23:07:34
In reply to Happyflower is DEAD, never to be seen again, posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 23:05:23
I messed up and posted it here. sorry
Posted by Gabbi-2 on April 22, 2007, at 23:21:20
In reply to Re: Pretty dull stuff.. » Gabbi-2, posted by Phillipa on April 22, 2007, at 23:04:51
I think it took two clicks : )
I'd like to take credit but alas, cannot
Posted by Racer on April 22, 2007, at 23:30:43
In reply to Happyflower is DEAD, never to be seen again, posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 23:05:23
> I am not having a funeral, I will just have my self terminated with poisen and left to decompose what is left after the bugs got there fill of me. Leaving nothing but a dead carcus.
> Nothing left of a happyflower, becasue she is now pronounced dead at 12:07 Monday morning.Please don't post anything making light of suicide or death, or which is likely to offend others.
If you have any questions regarding what is or is not allowed here, please see the FAQ at http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow ups regarding this action should be directed to Admin, and should of course be civil. Dr Bob has final authority over all deputy actions, and may choose to over-ride this action.
Racer, acting as deputy to Dr Bob
Posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 23:35:29
In reply to Please be civil and please use a trigger warning » Happyflower, posted by Racer on April 22, 2007, at 23:30:43
oh, sorry racer, I was just joking and besides I *did* put a trigger warning on it below the post, I simply forgot. I thought jokes were allowed on this site. If joking about animal abuse is allowed, why can't I joke about death?
Posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 23:38:40
In reply to Re: Please be civil and please use a trigger warning, posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2007, at 23:35:29
Their were dead animal jokes too, so what the difference?.
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