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Posted by lynn971 on January 9, 2006, at 19:24:06
This is the second time I meet with her. I told her that I was very concerned about someone on babble and she told me that I should stay away from this place. Has this ever been told to anyone by their therapist or pdoc?
Posted by JenStar on January 9, 2006, at 19:59:03
In reply to My therapist told me to stay away., posted by lynn971 on January 9, 2006, at 19:24:06
hi lynn,
I know some people have brought it up before. Sometimes pdocs recommend a break for their patients if babble seems to be upsetting them to the point where it interferes with their life or their ability to focus on their own issues.I've put myself on "self-imposed" breaks when I feel myself getting too deep into it here.
When it gets hectic here, sometimes many people get upset, and it may be at these times that pdocs ask people to double-check and see if it's helpful to take a break or not.
if you DO take a break, I hope it's enjoyable...and that you come back when you're up to it! :)
JenStar
Posted by fallsfall on January 9, 2006, at 20:40:57
In reply to My therapist told me to stay away., posted by lynn971 on January 9, 2006, at 19:24:06
My therapist wasn't happy about my participation in an online group. But he has since learned a bit (from me) about online groups. There are still things that he prefers I don't talk about, but he doesn't want me to talk to IRL people about these things either. After about 2 1/2 years, I think that he understands that the relationships I have here are just like the relationships I have IRL. So we talk about people here just like we talk about my IRL friends.
You might ask your therapist what she would say if you said that you were worried about an acquaintance. I wonder if she would give you the same advice.
I ask this because I can become overinvolved with both people on Babble and friends IRL. So my therapist would talk to me about understanding where my responsibilities lie and how much control I have over other people.
You might ask how much she knows about internet relationships and about support groups.
At least in my case, my therapist really didn't know about online support groups.
Posted by Phillipa on January 9, 2006, at 21:27:07
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away. » lynn971, posted by fallsfall on January 9, 2006, at 20:40:57
Everytime I've mentioned a place like this they kind of roll their eyes. Fondly, Phillipa ps other people do too.
Posted by Sarah T. on January 9, 2006, at 23:46:33
In reply to My therapist told me to stay away., posted by lynn971 on January 9, 2006, at 19:24:06
Hi Lynn,
Did your therapist give you a reason?
Sarah
Posted by Berberis on January 10, 2006, at 10:13:32
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away., posted by Phillipa on January 9, 2006, at 21:27:07
> Everytime I've mentioned a place like this they kind of roll their eyes. Fondly, Phillipa ps other people do too.
Whenever I mention to anyone that I participate here, I get "eye rolls", smirks, grins, frowns and sometimes outright laughter. WTF...why is that?
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on January 10, 2006, at 12:41:02
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away. » Phillipa, posted by Berberis on January 10, 2006, at 10:13:32
I think that is a totally ignorant response. I think mental health professionals should be pleased that their patients are seeking to educate themselves.
On the other hand, I have never specifically mentioned babble to my T or pdoc, I guess I'd rather not know if they are going to say something negative, you know? Although when I told my old pdoc that I'd been reading about neurontin dosing, she was very interested in what I had read. I told her it was "just" an internet board, but she was still very interested and let me try what I had read. She was great. :) I miss her. :(
To answer the original ? in this thread, I think that at the end of the day you need to make your own decision. Is your t/pdoc urging you to stay away for a good reason or b/c s/he doesn't understand this medium? I think that if we reflect on it, typically we know what is best for us.
Best,
EE
Posted by LegWarmers on January 10, 2006, at 16:00:31
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away. » Berberis, posted by Emily Elizabeth on January 10, 2006, at 12:41:02
Ive had a doctor role his eyes at me when I said I had been researching some medication he needed to put me on, this was not a pdoc. It made me sick and I never went to him again, why should we listen to them and not educate ourselves along the way!
I totally agree with Lynn's T, if babble is upsetting to someone then I think they should take a break. If someoen has a tendency to take on other peoples worries and problems it can be harmful to their emotional state. If it was happening in real life, I would think the same advice would apply. Although in real life its not always as easy to escape.
Posted by lynn971 on January 10, 2006, at 18:57:04
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away. » Emily Elizabeth, posted by LegWarmers on January 10, 2006, at 16:00:31
My therapists said that I should stay away because it will feed the depression/anxiety or it will become a self-fulfilling prophesy. I do have a tendency to take on other people's worries, but I am able to control that since I know that "I can't be responsible for other people's happiness." I just truely have a heart for people and I hate when I see someone suffer.
Posted by LegWarmers on January 10, 2006, at 19:01:32
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away., posted by lynn971 on January 10, 2006, at 18:57:04
sorry Lynn, I was making more of a general statement, I didnt mean it to come out like I was refering to you handling babble. I just meant that if a t thought that of a patient or if a poster felt that way, then it seemed like a reasonable thing to do.
Posted by lynn971 on January 10, 2006, at 20:21:35
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away. » lynn971, posted by LegWarmers on January 10, 2006, at 19:01:32
No!! I am not upset! I did not think that you were referring to me. I just took what you said and thought about it - maybe that is what the therapist saw. You are a sweetheart. I know that you would never be mean.
(((legwarmers))sorry Lynn, I was making more of a general statement, I didnt mean it to come out like I was refering to you handling babble. I just meant that if a t thought that of a patient or if a poster felt that way, then it seemed like a reasonable thing to do.
Posted by Susan47 on January 11, 2006, at 13:37:16
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away., posted by Phillipa on January 9, 2006, at 21:27:07
> Everytime I've mentioned a place like this they kind of roll their eyes. Fondly, Phillipa ps other people do too.
That's their version of condemning the alternative therapy .. the self-help process ... maybe they think it only applies to them? The other people, well, that's just ignorance, they haven't needed this place. Or used it .. well. Like we-all do, right?
Posted by Susan47 on January 11, 2006, at 13:41:29
In reply to Re: My therapist told me to stay away., posted by lynn971 on January 10, 2006, at 18:57:04
> My therapists said that I should stay away because it will feed the depression/anxiety or it will become a self-fulfilling prophesy. I do have a tendency to take on other people's worries, but I am able to control that since I know that "I can't be responsible for other people's happiness." I just truely have a heart for people and I hate when I see someone suffer.
Yes, and when you can help, why shouldn't you be able to have the opportunity to do that? And no matter what, when your therapist decides your "therapy" is over, you can have a place like this, just to feel a connection, even if it's imaginary .. it helps. I think your therapist sounds a bit egocentric, but maybe s/he really believes what s/he's saying. I've found that people who get depressed by Babble or angered to that point or triggered or whatever, mostly are able to handle it and those that can't seem to stay away .. or still stay on because at some level they're just doing what they need to do. Listen to your head and your heart.
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