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Posted by sharon7 on January 29, 2009, at 10:14:02
Hey again. I wanted to share what my t does, and i was just curious about the rest of your experiences with it. It's probably a dumb thing even to be curious about, but so far since posting here I have never been made to feel like anything i've said, done, felt, or needed was unreasonable or dumb. (o:
Anyway, my T, she's a little older and I know she gets tired. we all do. (she could run circles around me, though. She's extremely fit and works out daily. I on the other hand, well, let's just say that I do not.) But she's got a really busy schedule and i dont care how fit you are, the work they do is tiring. Okay. To the yawning. Here's what mine does: on occassion, she will need to yawn and you can tell she's doing all she can not to. That's actually more distracting to me than if she would just yawn (I think so, anyway. she's never actually yawned. just tried not to!) I know she's just being considerate of my feelings and that's one reason i think she's so wonderful. I'm also her last appt on the days I see her so i expect she's going to be tired after a long day. I think she's so competent and good at her job, even at her tiredess, she still rocks. Anyway, finally one day I just came right out and told her "Dr (So-n-So,) if you need to yawn, just yawn! i won't think you're bored with me or our discussion. I'll just think you're tired!" She seemed slightly embarrassed by my remark and her response was something like "and you would have been absolutely right about that!" Which was the perfect response! Cuz then I felt good that she told me I was right about something. (I know.. pretty hard up for compliments! It doesn't take much to make me happy.) She might see that differently, though!
She still won't yawn though. I repeated my "just yawn already" line one more time when she was 'fighting one off!' and this time, she had no response, so I won't bring it up again. She's just being considerate, and I think maybe that's something they are trained to do anyway (or maybe it's just common courtesy! Maybe I need to check and see if I'M yawning when people are talking to me! I know I do sometimes, and I will almost always apologize for it, reassure the speaker that I am listening intently to their story and the yawning doesn't mean I'm not interested, because it doesn't. I'm just not getting enough oxygen to my brain!
Thanks everybody. I'll try not to write TOO much today! (blush) I took a 'snow day' from work today. Ahhhhh... feels so good. my dogs and cats aren't complaining, either. Blessings to you all!
- Sharon
Posted by antigua3 on January 29, 2009, at 10:23:44
In reply to Does anyone's therapist try to not yawn?, posted by sharon7 on January 29, 2009, at 10:14:02
I just mentioned this above. My pdoc tries to stifle his yawns and I, too, find that almost more annoying than him actually yawning. Distracts me quite a bit, as if I'm boring him (maybe I am!), but I tend to think it's a sign of disrespect toward me, when in fact it's just that he's plain old tired.
I don't think I've ever seen my T yawn or even fight one off!
have a good day,
antigua
Posted by Dinah on January 29, 2009, at 12:01:07
In reply to Does anyone's therapist try to not yawn?, posted by sharon7 on January 29, 2009, at 10:14:02
I don't notice that he tries not to yawn. He just yawns. I sometimes politely ask him if he'd like to stand up and walk around a bit. He sometimes agrees that that would be helpful. He nearly always apologizes and explains that it is because (insert plausible explanation here) and that it has nothing to do with me. Depending on what is going on at the time, I might accept his apology or I might admit that I realize I'm being distant or that I too am a bit bored.
Posted by raisinb on January 29, 2009, at 13:43:26
In reply to Does anyone's therapist try to not yawn?, posted by sharon7 on January 29, 2009, at 10:14:02
It sounds like she's being very considerate of your feelings and that you're doing a wonderful job not taking it personally. Congrats!
Posted by Looney Tunes on January 29, 2009, at 22:27:38
In reply to Re: Does anyone's therapist try to not yawn? » sharon7, posted by raisinb on January 29, 2009, at 13:43:26
Everyone else is so mature compared to me.
I used to get SO upset and think horrible things like T wants to get rid of me, T hates me, T thinks I am boring, etc etc. I would get upset and at the time either act-out or get silent. I could NOT understand that T was "just tired" and "it had nothing to do with me." I just could not get it.
Now, I do....but I still feel a twinge of "ouch" when my new T yawns.
But, my T never tried NOT to yawn. In fact, I think sometimes she did it on purpose so we could "work through it." LOL.
Either way, I say go ahead and bring it up.
T's are people and if you want her to yawn, tell her; if you don't but it bother you, tell her, etc.<YAWN>
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