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Posted by sunnydays on June 19, 2006, at 20:37:28
I'm so sad right now. How can my T be gone for three weeks?? I didn't even know until the end of the session. And it was a really difficult one, too. And I want the three weeks to be over now, because I'd miss him anyway after a session like that, but this is just too much. I'm sorry I don't respond to many people's posts here, I'm very shy and afraid that I'm not as articulate as the other people here. But right now my heart just aches at the thought of three weeks... He did say I could call, but I don't want to bother him while he's on vacation. Oh I miss him...
Posted by happyflower on June 19, 2006, at 21:15:22
In reply to T is away, posted by sunnydays on June 19, 2006, at 20:37:28
((((Sunnydays))))) We are here for you when you need us no matter how much you rely to others posts. Plus I think you are just as articulate as anyone around here is, so you don't have to be shy, we welcome you to post! The more the merrier is what I think. :-)
But anyways, I think A LOT of us can feel what you are going through. Vacations are tough, and especially long ones like that. I am surprised he didn't tell you until the last moment. That would have upset me too. But you will be fine, you can do it, just keep posting and let us know how you are doing. I know I would miss my T too, if I couldn't see him for 3 weeks. (((((Sunnydays)))))
Posted by sunnydays on June 19, 2006, at 21:34:17
In reply to Re: T is away, posted by happyflower on June 19, 2006, at 21:15:22
Hi,
Thank you. Your post brought tears to my eyes. I don't think he meant to wait until the end of the session - he was actually going to check and make sure that next week's session was scheduled, and then he sounded a little frustrated with himself (he kind of talks to himself sometimes when he schedules) and said he wouldn't be there. So I don't think he necessarily meant to wait until the end. It just feels like my heart has been torn open. I've actually been having dreams lately that he has his arm around me and is protecting me, and I've been feeling very attached (it's kind of an on and off thing for me). But I just miss him so much.
Posted by ElaineM on June 19, 2006, at 21:50:39
In reply to T is away, posted by sunnydays on June 19, 2006, at 20:37:28
Sunnydays: Finding out about his vacation the last session must've been pretty shocking. Do you think you would ever call him like he offered? I'm sure he wouldn't have said it if he wasn't prepared for it to be a possibility. I had a hard time with vacations with one of my old T's. I used to try and find ways to create mini time-markers, so instead of thinking, Three weeks until T, it would be smaller targets.
If not, then you'll at least have posting here. And I can understand your fear about posting. I'm always scared that my words will only ending up mocking my own feelings. I just keep saying over to myself that no one coming to a board like this would come to judge. I know it's still anxiety provoking though (I hover over the "confirm post" button forever myself)
El :)
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2006, at 22:56:14
In reply to T is away, posted by sunnydays on June 19, 2006, at 20:37:28
Eeek. My therapist does that too, and it drives me nuts.
I started asking him at the beginning of each session if he had anything he needed to tell me. He got a bit annoyed at first, but admitted that he couldn't assure me he'd remember to tell me things before the last couple of minutes of the session. And still sometimes he forgets.
I HATE not knowing till the last minute. It gives no time to work it out with them before it's upon us.
Posted by LadyBug on June 20, 2006, at 0:27:04
In reply to T is away, posted by sunnydays on June 19, 2006, at 20:37:28
This is one of the issues my T has had with me. She has waited to the last few min. to tell me she was going away. After many many hurt feelings and feeling like being abandonded, she now tries to tell me way in advance. So we can process it together. The last 2 times she left for a 3 day weekend. She made sure she didn't cancel our appointment that we have on Thursdays. I think she finally realizes how much it hurts me and tries to avoid missing our appointment.
I do think it helps to write in a journal about the sad feelings you feel and how you are missing him. If he didn't really want to have you call him, he wouldn't have offered it to you. Three weeks is a long time. WE are here for you and you can post all you'd like. There's plenty of us that understand how hard it is. We'll help you pass the time away. Too bad he didn't give you something to hold on to while he is gone. That has always helped me too. The helpful things take time to figure out but you will do it.
Hugs to you~
LadyBug
Posted by Daisym on June 20, 2006, at 1:01:30
In reply to T is away, posted by sunnydays on June 19, 2006, at 20:37:28
The last time my therapist went on vacation I wrote to him every day and gave it all to him when he came back. It was a great way to pass the time and still have him with me.
Three weeks is a long time. Is there any way you can take a mini-vacation yourself in there too? It might help.
Posted by sunnydays on June 20, 2006, at 9:27:28
In reply to Re: T is away » sunnydays, posted by Daisym on June 20, 2006, at 1:01:30
Thank you all for your replys. I can't really respond properly right now because I'm afraid that I'll start crying again. I woke up early this morning and was crying. It's just really hard. But I'm doing okay.
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