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Posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 17:11:44
She could use some support right now. Please don't let her think we have forgotten about her! I know she is probably going to kick my butt when she sees I did this, but she needs some support, please babble mail her !!!!!
Posted by rainbowbrite on November 18, 2005, at 17:33:49
In reply to Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings, posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 17:11:44
Hope you are ok
(((fairywings)))
miss seeing you.
Posted by Dinah on November 18, 2005, at 18:14:32
In reply to Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings, posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 17:11:44
Hope you're ok.
Posted by 10derHeart on November 18, 2005, at 18:32:38
In reply to ((((Fairy Wings)))), posted by Dinah on November 18, 2005, at 18:14:32
Posted by damos on November 18, 2005, at 18:34:31
In reply to Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings, posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 17:11:44
Posted by muffled on November 18, 2005, at 18:54:47
In reply to Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings, posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 17:11:44
> She could use some support right now. Please don't let her think we have forgotten about her! I know she is probably going to kick my butt when she sees I did this, but she needs some support, please babble mail her !!!!!
*Why would she be angry? We are here to help each other aren't we?
Muffled
Posted by muffled on November 18, 2005, at 18:57:13
In reply to Re: Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings » happyflower, posted by muffled on November 18, 2005, at 18:54:47
Whats happening Fairy? Come talk to us. You know you can say what you need. You have been kind to me. Please come and talk.((((fairy wings)))). Sorry if you hurting. :(
Muffled
Posted by Deneb on November 18, 2005, at 20:50:28
In reply to (((((((( Fairy Wings)))))))), posted by muffled on November 18, 2005, at 18:57:13
I hope you're OK Fairywings. You can talk to us.
Deneb
Posted by fairywings on November 20, 2005, at 13:17:55
In reply to Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings, posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 17:11:44
Thanks everyone, I reallly appreciate that you care, and no, of course I'm not mad at happyflower. I think you're so sweet to post for me.
My in-laws were in town, and my mil cornered me and spoke her peace with me, essentially nailing me to the wall. Then she went on her merry way, while I locked myself up in my room. I had to listen to her having a jolly old time.
Then our 20th anniv. came along later that week, and my dh didn't buy me a card or a gift, and he was supposed to plan an evening out and he didn't. We ended up running out for a quick bite, and that was nice, but I was so hurt and depressed.
Then in therapy my T asked me if I thought I was a difficult person, I don't know if he thinks I am or if he wanted to know if I think I am. I'll post more later, but right now I have to play taxi.
Thanks again for all your hugs,
fw
Posted by rainbowbrite on November 22, 2005, at 12:30:41
In reply to Re: Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings, posted by fairywings on November 20, 2005, at 13:17:55
> Thanks everyone, I reallly appreciate that you care, and no, of course I'm not mad at happyflower. I think you're so sweet to post for me.
>very sweet
> My in-laws were in town, and my mil cornered me and spoke her peace with me, essentially nailing me to the wall. Then she went on her merry way, while I locked myself up in my room. I had to listen to her having a jolly old time.
>:-(
> Then our 20th anniv. came along later that week, and my dh didn't buy me a card or a gift, and he was supposed to plan an evening out and he didn't. We ended up running out for a quick bite, and that was nice, but I was so hurt and depressed.
>Im sorry about your anniversary. I would be upset too. But maybe you could re-celebrate? When things have calmed down maybe you could make dinner reservations somewhere special and spend the evening out without stress.
> Then in therapy my T asked me if I thought I was a difficult person, I don't know if he thinks I am or if he wanted to know if I think I am. I'll post more later, but right now I have to play taxi.
>I think he was asking if *you* think you have a right to feel annoyed, my t has said this sort of thing to me and what he is trying to find out is whetehr "I" see my feelings as wrong or not justified. He is trying to validate me but it has come accross the otehr way to me so I had to clarify. I would ask him.
(((FW)))
Hope things are better
Posted by fairywings on November 23, 2005, at 20:30:38
In reply to Re: Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings » fairywings, posted by rainbowbrite on November 22, 2005, at 12:30:41
> Im sorry about your anniversary. I would be upset too. But maybe you could re-celebrate? When things have calmed down maybe you could make dinner reservations somewhere special and spend the evening out without stress.
Yes, I'm trying not to get hung up on what happened. My husband is so thoughtful and kind, and I have a tendency to hold a grudge. We are going to go out soon, so that can be our re-celebration. I bought myself some new colored pencils to soothe my pouty inner child.
> I think he was asking if *you* think you have a right to feel annoyed, my t has said this sort of thing to me and what he is trying to find out is whetehr "I" see my feelings as wrong or not justified. He is trying to validate me but it has come accross the otehr way to me so I had to clarify. I would ask him.
>Thanks rain, I never thought of it that way. I will be sure to check that out with him. He's really a sweet guy, I don't think he'd tell me I'm difficult, maybe I was projecting?! ; ) He had to cancel our appt. this week because he's sick. Hope his Thanksgiving isn't ruined.
Thanks for being so kind Rain. I really appreciate your perspective.
FW
Posted by Poet on November 25, 2005, at 8:45:14
In reply to Re: Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings, posted by fairywings on November 20, 2005, at 13:17:55
Belated cyber hugs (((((((FW))))))))
I think you should have locked your MIL in a closet and had a jolly time without her.
Post an update when you can. I don't think you are difficult. I am difficult. My T tells me that I am hard to work with.
Poet
Posted by fairywings on November 27, 2005, at 21:19:02
In reply to Re: Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings » fairywings, posted by Poet on November 25, 2005, at 8:45:14
> Belated cyber hugs (((((((FW))))))))
Thanks poet! ; ) I appreciate that.
>
> I think you should have locked your MIL in a closet and had a jolly time without her.LOL or just clobber her!
>
> Post an update when you can. I don't think you are difficult. I am difficult. My T tells me that I am hard to work with.Oh gosh, I hope mine doesn't say that. Why does yours say you're difficult to work with? I am a difficult person sometimes. I want my own way, I want control, and I want time to myself. Oh well......what can I say?!
fw
Posted by Poet on November 28, 2005, at 8:38:25
In reply to Re: Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings » Poet, posted by fairywings on November 27, 2005, at 21:19:02
Hi FW,
She told me that I am difficult because I am so stubborn. I cross my arms and legs tight and go into my self protection mode and then my T knows that I am not going to discuss whatever it is any further.
I keep asking her why she puts up with me. I think she likes the challenge.
Poet
Posted by happyflower on November 28, 2005, at 9:19:54
In reply to Re: Hey about some hugs for Fairy Wings » Poet, posted by fairywings on November 27, 2005, at 21:19:02
My T has also said in the beginning that I was a "challenge". I questioned everything about what he was up to, he had to stay on his toes with me. But he said but working with me gives him lots of rewards too. He sees I have healed and it was worth all the trouble I put him through and myself.
He said some people come to therapy and don't challenge him at all, or challenge themeselves. Well they are not getting better, they are stuck. :) Being difficult is good, I think, at least our T's don't get board! LOL
Posted by fairywings on November 28, 2005, at 13:21:18
In reply to Being Difficult » fairywings, posted by Poet on November 28, 2005, at 8:38:25
> Hi FW,
>
> She told me that I am difficult because I am so stubborn. I cross my arms and legs tight and go into my self protection mode and then my T knows that I am not going to discuss whatever it is any further.Sounds like you need a little foot stompin' to go along with that! ; )
>
> I keep asking her why she puts up with me. I think she likes the challenge.Maybe she likes the challenge, but I'm sure she likes you too!
fw
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