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Posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15
In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Pfinstegg on April 25, 2005, at 22:58:56
Hmmm... I'm still planning to coil around his legs like a boa constrictor at termination, so I figure thare will be a fair amount of physical contact as he peels me off. And more as the cops peel my fingers off the door jamb.
Posted by messadivoce on April 26, 2005, at 0:08:31
In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15
Posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 0:27:00
In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15
Ha! Oh I wish I had tried that. Really. What a good idea ;-)
Posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 4:46:18
In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15
Oh lordy, Dinah, that image always cracks me up. But then it certainly speaks to the way you value your therapy.
Note to self, when terminating with a long-term client, where protective boots so I don't break another toe! :)
gg
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:47:29
In reply to Re:handshakes » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 4:46:18
It's actually my more self protective plan.
How's that toe, gg? Was it the big toe? Surprising how much work that toe gets. Even my mother is slowed down without it. And the big question, did any of your clients not notice? I always read about that phenomenon.
Posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21
In reply to Y'all think I'm not serious :), posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:47:29
It's the little toe, and so they only noticed if I limped or took my shoes off. And I think I re-injured it today. :(
gg
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 10:43:49
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21
Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21
Ouch. I have heard a broken little toe can be really painful.
These are what you want. The ultimate in toe protection (and in a very cool colour). They come in black too incase you are feeling more conservative.
http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/cr-fh1925z-5400.html
I like these ones personally:
http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/b-fh1919z-5400.html
But with a slightly chunkier sole.
And if you are feeling daring these are worth a look ;-)
http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/b-sm9663z.html
But you have to be notified about half an hour before you go out so you have time to do the laces up. And those last ones aren’t steel capped so the toe protection isn’t as good…
Posted by fallsfall on April 27, 2005, at 10:26:07
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08
Men wear these??
Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 18:11:21
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » alexandra_k, posted by fallsfall on April 27, 2005, at 10:26:07
Probably not the last pair ;-)
The number signifies the number of eyelets on a shoe / boot. So the standard shoes have 3 and the ankle boots have 8 and the boots I liked have 10 (though I'll admit I only wear them with trousers) and the highest ones were... was it 20 or something like that?
I had a friend (a very male friend) at high school who was scottish. He would wear 14 ups with a kilt. That looked pretty cool. But he did need a little time to get his shoes on ;-)
I've had maybe 3 or 4 pairs of them now... They have lasted me around 4 or 5 years - and thats of wearing them pretty much daily. They weld the leather onto the sole so the sole will never come apart from the upper. Basically the sole wears through eventually and then they are stuffed you can get them resoled - but they never look the same :-(
They also mold to the shape of your feet (underneath). The boots are pretty uncomfortable to start with - you have to wear them in (best get a supply of band-aids to PREVENT the blisters). But once they have worn in and molded to the shape of your feet a bit they are really very very comfortable.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 22:17:46
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08
Though I probably shouldn't wear leather...
:-(
Posted by gardenergirl on April 28, 2005, at 6:22:48
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » fallsfall, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 18:11:21
Thanks alexandra. I bet those would look lovely with my floral skirts. :)
gg
Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on April 28, 2005, at 6:22:48
Just changing the subject line. :)
I remember what it meant.
Posted by gardenergirl on April 29, 2005, at 1:40:55
In reply to Toe protection, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07
Posted by alexandra_k on May 1, 2005, at 1:27:18
In reply to Toe protection, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07
I tried finding floral ones. And yellow ones. And pink ones (and even yellow AND pink ones). I know you used to be able to get 'em.
Couldn't find them in docs. But found some yellow boots Dinah
http://www.steel-boots.com/shop/10-eyelet-boots/10eyefyellow.html
:-)
They also come in shoes and 6, 8, 10, and 15 (?) high...
You used to be able to get docs with the union jack on them :-)
Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 12:10:04
In reply to Toe protection, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07
He made it clear today he's forgotten other things too, but those aren't important because I can tell him again.
I can't believe it. I told him twice because he forgot once. And still he's forgotten that if he ever terminates me he needs to have me committed. He said that on the chance that he ever terminated me, he'd do it slowly over five or six weeks. He FORGOT. And what's the use of telling him again? he'll just forget again.
I feel like bringing a big red marker next time and telling him to write it on my file because it's important. But then, maybe I shouldn't bother. The whole point in telling him was because I promised to let him help me. But I told him my plan and he FORGOT.
Posted by Susan47 on May 2, 2005, at 13:08:17
In reply to He's FORGOTTEN, posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 12:10:04
But, isn't it a good thing that he forgot, I mean, doesn't that mean he sees you as able to handle more, emotionally, because you're getting stronger?
Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 13:49:22
In reply to Re: He's FORGOTTEN » Dinah, posted by Susan47 on May 2, 2005, at 13:08:17
So if he doesn't remember what I did the courtesy of telling him, it could have life or death consequences.
Oh well, you can't make someone remember.
But you think they *would*.
Posted by Susan47 on May 2, 2005, at 15:20:49
In reply to But my plan hasn't changed » Susan47, posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 13:49:22
Well, the only way I can see out of this one, if I'm understanding it correctly, is for you to misbehave. You know, don't seem so rational.
Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 16:30:34
In reply to Re: But my plan hasn't changed, posted by Susan47 on May 2, 2005, at 15:20:49
Told him to get a red pen and write it on my folder to have me committed when terminating me. That I've told him twice before, he's forgotten twice before, and that it's too darn important for him to keep forgetting.
He says he did remember, he just doesn't mention it.
I'm not sure whether to believe him or not. I've always thought he never actually tells a blatant lie, yet saying that makes what he said in session make no sense whatsoever.
Oh well, I've done all that I can do.
Posted by annierose on May 2, 2005, at 21:03:43
In reply to I called him once I was fully rational, posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 16:30:34
5 or 6 weeks ... that's no time at all.
If my t ever has to terminate me, I hope we get at a year to sort through everything, but I'll still fall apart.
Posted by gardenergirl on May 3, 2005, at 0:01:14
In reply to Re: I called him once I was fully rational, posted by annierose on May 2, 2005, at 21:03:43
Actually, what I was taught in school is that for long term therapy, termination SHOULD take up to a year. You can't wrap up such an important relationship in a shortened period of time, if you are doing a planned termination. I think it needs almost equal weight with all the other important main issues you bring to therapy. And the literature seems to agree with me, but that's from a psychodynamic standpoint. And I suppose it is also the case in other therapies when the relationship is the key aspect of it.
I think some models even advocate for setting a termination date right from the beginning. Some say stick to it no matter what, and others say it can be flexible, but the point they make is that termination should be brought up from day one, as it's so important.
(I'm picturing my supervisor getting an ulcer if he read this from me.)
gg
Posted by Susan47 on May 3, 2005, at 10:16:28
In reply to I called him once I was fully rational, posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 16:30:34
They don't like to do what we tell them to do, just because we told them to do it. They have minds of their own, and yeah, they lie. But you know Dinah, I'm sure he has good reasons for what he's saying and doing, I believe he does.
Posted by Dinah on May 3, 2005, at 13:10:59
In reply to Re: I called him once I was fully rational » Dinah, posted by Susan47 on May 3, 2005, at 10:16:28
My plan is to kill myself, and I really don't think it's very professional of him to forget that.
I didn't tell him that directly of course, because moving that thought from something I thought to something I told him would move it into something manipulative and that I won't do.
But I told him enough that he understood it was important to arrange protection for me.
I'm not trying to tell him what to do. My more rational self is trying to save my life. My less rational side is happy he forgets.
Posted by Susan47 on May 3, 2005, at 15:39:38
In reply to Well, the thing is, posted by Dinah on May 3, 2005, at 13:10:59
Maybe if you bring these posts in or something, would that help him take you the way you need him to? You're too good at fooling him, obviously.
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