![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 25 of 33. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
Do people ignore certain posters? I am making an observation from my experience here and in reading other posters' threads. I see a trend that I am curious about and it is inspiring me to write a paper on it, since I have no topic yet (internet realtionships). I am personally not that bothered although I must be on some level since I already KNOW which posters tend to avoid me. I supose you can't just ignore that but Im curious if this is something that other people have observed with their experiences here. This really may lead to a decent paper :).
One last thought: There are people on these boards who go out of their way to make certain people are not left hanging and then there are people who just don't really acknowledge certain others, is it a personality thing that carries aout into real life or is this a new personality trend developed on this or other sites? And who is ignored? Why do certain posters get labelled as an ignoree? Is it their illness, personality???
BTW- this is just my observation and I am not saying this is an accurate observation.
All thoughts are appretiated.
very curious rain
Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 14:16:48
In reply to Who is ignored?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
I think it is a mistake to think certain people are ignored. I don't consider myself a person who is ignored on this board, yet some of my posts fall as flat as an unknotted balloon.
Does it make any sense at all that people would respond to those posts where they think they can contribute something useful? And tend not to respond when they can't think of anything to say?
Yes, there are people, very kind people, who try not to leave any post unanswered. I think that says more about the poster than the postee. (Thanks Mair, for all those years ago.)
Posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 14:23:24
In reply to Who is ignored?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
There isn't anyone here who I consciously ignore...
I do try to make sure people aren't left hanging...
But sometimes I am too wrapped up in myself or my own head / issues to do that.
I guess it depends on peoples needs. Some people may have a group of posters who they consider their friends and they may be happy enough giving and receiving support just with those people. Not that they consciously 'ignore' other posters. But some people have a limited amount of time that they can spend on the boards.
Other people may be looking for new contacts and so may reach out more to new posters.
I dunno. Cool topic :-)
Posted by messadivoce on February 7, 2005, at 15:11:49
In reply to Who is ignored?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
That's a really interesting question. I personally have never felt ignored here. I know that I only respond to people's threads if I have something good to say. I don't want to say anything stupid or not thought out. And I try to provide support whenever possible. As of late I've been in kind of a "down" mood, and I'm out of things to say (my problem, not anyone else's) so that's why I'm lurking more than posting.
I think people with similar issues tend to post to each other more--I know I've made closer connections with some than others. And the internet is so tricky b/c when you're speaking to people fact-to-face, you can provide support just with your presence or an expression, and that's not possible online. You don't know someone is listening unless they post back. But an advantage of Babble is that it makes it easier to discuss sensitive topics and not have the pressure of a face-to-face interaction. I think Babble is a good mix of personal connection and anoninimity.
Posted by tryingtobewise on February 7, 2005, at 17:09:18
In reply to Who is ignored?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
I have felt somewhat ignored here. I chalk it up to 2 things...
First, I don't post all that frequently, so I'm relatively "unknown".
Second, When I do post, it is as a response to someone else's post. I haven't initiated any posts & so "my story" isn't really out there. Maybe someday it will be.
Kim
Posted by Annierose on February 7, 2005, at 17:25:31
In reply to Re: Who is ignored?, posted by tryingtobewise on February 7, 2005, at 17:09:18
I agree with everyone above. I tend to respond to posts if I in someway identify with the subject or situation they are going through ... or I feel I can offer another point of view. Because I have young children at home, my time is very limited, so some evenings, I just read to "catch up". Or I don't post a response, because so many posters have already said what I would say. I don't pick and choose what to read on this board, I pretty much read it all, but only respond to 1 or 2. And if I know the posters "story" I tend to replied because I have a bigger sense of who they are.
Posted by bent on February 7, 2005, at 18:31:31
In reply to Re: Who is ignored?, posted by Annierose on February 7, 2005, at 17:25:31
This is an interesting topic that I have thought about before. Honestly I have indirectly felt ignored once or twice before but really i dont post that much, i do more lurking around. So I feel like most people dont really know me and I think that is important in some responses. I have never been offended or anything when I didnt recieve many responses, but just thought i should make a better effort to respond to others. In my limited time here it seems I respond only to things i really feel i can relate to, and I post only when I am pretty desperate. In all, I love this board because I learn so much and feel much less alone with my problems. Good topic!
Posted by bent on February 7, 2005, at 18:40:14
In reply to Re: Who is ignored? » Annierose, posted by bent on February 7, 2005, at 18:31:31
Posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:46:39
In reply to Re: Who is ignored? » Annierose, posted by bent on February 7, 2005, at 18:31:31
I don't have much more to add. I feel the same as others who read a lot and post when they feel they have something to add.
Some days, even if I would normally respond, I just feel mentally dull or too wiped out to type. I feel a bit guilty, then.
And I can't say I've actually felt ignored, but I have had posts that just sort of either killed a thread or just kind of got lost in the shuffle. It always stings a bit, but I try not to personalize it.
Good topic,
gg
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 23:29:00
In reply to Re: Who is ignored?, posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:46:39
OK so maybe I over analized and maybe Ignored was the wrong word. I am not feeling ignored or anything in particular and I hope I didn't throw anyone off with the idea....But I have been sortof curious I guess after Fallens post on disorders clicking and stuff.
Ive been straining my brain trying to tthink of a topic and Ive been scanning these boards and noticed some trends. But I guess In reality all that you guys said makes sense; time, substance etc. My theory may be wrong that certain illnesses don't click well...I dunno? i need to think harder on this topic I guess lol. BUt it sounded COOL.
Thanks for the replys!!ANyone other ideas are welcome :)
Posted by alexandra_k on February 8, 2005, at 3:46:56
In reply to To Everyone, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 23:29:00
Aaaah but who's to say that we aren't just offering rationalisations? That we aren't conscious that this is what we are 'really' up to??? Sounds to me like some serious research is needed... Still sounds like a cool topic to me :-)
Posted by cubic_me on February 8, 2005, at 10:46:39
In reply to Re: To Everyone » rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on February 8, 2005, at 3:46:56
I'm the same as the others in that I only tend to post when I relate to something or someone, but I read based on the subject line rather than who is posting. There are probably some interesting posts that I miss because I wasn't drawn in by the subject line, but I don't have time to read every post.
I've never felt particularly ignored, and to some extent I don't expect to get many responses to my posts because I don't post all that often.
Posted by ghost on February 8, 2005, at 20:35:22
In reply to Who is ignored?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
i dont ignore people, but sometimes i just scan for subject lines, because i'm not feeling up to reading all the posts. "it's not you, it's me." ;)
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 10:38:08
In reply to Re: To Everyone » rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on February 8, 2005, at 3:46:56
>Aaaah but who's to say that we aren't just offering rationalisations? That we aren't conscious that this is what we are 'really' up to??? Sounds to me like some serious research is needed... Still sounds like a cool topic to me :-)
See that was my thought exactly! Of course we don't have time to answer everyones posts , but do we make more effort to particular types of posters??...hmmmm.... lots more research!Thanks, I think it is a cool topic too! :-)
Posted by sunny10 on February 9, 2005, at 12:09:14
In reply to Re: To Everyone » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 10:38:08
an important distinction, I think.
Some topics just push all of my buttons and I don't react well, emotionally, so my posts come out wrong. My mind is so twisted up that I can't type out my answer (doesn't help that I think conceptually, rather than linearly;it is dyslexia-like in that I cannot make myself understood)Then I feel horrible because "no one understands me, boo hoo, me"...
It took me a long time to figure out when NOT to post just to save my own feelings (not to mention everyone else's!)...
Posted by Shortelise on February 9, 2005, at 12:53:46
In reply to Who is ignored?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
I don't ignore posts, I don't always read them all, I just read some, not depending on who writes them but depending on ... something ... I don't know what.
But to think I haven't read a post because I don't respond would be incorrect. I don't have a response to everything I read.
ShortE
Posted by Susan47 on February 9, 2005, at 13:17:23
In reply to no one » rainbowbrite, posted by Shortelise on February 9, 2005, at 12:53:46
That's also true for me, it's usually a lack of anything to say. And sometimes even when I think I've said something, I've failed. So then, fortunately for everyone, I actually think first. That actually happens more than it used to. Even when I'm a bit manic. :)
Posted by pinkeye on February 9, 2005, at 18:55:02
In reply to Re: To Everyone » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 10:38:08
I think it is a fair amount of mix of everything for me - if I know the poster, whether this partular subject line seems interesting, whether I got anything worthwhile to say and also stress at work, time I got to spend, if I can relate to the issue myself. etc. I don't read everything. In fact I read only a few - since I got no time and browse it at work in between my daily work. I agree I might be unconsciously drawn to certain type of posters - we all do, but that is very minimal compared to the drawing in power of the subject at discussion.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 19:59:57
In reply to Re: To Everyone » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 10:38:08
hmmm, so I may ditch my topic. thanks for all the responses! I also choose by the subject line or the amount of repys a post has, if I can answer somthing then Ill try. I was trying to go deep into something but it now seems way off lol. I searched on it and found that some posters have in the past felt left out so at least I know I wasn't imagining things lol. But I still think it was an interesting idea...back to the drawing board....
Posted by alexandra_k on February 9, 2005, at 20:52:48
In reply to Re: To Everyone, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 19:59:57
See now if you knew all our diagnoses / personality types or however you wanted to define 'different kinds' of people...
... Then it would be interesting to look at whether people direct more of their posts to people in the same type or a particular kind of different type...
(That bit you could get by looking at all of a posters posts)
But you don't have all of our diagnoses or personality types (unless you wanted to make up your own way of classifying us into different types)... So that would be hard to do...
Not that that would be terribly easy anyway...
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 22:35:26
In reply to Re: To Everyone » rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on February 9, 2005, at 20:52:48
lol yeah I obviously hadn't thought about it eonough.... that part about knowing diagnoses wasn't thought out. Something I read triggered the idea, oh well. :-) I think I will do my essay on interent addiction lol
Posted by alexandra_k on February 10, 2005, at 4:16:06
In reply to new idea » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 22:35:26
You could ask Dr B for a 'watch yourself' personality inventory (or once off assessment) to be completed and saved on the server...
It could be done...
But it might be a thesis...:-)
I don't think you would be allowed anyways...
Sorry.
You just got me thinking..
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 19:45:13
In reply to Re: new idea » rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on February 10, 2005, at 4:16:06
Heres a new topic.... can One be civil and still be sensitive to many subject matters.....and is the who is sensitive being sensitive and civil to the one who is not triggered by the same subject matter?
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:00:09
In reply to Newer idea » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 19:45:13
CAN ONE BE CIVIL AND STILL BE SENSITIVE TO MANY SUBJECT MATTERS.......IS THE ONE WHO IS SENSITIVE BEING SENSITIVE AND CIVIL TO THE ONE WHO IS NOT TRIGGERED BY THE SAME SUBJECT MATTER?
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:23:23
In reply to oops typo and..... meant for all!, posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:00:09
Intellectualization on the net as it applies to posters on psych boards, Ive recently been to 5 psych boards and seen this.
Go forward in thread:
Psycho-Babble Psychology | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.