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Posted by cubic_me on October 10, 2004, at 18:04:17
I've got 2 sessions left with my T (who I've seen for 2 years). I'm going into group therapy with another T and I won't be able to have individual alongside it.
To be honest I'm scared to death, not just of ending with my T, but of having to share things with a whole bunch of new people.
I've only really just started to open up with my T, so it seems a shame to stop now, but I don't have much choice if I want to move on.
What happens when you loose the one person you can really talk to? It feels like when my best friend killed herself all over again.
Posted by daisym on October 10, 2004, at 20:25:06
In reply to 2 sessions left with T, posted by cubic_me on October 10, 2004, at 18:04:17
I'm really sorry cubic. I can't imagine how tough this must be. Maybe the group won't be as hard as you think. Just take it slow. Look at it as having several people to support you, instead of just one.
I'm glad you are opening up to her. It should help you tell her how you really feel and get closure.
Best of luck. I'd like to hear how the group is going. Can you go back if it doesn't work out?
Posted by mandinka on October 10, 2004, at 23:05:04
In reply to 2 sessions left with T, posted by cubic_me on October 10, 2004, at 18:04:17
Maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to make sure your therapist will leave an open door for you. If things change you'd be sure you could return to her.
I hope you'll quickly find your place in this new situation. I feel sorry for your loss. I'm going through something similar lately, so I can put myself in your emotional shoes...
Posted by cubic_me on October 11, 2004, at 5:17:34
In reply to Re: 2 sessions left with T, posted by mandinka on October 10, 2004, at 23:05:04
Thankyou so much for your support, I just don't really know where I am with this at the moment.
My T said that it would be possible to go back to her if the group doesn't work out, but I really don't want to have to. I hate having to rely on therapy, and I felt so ready to move forward a little bit by going into group. My mind was focused on it and I felt ready, and now I'm all over the place again and feel like curling up in a corner with a blanket over my head.
I know when I go into group I'll just be the bubbly, together self I always put on, because I want people to like me before I say anything about what I'm feeling. But will I be able to stay together within myself that long?
Posted by mandinka on October 11, 2004, at 18:24:03
In reply to Re: 2 sessions left with T, posted by cubic_me on October 11, 2004, at 5:17:34
It's not at all surprising that you have these reactions. It's a stressful situation! We usually revert to our more "dysfunctional" selves under pressure. If you are joining the group because you really felt ready to move on, then I suspect you should be able to get over the "panic stage" soon. Keeping up your guard isn't a bad idea until you know you feel safe in this group. It wouldn't be wise to show your real, vulnerable face to people you know nothing about, so don't feel bad about wearing that bubbly mask. It's a reasonable thing to do!
On the other hand - are you sure that you leaving your therapist isn't an act-out? Maybe you were getting close to some important stuff and joining a group is a way your unconscious chose to avoid facing it? Does your therapist agree that it's time for you to move on? I'm probably way off-base here but just in case...
I hope everything works out okay.
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