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Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 10, 2005, at 19:13:58
In reply to Re: Where's that? » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on May 10, 2005, at 18:51:41
I sounded pretty harsh there, sorry. I've always associated being told to "be nice" or "Act nice" with a performance adults demand of children, especially little girls, that's my problem, and I reacted to that.
Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2005, at 20:09:43
In reply to Re: Where's that? » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on May 10, 2005, at 18:51:41
I peered over all the boards, but must have missed that one.
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 10, 2005, at 21:11:51
In reply to Thank you » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on May 10, 2005, at 20:09:43
Posted by sunny10 on May 11, 2005, at 10:12:58
In reply to My post was made well before he was blocked.. (nm), posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 10, 2005, at 21:11:51
I inferred there because my feelings were engaged, too.
I'm sorry.
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 11, 2005, at 14:23:47
In reply to Re: you're absolutely right, Gabbi-x-2, posted by sunny10 on May 11, 2005, at 10:12:58
I left that subject heading there because I like it so much I'd like to see it more often in the world. ; )
I apologize for being so cranky and sanctimonious with you. I know I'm blunt, but unfairness and gratuitous nastiness aren't generally part of my character, unless it seems, someone accuses me of not being fair, in which case I've discovered, I become a real b*tch. :)
Posted by chemist on May 11, 2005, at 19:01:04
In reply to you're absolutely right, Gabbi-x-2 » sunny10, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 11, 2005, at 14:23:47
hello all, geetings and nothing more contained herein....yours, chemist
Posted by sunny10 on May 12, 2005, at 9:40:59
In reply to you're absolutely right, Gabbi-x-2 » sunny10, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 11, 2005, at 14:23:47
and I did accuse you of that. Not intentionally, but by trying to protect medhed (and no, I guess I shouldn't have done that either because he doesn't want me to care), I hurt YOU.
And I'm very sorry.... I guess I get b*tchy, too when I've been put down and my prickliness came out in the way I worded my post- it came our accusatorily and I hadn't meant it that way...
I just thought that probably people didn't know he was blocked.... I worded it very wrong and you have my heartful apologies...I HATE it when people do to me what I did to you.....
{I am grovelling by keeping the subject heading the same just for you ;) }
Posted by Dr. Bob on May 13, 2005, at 3:30:10
In reply to Sorry for being Terse-Sunny, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 10, 2005, at 19:13:58
> I've always associated being told to "be nice" or "Act nice" with a performance adults demand of children
Hmm, maybe that's one reason posters sometimes have a strong reaction to being asked to be civil?
Bob
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 13, 2005, at 7:44:27
In reply to Re: performance adults demand of children, posted by Dr. Bob on May 13, 2005, at 3:30:10
> > I've always associated being told to "be nice" or "Act nice" with a performance adults demand of children
>
> Hmm, maybe that's one reason posters sometimes have a strong reaction to being asked to be civil?
>
> Bob
I think that's probably likely, but for me it's the word "nice" that actually causes the strong reaction, being asked to be civil doesn't make me feel as patronized.
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 13, 2005, at 11:05:20
In reply to Re: performance adults demand of children, posted by Dr. Bob on May 13, 2005, at 3:30:10
> Hmm, maybe that's one reason posters sometimes have a strong reaction to being asked to be civil?
>
> BobWhat I was trying to say was.. when I'm reminded to be civil, by you or another poster I'm being reminded of the rules, which are already laid out, and I'm fine with that, I'm also fine with a suggestion as to why something might be considered hurtful. However, If someone tells me to be "nice" I feel as if
1 I'm being told to "play pretty"
2. They want me to act within their definition of what is acceptable, when, my opinion is as valid
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 13, 2005, at 11:07:26
In reply to you're absolutely right, Gabbi-x-2 » sunny10, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 11, 2005, at 14:23:47
Aw geez, I guess we both goofed. So it's back to being perfect today eh? What a grind ;)
Thanks
Posted by Dinah on May 13, 2005, at 11:26:10
In reply to Re: performance adults demand of children » Dr. Bob, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 13, 2005, at 11:05:20
Please Follow Civility Guidelines, or even Please Follow Board Guidelines would be preferable to Please Be Civil. Please Be Civil implies that someone has done something objectively, globally, wrong, while Please Follow Board Guidelines merely points out a lack of adherence of behavior to the rules we agreed to obey.
(Well, sometimes I'd like to see some way stronger wording than Please Be Civil. But I digress.)
On the other hand, PBC is well esconced in board culture and PFBG wouldn't have the same ring. :)
Posted by sunny10 on May 13, 2005, at 11:55:41
In reply to That's why I actually think, posted by Dinah on May 13, 2005, at 11:26:10
never....
I don't feel good inside when I hurt others, but to stop being human???
Don't think I'm up to the task.... ;-)
(why does everyone else's "wink face" look better than mine??? Mine looks funny... what am I doing wrong?? Hmmm.. I hit submit, looked at it on Dr. Bob's board and it looks fine... wonder why it looks funny on MY computer???)
Posted by sunny10 on May 13, 2005, at 11:58:18
In reply to That's why I actually think, posted by Dinah on May 13, 2005, at 11:26:10
how 'bout we just say
"quit pickin' on your little brother/sister!"
hahahahaha.... yes, of COURSE I'm kidding... although I was the youngest... Hmmmmm.....Maybe that's why I always try to protect everyone else... nobody ever protected ME...sigh... why is it there's always new fodder for T????
Posted by Dinah on May 13, 2005, at 12:41:24
In reply to Re: That's why I actually think » Dinah, posted by sunny10 on May 13, 2005, at 11:58:18
Probably because I was the oldest. My refrain was "But didn't you see what he did to meeeee?"
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 13, 2005, at 12:45:06
In reply to Re: That's why I actually think » Dinah, posted by sunny10 on May 13, 2005, at 11:58:18
> how 'bout we just say
> "quit pickin' on your little brother/sister!"
>
>
> hahahahaha.... yes, of COURSE I'm kidding... although I was the youngest... Hmmmmm.....Giggle
Oh and BTW, that entire rant to Bob was not inspired by your one single "Please be nice" believe it or not *gasp*! I've been asked (told) that before. It's definitely a multiple baggage word with me.
> Maybe that's why I always try to protect everyone else... nobody ever protected ME...sigh... why is it there's always new fodder for T????
Posted by alexandra_k on May 13, 2005, at 21:12:56
In reply to That's why I actually think, posted by Dinah on May 13, 2005, at 11:26:10
> Please Follow Civility Guidelines, or even Please Follow Board Guidelines would be preferable to Please Be Civil.
I agree.
Posted by Lou Pilder on May 13, 2005, at 21:42:14
In reply to That's why I actually think, posted by Dinah on May 13, 2005, at 11:26:10
Dinah,
You wrote something like,[...please follow the board guidlines...] would be better than,[...please be civil...].
Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,
Lou
Posted by Phillipa on May 13, 2005, at 21:51:53
In reply to Lou's response to Dinah's post-semsfmilar » Dinah, posted by Lou Pilder on May 13, 2005, at 21:42:14
Sounds more human. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Lou Pilder on May 13, 2005, at 21:54:42
In reply to That's why I actually think, posted by Dinah on May 13, 2005, at 11:26:10
Dinah,
If it was,[..please abide by the guidlines for acceptability of the forum...] then we could have a PABGAF instead of PBC. But what did Billy Joel say?
Lou
Posted by Lou Pilder on May 13, 2005, at 22:01:29
In reply to Re: Lou's response to Dinah's post-semsfmilar, posted by Phillipa on May 13, 2005, at 21:51:53
Phillipa,
You wrote,[...sounds more humane...].
Hummmmmmmmmmmm,
Lou
Posted by Phillipa on May 13, 2005, at 22:10:46
In reply to Re: Lou's response to Dinah's post-semsfmilar, posted by Phillipa on May 13, 2005, at 21:51:53
Lou, Human, not humane. HmmmmmmmmmFondly, Phillipa
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 13, 2005, at 22:31:41
In reply to Re: That's why I actually think » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on May 13, 2005, at 21:12:56
> > Please Follow Civility Guidelines, or even Please Follow Board Guidelines would be preferable to Please Be Civil.
>
> I agree.I agree too. When I first posted here being told to be civil did bug me.. because the idea here of civility is in so many cases applicable only to babble. Then later it became "babble speak" for "Please follow the rules" so it didn't get to me. I had forgotten that it once did though.
I think "Please follow the Board Guidelines" would be a huge improvement actually.
Posted by Lou Pilder on May 13, 2005, at 22:41:28
In reply to Re: That's why I actually think » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 13, 2005, at 22:31:41
Gabbix-x-2,
You wrote,[...I think that {Please follow the board guidlines} would be a huge improvement actually...].
In your opinion, does the word "civil" connotate in any way an anachronism?
Lou
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 13, 2005, at 23:59:30
In reply to That's why I actually think » Gabbi-x-2, posted by Lou Pilder on May 13, 2005, at 22:41:28
> Gabbix-x-2,
> You wrote,[...I think that {Please follow the board guidlines} would be a huge improvement actually...].
> In your opinion, does the word "civil" connotate in any way an anachronism?
> Lou
>
>
Hi Lou!
I suppose it does, but that's not why the use of it here on the board, (As in Please Be Civil)
bothers me. I'm actually rather fond of many anachronisms.
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