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Posted by shrinking violet on August 20, 2005, at 13:54:21
Even though this sort of falls under the Psychology forum, I'm posting it here since it has to do with a book idea...
I've had a turbulent relationship with my ex-T, and the termination was rather messy as well. I feel like it's an open wound that will never heal, because the person who holds the power to help me heal will not provide any solutions. Too many times I've read on this board how crossed boundaries, blunders, and bad terminations have caused so much pain to so many clients. It angers me, somewhat too, that most T's have no idea how their actions and words can cause so much pain. I believe that most T's do mean well, but their ignorance or lack of vigilance in such matters causes much unnecessary pain and confusion for their clients.
I've been thinking of writing a book that is aimed toward sufferers at the hands of their T's, so that they know they are not alone and are not "crazy" for quesitoning and wondering and hurting. I also hope it will be used as a manual for clinicians, to prevent them from causing more harm. It seems the topic of terminations, and how they can deeply effect clients if done "wrong" isn't addressed enough when a T is trained. I hope this book will teach them.
Even though the book will consist of my personal story, and hopefully some input from cinicians as well, the bulk of the book will also consist of contributions from clients who have been hurt in a therapeutic situation. Whether it be from crossed boundaries, or a bad termination...whatever the form, the ending is the same: pain, confusion, emotional torture. Aliases will of course be used to protect the identities of all involved, and any clinicians will have a chance to respond and add their input, if desired.
This is just an off-the-cuff idea, so I was hoping for some feedback. One such book that helped me after I terminated with my T was "When Boundaries Betray Us" by Carter Heyward. This book speaks of her experience with her former T, and the pain she suffered and how she found healing. My book will be similar, but it will also include other stories as well, not just my own, and will also be geared toward professionals as a manual of sorts.
Again, this idea is just at the planning stages, and any input is appreciated (whether it's a good idea, if anyone would contribute, etc).
Just a thought.....
Peace to everyone,
SV
Posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 21, 2005, at 8:47:12
In reply to book idea for T's and clients, posted by shrinking violet on August 20, 2005, at 13:54:21
Great idea! I would definately contribute.
Posted by Susan47 on August 28, 2005, at 13:38:59
In reply to book idea for T's and clients, posted by shrinking violet on August 20, 2005, at 13:54:21
D'you know what? I kind of lay the blame on their training.. that CBT stuff works great for normal people .. but psychologists have to be able to know when to change tactics or send you to someone who can help you better. They need to be able to talk about boundaries way before it's necessary, to be able to approach that subject from the very first visit, to talk about transference and all it's connotations .. some do, some don't, some can't. They all should be the first.. a degree in psychology should be almost as difficult to attain as acquiring the post of Navy SEAL .. with just a fraction of the weeding out of undesirables through psychological testing throughout the course of study .. Hah! The importance of the mind and emotions apparently isn't as highly regarded by the APA as it is by the U.S. Gov't. Oh, dear.
Posted by Susan47 on August 28, 2005, at 13:59:04
In reply to Re: book idea for T's and clients » shrinking violet, posted by Susan47 on August 28, 2005, at 13:38:59
and an example of some twisted original thinking but it was fun for awhile. Although really, when it comes to spying for your country, nothing else seems to be taken as seriously, including the emotional health of the species. It's Sociopathic thinking that creates our society, did you know that? Winner on top.
Posted by Susan47 on August 28, 2005, at 14:04:06
In reply to Okay, sorry, that was an incomplete thought, posted by Susan47 on August 28, 2005, at 13:59:04
Only we don't call it sociopathic when it comes to entire cultures, we call it Capitalism, and we're actually proud of it, we actually excuse the concept of capitalism because we like the benefits it bestows.. and we're always on top, and we're behaving psychopathically, as a nation, although as people we're not that AT ALL. That's why we're all getting emotionally sicker and sicker.. our lives are, in truth, conflicting with our true selves.
I'm sounding more and more like some kind of religious convert.
I'm having some kind of Experience.
And I apologize for being so monopolizing.. this isn't my thread. And I'm sorry, I'm going away now.
Posted by Susan47 on August 28, 2005, at 14:06:33
In reply to book idea for T's and clients, posted by shrinking violet on August 20, 2005, at 13:54:21
Your idea is wonderful and one I thought about as well, but I don't have the brainpower or the willpower to do .. but I think you could, and I hope you do. I'll be the first in line to buy a few copies .. thanks for the book recommendation, one for my list of to-reads.
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