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Posted by Partlycloudy on July 14, 2014, at 19:07:05
It's small so far, or at this cycle. I think I like it. This one is other women in therapy offering peer to peer support with a therapist supervising. It is really helpful not to feel so alone.
Funny enough, I have no qualms about paying money for mutual support. Where would we find each other if not through groups like this?Of course, I wonder if I said to much or was a loudmouth. Funny behaviour for an anxious person, but in a safe environment, the mask drops. Would that I could do that to get the groceries...
Posted by Phil on July 14, 2014, at 20:03:47
In reply to Started at an additional support group tonight., posted by Partlycloudy on July 14, 2014, at 19:07:05
that's a good thing. groups, i mean. part of my apprehension is wondering if i'll talk to much and about the wrong things in the first place.
talk for ten minutes about bipolar in an acoa meeting or children of alcoholics in the dbsa meeting. i'm gradually getting crazy enough to
fit in any group.
Posted by baseball55 on July 14, 2014, at 20:06:53
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight. » Partlycloudy, posted by Phil on July 14, 2014, at 20:03:47
I go to AA, so it's free. There are meetings everywhere, all the time. I feel lucky that I have had drug and alcohol issues, since they allow me to go to AA.
Posted by Phil on July 14, 2014, at 20:24:55
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight., posted by baseball55 on July 14, 2014, at 20:06:53
I've told a lot of people that i've never really felt the presence of god in any church or anywhere else. but acoa's huddled together at the end of a meeting, he was right there. there's something about telling your story to, at first, strangers. but while you're talking you see everyone's head nodding...yes, i hear what you say. compassion, almost instant friends, it's unspoken trust.
My no fail method of watching who is ear to ear smiles coming in because they will be the most wrecked with pain and sorrow. the mask doesn't work. take it off.
Posted by Partlycloudy on July 14, 2014, at 20:47:02
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight. » baseball55, posted by Phil on July 14, 2014, at 20:24:55
AA or associated meeting never worked for me, as the subject was too ingrained in my upbringing and the life I had lived.
Support, wherever you can find it IRL, is invaluable. I spent half a day from worrying about this meeting and came off sounding like I came that organization that teaches public speaking? What's it called? (brain f*rt).
It is something, too, to hear another's problems, and not be expected to suggest solutions. That is quite liberating. Sometimes here, on Babble, I keep quiet because I don't feel I can say anything beyond "I know what you mean." And now I don't feel safe without having THAT statement being questioned.
In a lot of ways, thank goodness for IRL.
Posted by Phillipa on July 15, 2014, at 9:46:48
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight., posted by Partlycloudy on July 14, 2014, at 20:47:02
I have a feeling of my own not related to groups that a many are going back to IRL. Less time of internet support groups. Just my thought. Phillipa
Posted by 10derheart on July 15, 2014, at 12:36:45
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight., posted by Partlycloudy on July 14, 2014, at 20:47:02
Posted by PartlyCloudy on July 15, 2014, at 15:18:22
In reply to Toastmasters? (nm) » Partlycloudy, posted by 10derheart on July 15, 2014, at 12:36:45
That's the one!
Thanks.
Posted by PartlyCloudy on July 15, 2014, at 15:21:39
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight. » Partlycloudy, posted by Phillipa on July 15, 2014, at 9:46:48
> I have a feeling of my own not related to groups that a many are going back to IRL. Less time of internet support groups. Just my thought. Phillipa
I'm giving this my best shot, after some stuttering starts. I value internet support as much as face to face support. I think that's why I tend to get so very upset. I have had a hard time learning to stay away from upsetting discussions here, whereas IRL, you really can walk away.
Posted by Phillipa on July 15, 2014, at 21:32:07
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight. » Phillipa, posted by PartlyCloudy on July 15, 2014, at 15:21:39
Said with perfection. My philosophy in real life I do just walk away. Admit some on here I ignore same as others do. Referring to one in particular. Phillipa
Posted by baseball55 on July 16, 2014, at 19:33:48
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight. » Phillipa, posted by PartlyCloudy on July 15, 2014, at 15:21:39
whereas IRL, you really can walk away.
>
You can virtually walk away here too. I don't read certain posters, nor do I read replies to those posts. If a thread gets weird or upsetting, I stop reading it. The thing that bothers me most here is when people I really value leave or threaten to leave because of issues that they could easily avoid by just not reading the posts and being dragged into arguments.
Posted by Phillipa on July 16, 2014, at 22:05:46
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight. » PartlyCloudy, posted by baseball55 on July 16, 2014, at 19:33:48
One I just don't read. But for me IRL is easier to walk away from cause once gone I am gone where as say here. I will know that post is still there. Phillipa
Posted by Poet on July 17, 2014, at 9:10:07
In reply to Re: Started at an additional support group tonight. » PartlyCloudy, posted by baseball55 on July 16, 2014, at 19:33:48
> whereas IRL, you really can walk away.
> >
> You can virtually walk away here too. I don't read certain posters, nor do I read replies to those posts. If a thread gets weird or upsetting, I stop reading it. The thing that bothers me most here is when people I really value leave or threaten to leave because of issues that they could easily avoid by just not reading the posts and being dragged into arguments.
>You nailed it. I avoid the admin board for this very reason.
Poet
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