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Posted by Dinah on May 16, 2013, at 18:27:57
I'm missing Daddy. I'm missing my Joy.
I need to spend some time thinking about all I do have, and won't always have.
Posted by Twinleaf on May 16, 2013, at 21:26:02
In reply to My heart feels empty tonight, posted by Dinah on May 16, 2013, at 18:27:57
I understand ; I feel the same from time to time about the people ( and dogs) I have lost - my younger brother perhaps most of anyone. I don't know if this is helpful or not, but when it happens to me I feel it's a sign that I have more grieving to do, so I try to let that happen. But finding comfort in the loving relationships one does have is really important in getting through those hard times.
Maybe I am wrong, but I think of grief as hard, painful work that is just a part of life.
Posted by Twinleaf on May 16, 2013, at 21:32:30
In reply to Re: My heart feels empty tonight » Dinah, posted by Twinleaf on May 16, 2013, at 21:26:02
I guess what I was really trying to say is that it's healthier to do it than to try to avoid it.
Posted by Dinah on May 17, 2013, at 2:42:30
In reply to Re: My heart feels empty tonight. Dinah, posted by Twinleaf on May 16, 2013, at 21:32:30
I suppose it is. It does sometimes feel wicked to talk about my heart feeling empty when I have so much to be thankful for.
I'm under a bit of pressure right now, and I'm not sleeping terribly well. I miss having Daddy to talk to, and there's nothing more comforting than hugging a sheepdog.
Thanks Twinleaf.
Posted by Phillipa on May 17, 2013, at 9:41:56
In reply to Re: My heart feels empty tonight. Dinah, posted by Dinah on May 17, 2013, at 2:42:30
I still always miss my Brandy. Although have 2 others I don't have the unconditional love I did from this first pup of mine. Phillipa
Posted by Toph on May 17, 2013, at 16:52:49
In reply to My heart feels empty tonight, posted by Dinah on May 16, 2013, at 18:27:57
It's understandable to miss someone who was completely devoted to you. Gus is now twelve and I think had just finished showing when I met you years ago. He is my first dog and, of course, is going to live forever.
Posted by no rose garden on May 18, 2013, at 12:14:33
In reply to My heart feels empty tonight, posted by Dinah on May 16, 2013, at 18:27:57
Dinah, I hope you are feeling better today. I'm thinking about you. I like this winnie the pooh quote. "If there ever comes a day when we can't be together keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever"
Posted by Dinah on May 19, 2013, at 12:06:46
In reply to Re: My heart feels empty tonight. Dinah » Dinah, posted by Phillipa on May 17, 2013, at 9:41:56
I guess it's natural for relationships with dogs to differ, just as relationships with humans do. I have a dog now that is very similar to the one I miss so. He is faithful and loving and much of what she was, and I do love him dearly. But I suppose it's equivalent to the human love of being in love as opposed to loving. There have been a very few dogs in my life who I've been in love with, in the doggie equivalent of the phrase.
It's not just that they loved me, or listened to me. It is an ineffable "something".
They are the dogs who not only made me happy, but brought me joy. Not just from what they did, but from who they were. Maybe they all had some quality of joyousness themselves, and it touched a chord in me, filled some sort of lack in me.
Posted by Dinah on May 19, 2013, at 12:08:50
In reply to Re: My heart feels empty tonight » Dinah, posted by Toph on May 17, 2013, at 16:52:49
He will, I'm sure.
It's funny how time seems. I have two dogs now 10 or near to. Yet I think of them as my "young" dogs. A year is not a year is not a year.
Posted by Dinah on May 19, 2013, at 12:11:54
In reply to Re: My heart feels empty tonight, posted by no rose garden on May 18, 2013, at 12:14:33
I like that quote.
You know, there are some things that just belong with Daddy. Things I can't experience without getting the strong urge to turn and call him. Good times, like the Kentucky Derby and Preakness, and bad times too.
In those times, the mere passage of years seems to mean nothing.
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