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Posted by Glydin on June 13, 2006, at 19:38:29
Just general musings following my 46th birthday.
I have entered a new phase of life. I have had the career and I have a family. I am here to declare, I have NEVER had it all. I am a disgrace to the era I grew up in. (Smile) I was led to believe it was possible to be fulfilled and contented with all aspects of life as we were: “Women, hear us roar…”. For me, that was a fantasy. When I was deep in the career, the family suffered and when my family was high on my list, the career suffered. I think we were sold a bill of goods that was untrue.
This new phase of life is wonderful for me. I’m a domestic engineer. I love looking after my house and family. The career rat race is run and I’m glad to be out of it.
I guess the main reason I’m posting this is to maybe help thwart someone else from the suffocating guilt I experienced due to feeling like a failure at not being able to juggle all I was SUPPOSE to be able. Some women maybe can - most I know cannot and suffer because of the expectations.
I refuse to be regretful anymore.
Posted by TexasChic on June 13, 2006, at 20:01:53
In reply to Superwoman was/is a myth for me, posted by Glydin on June 13, 2006, at 19:38:29
My generation is considered slackers. We expend as little energy as possible, especially at work. I guess we're the rebellion against your generation.
-T
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 13, 2006, at 20:06:06
In reply to Superwoman was/is a myth for me, posted by Glydin on June 13, 2006, at 19:38:29
> I refuse to be regretful anymore.
Hear! Hear!
lar
Posted by sleepygirl on June 13, 2006, at 20:21:09
In reply to Superwoman was/is a myth for me, posted by Glydin on June 13, 2006, at 19:38:29
Here's to enjoying what we have to the fullest...
I'm glad you posted that. I was unfortunately lamenting what I do not have today when the other part of me said "just enjoy the moments as they come damn it! what is important to YOU is what matters!" - this part of me was not nearly as clear as I portray it, but you get the idea ;-)I like how you said that superwoman was your myth...
I was listening to a Jungian author's book "Warming the Stone Child" last week, and she asked us to consider what a favorite fairy tale or story was for you as a child (or maybe even later on ;-), and to consider maybe it was a story or myth for your life, and to think about it as it relates to patterns in your lifeREGRET SUCKS
Thanks,
sg
Posted by Phillipa on June 13, 2006, at 20:26:12
In reply to Re: Superwoman was/is a myth for me » Glydin, posted by sleepygirl on June 13, 2006, at 20:21:09
But I like working it defines who I am. Low esteem has been a problem all my life at work I get the reconition I deserve Love Phillipa
Posted by Glydin on June 14, 2006, at 9:02:21
In reply to Superwoman was/is a myth for me, posted by Glydin on June 13, 2006, at 19:38:29
Regretting - what a waste of synaptic activity and potential.
I saw a quote recently (I’m paraphrasing):
\\Successes and failures are both over-rated. Failures just give us more to talk about.\\
Human nature being what it is, I think we revert to the childhood idea of a “Do Over”. Coming to the conclusion that life happens in Sharpie marker and not #2 pencil has been a good thing for me to keep in mind and helps me keep it in perspective.
Dang, 46 is making me all deep and sh..... (smile)
Posted by Dinah on June 14, 2006, at 16:05:39
In reply to Re: Superwoman was/is a myth for me, posted by Phillipa on June 13, 2006, at 20:26:12
Perhaps the superwoman myth can be adjusted a bit by allowing a woman (and a man) to decide what's best for her/himself.
I've come to the realization that the right thing for me to do, right now, is to concentrate on family. I think I came to that realization a few years too late, but there's no point regretting what can't be changed.
But another choice may be the right thing for another woman or another family.
Now that's really Superwoman. Free to choose what's best for us, without guilt.
Posted by sleepygirl on June 14, 2006, at 21:24:17
In reply to More on that Regretfulness stuff, posted by Glydin on June 14, 2006, at 9:02:21
so this chickie I was listening to about your own personal myths suggests that you can write a new alternate ending for your myth....
I would like to offer one version:
"Superwoman, tired from her daily battles with the forces of evil, particularly her arch enemy Lex Luthor, returned one evening to her fortress of solitude and contemplated some of the decisions that she had made in her life. Was it really all that important that she wear that spandex outfit, and fill it out just so? She wondered what was missing from her long term relationship with superman, and where they might have lost one another along the way. She wondered if her epic battles with Lex Luthor were in reality battles with aspects of herself. She turned to her super-cat and asked him, "What's it all about Alfie?", although she knew that even super-cats couldn't speak, at least not English.
She at last decided that it was too much trouble to reverse time, and attempts to do so would ultimately end in more sorrow. It might be an exercise in futility, like attempting to climb Mt. Kryptonite. It would only sap her strength further. She thought to herself : I've come a long way..all the way from planet Krypton. I've leapt tall buildings in a single bound, I've traveled faster than a locomotive, but my greatest accomplishments are not the ones you might read about in the daily planet. This cape can be a lot of trouble in fact........I can't think a suitable ending, CRAP! Feel free to wrap this up if desired ;-)
Posted by Phillipa on June 14, 2006, at 21:53:24
In reply to Re: More on that Regretfulness stuff, posted by sleepygirl on June 14, 2006, at 21:24:17
And superman and superwoman had a child and called him superchild . He had to be taught to leap tall buildings and fly but he learned and they then had a super Daughter who could leap tall builders.
Someone elses turn now Love Phillipa
Posted by Glydin on June 14, 2006, at 22:27:33
In reply to Re: More on that Regretfulness stuff, posted by sleepygirl on June 14, 2006, at 21:24:17
> my greatest accomplishments are not the ones you might read about in the daily planet. This cape can be a lot of trouble in fact....
>she thought to herself, in a moment of completely brilliant insight - the likes of which she had never experienced: I'm thinking this cape maybe just be the whole d*mn problem. So, Superwoman donated her weighty cape and demanding spandex outfit, retreated to the comfortable coziness of her cave where she was reinvented herself as just a plain ‘ole SUPER woman for the remainder of her contented days.
Posted by sleepygirl on June 14, 2006, at 23:04:06
In reply to Re: More on that Regretfulness stuff » sleepygirl, posted by Glydin on June 14, 2006, at 22:27:33
a very nice ending :-)
Posted by Glydin on June 14, 2006, at 23:40:46
In reply to that was super ;-D (please pardon the pun) » Glydin, posted by sleepygirl on June 14, 2006, at 23:04:06
and Thank You for writing the story to put an ending.
Typing fingers to the reading eye and "please take it in" fates that it will play out that way.
It's looking pretty good right now, so I'm hopeful...
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