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Posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 19:00:01
Well, first of all, I found out I'm still in the running for the job I wanted so bad. I had given up due to lack of response, but the guy emailed me saying he got really swamped with work and will try to do 2nd interviews this week or the next. So keep your fingers crossed! I guess its okay to tell this much, its a place that makes video games. The job would be making the signs and in store flyers. That sounds SO FUN!!! AND, they seemed to have such a great attitude there! I was most impressed with that. Their philosophy is what I've always envisioned in the perfect company. And its a big, financially stable company too! I'm so tired of the rinky dink hole in the wall places I've been working at.
The second good news, I have an interview at a major department store's home office in Dallas! Its this HUGE place with its own workout center and cafeteria and stuff like that. Its like its own little city! I would LOVE to work at a place like that! Think of how many people I could meet! I know, I've sworn off making friends at work, but where's a better place to meet people? Of course I would be way way careful and super suspicious of everyone. I think the main thing is for me not to invest so much into these things. I think I've learned my lesson with that. And the job sounds really cool too, it involves photography and the layout of products as well as the graphics part. Basically, it would draw on more artistic talents than I've ever had the chance to use before. And a place like that has room for advancement, I've never had that before!!!
So I don't know which one to root for, but I'm so excited to actually have the opportunity for both. If I don't get either, I'll learn what my mistakes were and keep trying. That's definitely better than sitting around complaining about how bad my job sucks (which is all I hear everyday at work).
Wish me luck. I'm determined to get a better job.
-T
Posted by Deneb on June 1, 2006, at 19:10:41
In reply to Good news - about me, posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 19:00:01
Good luck!
It sounds like a great opportunity.
Deneb*
Posted by Kath on June 1, 2006, at 20:06:43
In reply to Good news - about me, posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 19:00:01
Wow - this sounds great - either one sounds just great!!!!
You sound very positive & upbeat.
I'm feeling 'way better than I have all day. It has to do with my son's situation (why am I not surprised?)
He actually came over to my house to fix up his resume (which is on my computer). He is sounding as positive as you are!
He's saying he really must get a job & laid out a plan for tomorrow to get out early, deliver resumes, etc. I had offered to help him if he wanted, in ways that worked for me, so we have a plan for tomorrow. I phone him early, since he tends to sleep through his alarms & I agreed to drive him around to prospective jobs. (He's going to have to solve the alarm clock situation if he gets a job! Either that or he can pay me for the 'wake-up service')
I am glad to help him out if it feels ok to me. It's nice to hear him being so positive & proactive. The good thing, is that I'm also feeling somewhat detached & a part of me is aware that his usual pattern would be NOT to do it! I'm being ever-so-cautiously optimistic.
Best of luck, T
Kath
> Well, first of all, I found out I'm still in the running for the job I wanted so bad. I had given up due to lack of response, but the guy emailed me saying he got really swamped with work and will try to do 2nd interviews this week or the next. So keep your fingers crossed! I guess its okay to tell this much, its a place that makes video games. The job would be making the signs and in store flyers. That sounds SO FUN!!! AND, they seemed to have such a great attitude there! I was most impressed with that. Their philosophy is what I've always envisioned in the perfect company. And its a big, financially stable company too! I'm so tired of the rinky dink hole in the wall places I've been working at.
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> The second good news, I have an interview at a major department store's home office in Dallas! Its this HUGE place with its own workout center and cafeteria and stuff like that. Its like its own little city! I would LOVE to work at a place like that! Think of how many people I could meet! I know, I've sworn off making friends at work, but where's a better place to meet people? Of course I would be way way careful and super suspicious of everyone. I think the main thing is for me not to invest so much into these things. I think I've learned my lesson with that. And the job sounds really cool too, it involves photography and the layout of products as well as the graphics part. Basically, it would draw on more artistic talents than I've ever had the chance to use before. And a place like that has room for advancement, I've never had that before!!!
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> So I don't know which one to root for, but I'm so excited to actually have the opportunity for both. If I don't get either, I'll learn what my mistakes were and keep trying. That's definitely better than sitting around complaining about how bad my job sucks (which is all I hear everyday at work).
>
> Wish me luck. I'm determined to get a better job.
>
> -T
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Posted by Dinah on June 1, 2006, at 20:17:04
In reply to Good news - about me, posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 19:00:01
I love a subject header like that. :)
Those jobs sound terrific, and your positive attitude should count a lot to the interviewers. Work consumes so much of one's day that loving what you do make life so much better.
Posted by Dinah on June 1, 2006, at 20:18:04
In reply to Re: Good news - about me » TexasChic, posted by Kath on June 1, 2006, at 20:06:43
Cautiously optimistic sounds like a nice spot to be in. :)
Posted by Kath on June 1, 2006, at 20:27:41
In reply to Re: Good news - about me » Kath, posted by Dinah on June 1, 2006, at 20:18:04
Yes Dinah - it feels like a good place for me. Usually if I have reason to be optimistic where he's concerned, it's frantically optimistic or desparately optimistic!!! LOL
K
> Cautiously optimistic sounds like a nice spot to be in. :)
Posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 21:12:08
In reply to Re: Good news - about me » Dinah, posted by Kath on June 1, 2006, at 20:27:41
I really didn't realize I came across so positive. I was just excited about the posibilities. I'm glad yall pointed that out to me though. Its so easy to identify when you're in a negative place, and equally easy to miss when you're in a positive place. I really should start keeping a journal, but I think my alternative is to write here instead.
Kath, I understand about your son, I have a similiar situation with my brother. Its so so hard for me to stand by and watch him screw up instead of helping him. But I know he'll never get anywhere unless he finds it in himself. There is no better feeling than when you realize YOU are in control of your life. My brother is still easily influenced by the wrong people, I just try to incourage him to trust his instincts and not be bullied into anything he thinks isn't right. He's just at such a wishy washy stage in his life. I've got to stand by and let him make his own mistakes. Its so hard though!!!
Right after I wrote the first post I checked my email and saw one of my very few IRL friends (who I'm absolutely terrible about staying in touch with) wrote for me to call her. We talked for I don't know how long. It reminded me that I could have friends if I would just actually try! We're going to try to get together tomorrow after work. I've known her for years and she's really cool and funny. She's also recently divorced (happily), which means a SINGLE friend to boot! Its time I took control of the social part of my life.
I've just got to remember the one most important thing I've learned in life...
...if you don't like how your life is going, CHANGE IT!!!!
-T
Posted by Phillipa on June 1, 2006, at 21:19:33
In reply to Re: Good news - about me » Dinah, posted by Kath on June 1, 2006, at 20:27:41
Kath my thoughts will be with you and your Son tomorrow. Maybe he woke up and wants to work. Love Phillipa
Posted by annierose on June 1, 2006, at 22:30:50
In reply to Thanks everyone!, posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 21:12:08
Posted by milly on June 2, 2006, at 6:36:24
In reply to Good news - about me, posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 19:00:01
Yeah Texas chic I was only thinking of you yesterday and about to ask about your job situation and then I read your post, I'm so excited for you they sound great opportunities and so proud of your amazing attitude if these ones don't 'come off'
Go girl go
milly
Posted by ClearSkies on June 2, 2006, at 6:40:07
In reply to Thanks everyone!, posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 21:12:08
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 2, 2006, at 9:12:37
In reply to Thanks everyone!, posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 21:12:08
> I really didn't realize I came across so positive. I was just excited about the posibilities. I'm glad yall pointed that out to me though. Its so easy to identify when you're in a negative place, and equally easy to miss when you're in a positive place.
You actually surprised me, TC. That you only noticed one flavour. There is no down, without up, though. You've been noticing all along. The question is, why have you denied part of your reality?
Denial isn't easy, at all. It just feels familiar. It's a habit.
Denial is more work than the alternative.
> I've just got to remember the one most important thing I've learned in life...
>
> ...if you don't like how your life is going, CHANGE IT!!!!
>
> -TYes, change is a verb. It requires action.
I am thrilled for you, as you have clearly been seeking out the best jobs for you. They would be nuts, not to hire you. If they don't, though, recognize that timing is something you can't control. Opportunity is wasted on the unprepared. Timing is everything.
Lar
Posted by Kath on June 2, 2006, at 17:48:22
In reply to Re: Good news - about me » Kath, posted by Phillipa on June 1, 2006, at 21:19:33
Nope!!!
when we spoke, he said he had a lot of things he had to take care of & that he'd call me later; if not, would I call him.
When I called him he said he & his girlfriend had to figure out what they were doing & later she told me that he was feeling sick & was sleeping. She said he'd been sick all week; has a bad cough & she's been trying to talk him into going to the 'walk-in' clinic.
Do you have 'walk-in' clinics?
Anyway - too bad; he was so motivated yesterday, but the good thing is that I'm not being affected by it!!! Yay for me!!!!!!!
The other good thing, is that if he can be like that ONE day, he can be like that another day also. Maybe his cough being bad today brought him down. I know I've been not feeling well since Saturday; tired, headachey at first, then sore throat & sorta tired. It's not terrible, but I've been feeling more low energy.
Kath
> Kath my thoughts will be with you and your Son tomorrow. Maybe he woke up and wants to work. Love Phillipa
Posted by Phillipa on June 2, 2006, at 18:57:15
In reply to Re: Good news - about me » Phillipa, posted by Kath on June 2, 2006, at 17:48:22
Kath we have walk-in clinics usually you have to wait hours to be seen. But don't let your Son pull the wool over your eyes. If he lived close by I go there and see if what they're telling you is true. Don't justify his behavior just because you don't feel well. Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on June 3, 2006, at 18:41:42
In reply to Re: Thanks everyone! » TexasChic, posted by Larry Hoover on June 2, 2006, at 9:12:37
With all these people rooting for me, how can I loose! I'm so excited about the department store home office job. I've applied to several big places in the past, but seemed to always get weeded out because of my lack of a bachelor's degree. So now that I know its possible to get an interview at a place like that, I won't be so quick to count myself out!
On another note, yesterday I got together with my friend I hadn't seen in forever. It was so much fun! We talked nonstop for 6 hours. We're going to try to make a regular thing of it. So, that's my first step in trying not to be so anti-social.
Baby steps really do work!
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 6, 2006, at 14:45:42
In reply to You guys are great, thanks for the support!, posted by TexasChic on June 3, 2006, at 18:41:42
I'm nervous. I wonder if I should take a Xanax? I hope she's good. I need help in so many areas!
I've got to go get ready.
Positive energy, positive energy, positive energy.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on June 6, 2006, at 20:09:11
In reply to Meeting my new T today., posted by TexasChic on June 6, 2006, at 14:45:42
It went pretty well. Hard to tell much just yet, but I liked her. She's an older lady who has oodles and oodles of experience.
It seemed weird to try to explain my background to someone new. There's so many factors. If you don't have all of them, you might not understand completely. And I barely broke the surface. There's my childhood, including my crazy domineering father and the whole unhealthy forced religious aspect, the deep, deep depression and possibly PTSD that resulted, the rest of my disfunctional family and how each effects one me, my time caring for my Grandmother and her death, my difficulties in relationships, my isolation, my trouble with disorganization and extreme messiness in my home, a couple of medical conditions that kept me in constant pain for many years and effected a big part of my life, I could go on and on. It just seems like too much. Maybe I should make notes. Does anyone else do that?
Well, I guess its a start. As screwed up as I may be, at least I'm trying.
-T
Posted by ClearSkies on June 7, 2006, at 6:01:08
In reply to Re: Meeting my new T today., posted by TexasChic on June 6, 2006, at 20:09:11
I took notes when I first started with my T (she didn't mind). I felt this urge to hurry up and get on with things, get my story out as quickly as possible (I posted on Psych about handing her a resume LOL), and let's get going!
Instead, I let my T set the pace with putting the puzzle peices out there, and it's gone really well.I'm so glad that you've found a T! Good luck with her.
CS
Posted by TexasChic on June 7, 2006, at 18:51:08
In reply to Re: Meeting my new T today. » TexasChic, posted by ClearSkies on June 7, 2006, at 6:01:08
> I took notes when I first started with my T (she didn't mind). I felt this urge to hurry up and get on with things, get my story out as quickly as possible (I posted on Psych about handing her a resume LOL), and let's get going!
Thanks, that's exactly how I feel. I want her to know everything immediately.
I told her I want to work on my interactions with people. I was so confused today about things of that sort. I was still trying to let cuteboy take the initiative by not saying anything to him, but it somehow turned into this not speaking contest. At least that's how it felt to me. I ended up feeling really sad and like I was going to cry. Maybe I should have held out, but it just didn't feel right, so I talked to him a bit. I ended up telling him about the get together I'm planning after work on Friday. At least I was able to invite him without expressing my frustration about the debacule with his birthday party, which I think made me look rather good. So we'll see what happens.
I just wish I knew what he really thought. Is he feeling sorry for me and trying to be nice, is he clueless to my feelings, or is it something else all together? It would certainly help me know how to behave if I knew. I swear, my inexperience with men and relationships makes me feel like I'm in high school sometimes!
-T
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