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Posted by mike99 on March 25, 2006, at 19:29:13
sorry...i just always wanted to write that.
Posted by Glydin on March 25, 2006, at 19:37:59
In reply to trigger..., posted by mike99 on March 25, 2006, at 19:29:13
Ya got me.
'course, I'm nosey.
Posted by mike99 on March 25, 2006, at 19:47:25
In reply to Re: trigger... » mike99, posted by Glydin on March 25, 2006, at 19:37:59
Posted by 10derHeart on March 25, 2006, at 20:18:41
In reply to trigger..., posted by mike99 on March 25, 2006, at 19:29:13
...and I thought it would be a link to something like this....
Posted by mike99 on March 25, 2006, at 20:35:24
In reply to Re: trigger... » mike99, posted by 10derHeart on March 25, 2006, at 20:18:41
;) ...nice...lol
Posted by Phillipa on March 25, 2006, at 21:13:18
In reply to Re: trigger... » 10derHeart, posted by mike99 on March 25, 2006, at 20:35:24
Roy Rogers and Dale Evans and trigger the horse. Guess I aged myself now. How I loved that show when I was a small child so small you couldn't see me. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 26, 2006, at 1:11:54
In reply to trigger..., posted by mike99 on March 25, 2006, at 19:29:13
> sorry...i just always wanted to write that.
Please don't post information that you know to be false.
But please also don't take this personally, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by mike99 on March 26, 2006, at 8:54:48
In reply to Re: please be civil » mike99, posted by Dr. Bob on March 26, 2006, at 1:11:54
> > sorry...i just always wanted to write that.
>
> Please don't post information that you know to be false.OK I will never joke around ever again.
Posted by Glydin on March 26, 2006, at 12:14:44
In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by mike99 on March 26, 2006, at 8:54:48
> > > sorry...i just always wanted to write that.
> >
> > Please don't post information that you know to be false.
>
> OK I will never joke around ever again.I took it as a rather funny joke. It's a sticky wicket around here, I guess. Don't sweat it, Mike.
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 26, 2006, at 13:13:21
In reply to Re: please be civil » mike99, posted by Glydin on March 26, 2006, at 12:14:44
I thought it was funny too.
yeah
Don't sweat it Mike.
Posted by mike99 on March 26, 2006, at 18:37:59
In reply to Re: please be civil » mike99, posted by Glydin on March 26, 2006, at 12:14:44
Posted by mike99 on March 26, 2006, at 18:40:46
In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by Gabbix2 on March 26, 2006, at 13:13:21
> I thought it was funny too.
I still do too ;)
> yeah
> Don't sweat it Mike.
thanks...i'm not...it's all good.
Posted by special_k on March 27, 2006, at 0:42:57
In reply to Re: please be civil » Gabbix2, posted by mike99 on March 26, 2006, at 18:40:46
I guess it might be about...
Sometimes I hold off reading posts with trigger warnings. Because sometimes I'm not really in the space to deal with what might lie within.
Sometimes I feel guilty holding off reading posts with trigger warnings. Because usually when people are putting trigger warnings on their posts it is because they are talking about something really hard for them and they are really needing some support.
And then someone musters the courage to read your post with a trigger warning on it...
And might feel a little like you are laughing at them. At their vulnerability.
Just trying to explain why some might find your joke a little hard to take... I know it wasn't your intention etc.
Posted by AuntieMel on March 27, 2006, at 11:13:09
In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by Gabbix2 on March 26, 2006, at 13:13:21
I don't trigger easily
But many people do.
Should we make light of that?
Posted by 10derHeart on March 27, 2006, at 17:22:44
In reply to Re: I am *not* finding this funny, posted by AuntieMel on March 27, 2006, at 11:13:09
Mel, you're right, and I apologize for my contribution to this thread.
I won't even lie and say I had no clue, or never thought of other possible interpretations, because I remember hesitating over that for a second... But not for long enough, or thoughtfully enough before I chose to post anyway. I didn't stay on the cautious side and I feel that is a shortcoming on my part.
I'm not easily or badly triggered either. But I (normally) have enormous compassion for those who are. I find *nothing* funny about the fact this happens to people here. Stepping back a bit, I now look at *my* post and say, "hmmm, what *was* I thinking?" :-(
Truth be told, although it might have shocked me on some level, I kinda think Bob should have given me a PBS for responding as I did.
Special k really made me realize how this could be viewed with her words, too.
I should *never* choose the option of, 'oh, won't this be cute and funny and won't I make others think I'm *so* clever' (not that the link is *that* funny anyway) over the possibility my joking around will cause pain or embarrassment.
I'm not saying mike99 had anything but lighthearted intentions. I have no reason in the world to think so. As I hope will be the assumption about me and my silly Roy Rogers link. The most charitable viewing of it, as special k likes to put it. I was just being impulsive and focused on getting a laugh, rather than the bigger picture.
Trigger means something unique here. I know that. And how well I know (mostly IRL) what it's like to feel upset by the casual wordplay of others who seem oblivious to me, my background, my reactions... When it happens, I really don't give a &*^* about intentions - at least at first - and especially if the remarks continue. It can be a rather large *ouch* in my day :-(
I guess I'm trying to say there are some things better left unsaid and un-posted. Guess the horse pics are appropriate as I sorta acted like the hind end there....
Again, I'm sorry.
Posted by AuntieMel on March 27, 2006, at 17:32:25
In reply to Re: I am *not* finding this funny » AuntieMel, posted by 10derHeart on March 27, 2006, at 17:22:44
I know you didn't mean it.
Babblemail following.
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 27, 2006, at 18:00:13
In reply to Re: No worries » 10derHeart, posted by AuntieMel on March 27, 2006, at 17:32:25
tooo much for me
ttg..
Posted by AuntieMel on March 28, 2006, at 8:29:34
In reply to Re: No worries, posted by Gabbix2 on March 27, 2006, at 18:00:13
I didn't think you meant any harm either.
Twas just a comment, directed at no one.
Posted by stickywicket on March 28, 2006, at 8:32:15
In reply to Re: please be civil » mike99, posted by Glydin on March 26, 2006, at 12:14:44
> I took it as a rather funny joke. It's a sticky wicket around here, I guess. Don't sweat it, Mike.
>
>Just curious. I picked this posting name randomly out of the dictionary a few weeks ago and never heard it used before. Have you used it often? What country are you from?
Posted by Glydin on March 28, 2006, at 8:51:00
In reply to sticky wicket » Glydin, posted by stickywicket on March 28, 2006, at 8:32:15
I like your posting name. Yes, I use it quite often as I find it fitting to use to refer to less than smooth situations. Comes in handy..... (smile)
I'm US but I have a dear friend who is very UK, I got it from her.
Posted by Dinah on March 28, 2006, at 9:09:49
In reply to Re: sticky wicket » stickywicket, posted by Glydin on March 28, 2006, at 8:51:00
I feel old now admitting this. But I picked up the term from Newkirk on Hogan's Heroes, and use it often, if only to myself.
Posted by stickywicket on March 28, 2006, at 10:33:20
In reply to Re: sticky wicket » stickywicket, posted by Glydin on March 28, 2006, at 8:51:00
Interesting. I wonder if it's more commonly used in the UK.
Posted by stickywicket on March 28, 2006, at 10:37:49
In reply to Re: sticky wicket, posted by Dinah on March 28, 2006, at 9:09:49
Ah, Hogan's Heros - great show. I just can't remember any names or details. My memory s*cks big time.
Posted by milly on March 28, 2006, at 10:40:48
In reply to Re: sticky wicket » Glydin, posted by stickywicket on March 28, 2006, at 10:33:20
I'm in the UK and I think it is a relatively common term here though a little old fashioned and very much a 'polite society' term.
I guess it comes from the game of cricket as they use wickets
hope that helps
milly
Posted by gabbi~1 on March 28, 2006, at 21:59:12
In reply to Re: please be civil » Gabbix2, posted by mike99 on March 26, 2006, at 18:40:46
Is that your post ended up being a trigger post after all, round and round it goes..
I wonder if you'll get your P.B.C revoked now : )
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