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Posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
hi everyone,
lots of my friends are having tough times right now, and it makes me feel helpless because I can't help them. One friend is going through a very rough divorce. Another has a serious illness. One can't get pregnant despite serious invasive treatments.I try to be friendly and supportive, to listen, to take them out or tell jokes when it's appropriate, help out with babysitting/cleaning, just to be a friend. But nothing i do can really make it better.
It's depressing. Why is life sometimes so sucky? Sometimes it just seems like everything is so hard for some of the best people who don't deserve the hardships. Why is that?
JenStar
Posted by AuntieMel on March 7, 2006, at 13:05:12
In reply to Sadness, posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
You are wrong.
What you are doing *does* make help. A sympathetic friend softens the blows. As can be attested to right here at babble.
Posted by jonquiljo on March 7, 2006, at 14:38:17
In reply to Sadness, posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
Jenstar,
There is often no reason why bad things happen - especially to good people who don't deserve it. Life can suck because life can suck. Period. I wish I knew something more than that. It sounds, however, like you are a good friend to those around you - and that's more important to them and the world that I believe you know.
Very few people deserve hardships. The best that can be done is to have a few good friends like you in times of need. In any case, I hope you day gets a bit brighter.
Jon
Posted by Dinah on March 7, 2006, at 18:36:50
In reply to Sadness, posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
Well, I know that your support here on Babble is very helpful to me when things are bad for me. I imagine that it's even more so in real life.
You might not be able to make things *all* better, but trust me you do make them better.
Posted by Tanzanite on March 8, 2006, at 1:36:59
In reply to Sadness, posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
HI Jenstar. I am still pretty new here after a long time. But, I wonder this exact thing each and everyday. I always wonder why people have to go through such suffering and why it seems that good people have to suffer. All I can do is pray. I feel helpless in so many situations. I really hope you will be ok, because these things are very hard to deal with. I don't really know what else to say but Peace and blessings to you, your loved ones, and friends. May the sun shine down on all of you.
Tanzanite
Posted by Deneb on March 8, 2006, at 13:36:38
In reply to Sadness, posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
> I try to be friendly and supportive, to listen, to take them out or tell jokes when it's appropriate, help out with babysitting/cleaning, just to be a friend. But nothing i do can really make it better.
It sounds like you are being the best friend one can have. That's all you can do really. My pdoc told me that it's good just to be there for other people. I told her that I don't have a lot of good advice and worldly wisdom to offer my Babble friends. I'm going to try harder at being there for other people. To give hugs out whenever I can.
((((JenStar))))
Deneb
Posted by fairywings on March 8, 2006, at 15:12:27
In reply to Sadness, posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
You're being such a thoughtful friend to so many ppl who need that friendship right now. You're right all the stuff ppl go through really sucks, but it's so much better when you have someone to share the burden with.
fw
Posted by Damos on March 8, 2006, at 15:57:54
In reply to Sadness, posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
Hey JenStar,
I can only reinforce what everyone else has said. Your friends are very lucky to have you as are we.
(((((JenStar)))))
Posted by JenStar on March 9, 2006, at 23:27:25
In reply to Sadness, posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 12:18:26
Thanks, everyone, for your responses! It made me feel better to know that people here wanted to comfort me a bit. :) Thank you for that.
JenStar
Posted by Dinah on March 12, 2006, at 10:13:20
In reply to thanks to you all for your responses :) » JenStar, posted by JenStar on March 9, 2006, at 23:27:25
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