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Posted by Deneb on July 18, 2005, at 21:24:43
Hammy is doing well...my Mom gives him tiny apple slices when I'm away at work. Hammy comes out now whenever she tapes the bars in his cage. :-)
He's still playing at night and doesn't seem old at all.
I had a horrific dream about Hammy though. :-(
I dreamt that I did something bad, and he was dying. I wanted him to die so I negected him...but he just wouldn't die. He was so thin and looked like he would die any moment. He would fall down and tumble down the little ledges in his home because he was too weak to jump. I just kept starving him and not giving him water and he just kept getting worst and worst. He never bit me, he just kept on living.
Then I couldn't bear his suffering and tried to nurse him back to health by hand feeding him some yogurt. He ate and ate and ate and became fat again.
It makes me cry just thinking about this. It's just horrible what I did to Hammy in my dream. I would never want to make him suffer or die.
Why on Earth would I dream such horrible things?
Deneb
Posted by Deneb on July 18, 2005, at 21:26:23
In reply to Hammy, posted by Deneb on July 18, 2005, at 21:24:43
Posted by Dinah on July 18, 2005, at 21:52:00
In reply to Hammy, posted by Deneb on July 18, 2005, at 21:24:43
Dreams are just dreams. And if they have meanings at all, it often isn't the overt one.
You know you love him and take care of him. That's what matters.
Posted by partlycloudy on July 18, 2005, at 22:08:45
In reply to Re: Hammy » Deneb, posted by Dinah on July 18, 2005, at 21:52:00
I agree with Dinah. You're dreaming about trying to care for him. There's nothing nasty there, Deneb, You're trying outside of your conscience life to help him. It's OK.
You're helping every way you can.
pc
Posted by justyourlaugh on July 18, 2005, at 23:29:26
In reply to Re: Hammy » Dinah, posted by partlycloudy on July 18, 2005, at 22:08:45
my daughters rat died this week..
i had to drown it..it was suffering so..bleeding from the eyes..crying....i did not tell..she knew..we said some kind words and put her under the garden...
j
Posted by messadivoce on July 19, 2005, at 0:26:25
In reply to ratty...very very triggerish!, posted by justyourlaugh on July 18, 2005, at 23:29:26
((((((jyl)))))))
You did the right thing. She was suffering.
But it sure feels crappy right now, huh?
Voce
Posted by Jen Star on July 19, 2005, at 0:36:14
In reply to Hammy, posted by Deneb on July 18, 2005, at 21:24:43
hi deneb,
I'm sorry you had such a bad dream. It WAS awful! BUT -- it's nothing you'd ever do in real life. Just because you dreamt it, it doesn't mean you WANT to do that secretly, or that you ever WOULD. Sometimes your mind is turning over puzzles, trying to figure things out.Maybe you're afraid of Hammy dying and how you'll react. In your dream, your mind tried out how it felt to have control of Hammy's life/death, becuase it upsets you to NOT have control of it. However, having this control didn't feel good at all. Maybe you're just trying to cope with his mortality.
It doens't mean anything about YOU or your morals. Just means that you're worried about something and your mind does Alice-in-Wonderland weird-o stuff (like all of us do in dreams!) trying to "get" it all.
I hope you have better dreams tonite. :)
JenStar
Posted by Jen Star on July 19, 2005, at 0:38:18
In reply to ratty...very very triggerish!, posted by justyourlaugh on July 18, 2005, at 23:29:26
oh, J, I'm so sorry. That's sad. But you did the right thing. It's just so sad that sometimes we HAVE to do that.
Once my cat brought in a bird. Its heart was beating rapidly and it was wretchedly broken, yet still alive. We had to kill it because it was so horribly mangled. But I felt sick and weak and sad about doing it. It was the right thing and the wrong thing all at once. I wanted to cry.
I don't cry for Iraq, but I cry for a broken bird. Why is that???
JenStar
Posted by crazy teresa on July 19, 2005, at 20:20:43
In reply to Hammy, posted by Deneb on July 18, 2005, at 21:24:43
Posted by Susan47 on July 19, 2005, at 21:29:32
In reply to Hammy, posted by Deneb on July 18, 2005, at 21:24:43
I've started being interested in your posts about Hammy because you describe him so well, very lovingly. I really like the one where he was sprawled on his back in the heat, that was so incredibly cute. Maybe the dream was a subconscious fear about losing him or not taking care of him adequately, which you are doing I'm sure, as you love him and spend time with him. Maybe you worry a great deal? Some of my own worst dreams came in times when I was very unhappy and anxious, sad and worried.
Posted by Deneb on July 22, 2005, at 21:16:42
In reply to Re: Hammy » Deneb, posted by Dinah on July 18, 2005, at 21:52:00
> Dreams are just dreams. And if they have meanings at all, it often isn't the overt one.
>
> You know you love him and take care of him. That's what matters.You are right Dinah...that is what matters.
Deneb
Posted by Deneb on July 22, 2005, at 21:18:47
In reply to ratty...very very triggerish!, posted by justyourlaugh on July 18, 2005, at 23:29:26
> my daughters rat died this week..
> i had to drown it..it was suffering so..bleeding from the eyes..crying....i did not tell..she knew..we said some kind words and put her under the garden...
> jI had to avoid this thread for a while because it was too upsetting. I'm sorry about Ratty, it breaks my heart when animals or people suffer so much.
Deneb
Posted by Deneb on July 22, 2005, at 21:29:13
In reply to Re: Hammy » Deneb, posted by Susan47 on July 19, 2005, at 21:29:32
> I've started being interested in your posts about Hammy because you describe him so well, very lovingly. I really like the one where he was sprawled on his back in the heat, that was so incredibly cute.
I like that one too. :-)
I will pet him for you ok?
> Maybe the dream was a subconscious fear about losing him or not taking care of him adequately, which you are doing I'm sure, as you love him and spend time with him. Maybe you worry a great deal?
That is the only thing that makes sense if dreams indeed do have some meaning. Even in my dream it was pure torture seeing him suffer when even it was me who caused the suffering.
>Some of my own worst dreams came in times when I was very unhappy and anxious, sad and worried.
I think maybe there is something about dreams and the way we feel. I believe this because I always have nightmares about not finding my classes (i.e. the campus is a labyrinth that keeps changing and shifting) or having to write final exams on the first day of class, when the start of classes nears.
Deneb
Posted by Susan47 on July 23, 2005, at 23:30:39
In reply to Re: Dreams » Susan47, posted by Deneb on July 22, 2005, at 21:29:13
I believe it's important to listen to our dreams, I'm learning to listen to the emotional meaning behind mine. There always is one. Sometimes I can't understand for a long time, and sometimes dreams repeat themselves over and over again, but it's always something I need to learn how to confront. Maybe you need to work on your self-confidence, because really, it doesn't sound like you have failed yourself in any way, but you're always afraid of doing that. Sounds like someone or something else is tearing away at your self-confidence.
Posted by Susan47 on July 23, 2005, at 23:31:14
In reply to Re: Dreams » Susan47, posted by Deneb on July 22, 2005, at 21:29:13
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