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Posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
hi,
i am not doing well right now..the novelty of having the house to myself has worn off, and i am feeling totally overwhelmed by life and am not sure if i can handle it..for the first time ever i feel seriously emotionally imbalanced..normally i know i'm just reacting to all of life's cr$p, which was a normal response..but right now i'm wondering if that's what this is or if i am going crazy..my thoughts are muddled, i am paranoid that no one gives a damn about me, and i imagine ppl are being mean to me when they aren't..is this a form of depression, or what the hell is happening to me? i wonder if i should just live a life of solitude..i think a lot of ppl would be happier if i wasn't here..hope it's ok to be this honest. told ya i was losin it. all i ever try to do is be a good person. also, sometimes i wonder why i'm here besides trying to help people..i've met a lot of ppl here but how many have i *really* bonded with? ya know?needing comfort,
amy
Posted by Larry Hoover on April 25, 2005, at 22:41:33
In reply to something is wrong here, posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
> needing comfort,
> amyComfort we got. Lots of it. I'm sorry the quiet is so loud right now.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Amy}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Posted by Damos on April 25, 2005, at 22:48:12
In reply to something is wrong here, posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
Hi Amy,
Sorry things aren't so good right now. Here take my hand and squeeze just as tight as you need to for as long as you need to.
((((((Amy))))))
Posted by TamaraJ on April 25, 2005, at 22:54:27
In reply to something is wrong here, posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
(((Amy)))
I am sorry you are hurting right now. You know people here care, and will provide you with the comfort and understanding you need. You've been through a lot lately, and it is bound to have taken a bit of a toll emotionally. Be patient with and good to yourself, and give yourself the right and the time to heal.
My thoughts are with you.
Tamara
Posted by Shy_Girl on April 25, 2005, at 23:28:27
In reply to something is wrong here, posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
..for the first time ever i feel seriously emotionally imbalanced..normally i know i'm just reacting to all of life's cr$p, which was a normal response..but right now i'm wondering if that's what this is or if i am going crazy..
Hi Amy,
I'm not sure if we've conversed before. I'm still fairly new to this whole idea of mental health. I personally think that people shouldn't be too hard on themselves for feeling negative feelings. I think everyone has at on point or another questioned one's sanity. I think a time to worry would be if one didn't ever question one's sanity :-)
I know that it is extremely difficult to imagine oneself in a positive mood when one is down. It's OK to feel upself if things are getting stressful in your life. Sometimes it's good to get out your feelings.
You mentioned that your thoughts are putting a negative spin on everything? I've learned that it's useful sometimes to challenge your thoughts...to see if there's any evidence for them. It's hard to do, I understand, but it doesn't hurt to try. :-) You mentioned that the novelty of having the house to yourself has worn out...maybe you could try to seek out other novel things to do. Sometimes doing fun things even when you don't feel like doing them can help.
> also, sometimes i wonder why i'm here besides trying to help people..i've met a lot of ppl here but how many have i *really* bonded with? ya know?
I think you are here helping people because helping people makes you feel better about yourself...and that's totally OK. I think "bonding" can take many forms. It can seem ackward using this particular medium to connect with people, but I'm sure you've touched many people here. Me, for example...I'm touched and honoured to be able to listen to your story.
I send you pillows of comfort (((amy)))
Shy_Girl
Posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 0:10:46
In reply to something is wrong here, posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
Are you getting out at all and meeting any people IRL???
I just wonder because I used to live by myself and pretty much lock myself away from everyone.
Weekends were really hard and horrible for me.
During the week I would go up to uni and I guess I had a bit of social interaction there but over the weekend I noticed I felt quite depressed and paranoid. I think my solitude really brought that out. I know it is hard - but is there anything you could do? Even go to the library or mall or something? That might help. Not heaps - but a bit.I'm glad you are here.
(((Amy)))
Posted by partlycloudy on April 26, 2005, at 5:46:01
In reply to something is wrong here, posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
Alesta, it's really difficult living alone when the novelty factor wears off. Add in the isolation you feel here and it's no wonder you're unhappy. I have been posting here for a while - well over a year and a half - and there have been times when I have felt out of the loop, too. I just plain miss the bus when some of the fun threads are started; or I am in no mood to contribute to any fun threads at all.
I hung around babble anyway. Read the other boards, got in trouble on a few of them, found where my comfort levels are.I would *love* to get to know so many other babblers better - including you! I realize that by my nature, I kind of get on a board and start my pity party, or my giant babble hug where I try to thank all the folks who prop me up on my worst days.
I have to say that my attempts at joining pre-existing threads have not been great successes. Sometimes you'd like an "uh-huh" in reply, and a post may be met with a thundering silence. How many people here have felt like thread killers? (Entire Social board raises hands.) See??
So - please, persevere with us, Alesta. Give us a chance to get to know you and develop a real friendship. I know that I have made many friends here that I can't imagine having ever getting to know elsewhere.
Stay and share. We want to know you better.
((((Alesta)))
Posted by sunny10 on April 26, 2005, at 13:13:49
In reply to Re: something is wrong here » alesta, posted by partlycloudy on April 26, 2005, at 5:46:01
I'm in the same boat right now....
wanna take turns paddling??? It's always easier when there's someone to go through the journeys with...
This alone thing is new to me, too.
I just last night realized that I have never lived entirely alone before in my 37 years...So I quite understand the "alone feeling like lonely" and the "amazingly loud quiet" feelings; not to mention the "how stupid am I for getting to where I am now- I must have done about a million things wrong" thoughts...
You really aren't alone, and neither am I. We are both lucky and smart enough to have found so many friends here at babble who will hold our hands, hug us, and help us through the difficult times and let us help them.
Deep breath in and out, dear, we're in this together.
XOXOXOX
sunny10
Posted by alesta on April 26, 2005, at 14:13:30
In reply to something is wrong here, posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
wow, thanks a lot, you guys! i wish i had the energy to reply to everyone personally. i really needed to hear what you said. i really appreciate all the advice and sharing of your thoughts. i hope you guys know how much it means to me. you are all beautiful..please bear with my erratic emotions for a while on this site..i'm gonna be leaning on it a little more lately (posting more), especially this week home alone with my parents gone. i'm feeling better now..today is a good day.:)
love to y'all,:)
amy
Posted by sunny10 on April 26, 2005, at 14:15:05
In reply to thanks SO much, you guys!!, posted by alesta on April 26, 2005, at 14:13:30
Posted by alesta on April 26, 2005, at 20:19:28
In reply to Re: we'll be here (nm) » alesta, posted by sunny10 on April 26, 2005, at 14:15:05
Posted by anastasia56 on April 26, 2005, at 20:28:50
In reply to something is wrong here, posted by alesta on April 25, 2005, at 22:12:04
it's taken eons to get you back here and here you finally are! glad to see you changed your mind further down the thread and decided to stay.
you make a huge difference here. people do remember you. i am so happy to see your life coming around. you go girl!
ana
Posted by alesta on April 26, 2005, at 20:40:56
In reply to Re: something is wrong here, posted by anastasia56 on April 26, 2005, at 20:28:50
> it's taken eons to get you back here and here you finally are! glad to see you changed your mind further down the thread and decided to stay.
>
> you make a huge difference here. people do remember you. i am so happy to see your life coming around. you go girl!
>
> anawell, thank ya, ana..lol..this is my life 'coming around'? oh dear....
:-) amy
Posted by anastasia56 on April 26, 2005, at 22:35:05
In reply to Re: something is wrong here » anastasia56, posted by alesta on April 26, 2005, at 20:40:56
your life is coming around simply because you are out of that other and available to new possibilities!
Posted by alesta on April 27, 2005, at 1:36:27
In reply to Re: something is wrong here, posted by anastasia56 on April 26, 2005, at 22:35:05
ohhhhhhh. oookay. i get it now. :-) i'm a little slow...btw, you are really good for my self-esteem, which needs a little boost right now..okay a BIG boost..you're so kind. i think you're pretty influential yourself here, missy, but most of all you are my good friend whom i treasure. sorry, barf bags please? um, another one? could we have another one..?? no! not for mee! for her!!! for anastasia, you %$#$@$! (sorry, the humor got a little monty python at the end there..:))
amy ;)
Posted by anastasia56 on April 27, 2005, at 19:43:55
In reply to Re: something is wrong here » anastasia56, posted by alesta on April 27, 2005, at 1:36:27
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