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Posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 10:19:12
In reply to Re: That was for Toph., posted by sunny10 on April 18, 2005, at 9:30:43
See that? Sunny loves you and wants to talk to you. Sigh.
Posted by Toph on April 18, 2005, at 13:46:02
In reply to Re: That was for Toph., posted by sunny10 on April 18, 2005, at 9:30:43
Hi Sunny,
Well, my wife said that it was over. This after I slipped the dog some of my cheeseburger when I said I wouldn't feed him table food anymore. I may love women but I will never understand them. Anyway, she moved into another room and things were very dramatic for a while. She is having a lumpechtomy Wednesday and Audra is heading off to Barcelona for a year so I am just a major annoyance for her. She's back sleeping with me and just crabby. I've been really careful to make the bed and coffee and vacuum without being told, etc. I lay on the couch and scratch and swear with my neighbor when she's not around. It's not like she's got me by the balls, but she scared me into thinking that she didn't love me anymore. I've been through that once or twice before, and so she really freaked me out. I won't participate here as intensely as before, but I couldn't resist talking to you sunny. I'm sorry that things are tough for you right now. Did you develop a plan about your future with your SO?
Toph
Posted by sunny10 on April 18, 2005, at 14:22:09
In reply to Re: That was for » sunny10, posted by Toph on April 18, 2005, at 13:46:02
wife is probably just freaking out on all quarters because of the lumpectomy... I would do the same. Talk to her. Cry with her if you want to. Let her know you understand why she's crabby and that you don't blame her. Tell her you couldn't possibly undertand exactly what she is going through and that you wish you could just to be able to be that much more able to be of assistance. She's not talking THAT much about it with you because she knows that as a man, you can't understand. I'm sure she's talked some, but not nearly as much as she needs to. I know it stinks walking around on eggshells... I've done it a time or two myself. I hope things get better with you two soon.
I've just cut and will paste below the short version of what's going on with me...
"gosh, the story is long...
suffice it to say that we are "separated"...
-he physically hurt me (tried to strangle me)while he was drunk and we were having a silly argument in a hotel room on the second night of our mini-vacation down in New Orleans,
-I ran straight to the airport and took the next flight home,
-we have to break our lease that still has 15 mos left, they are threatening to sue for the entire $22,100.00 left on lease til it ends on 7/31/06.
-spent a week on my brother's couch (with my poor kitty in their unfinished basement),
-got a new apt.
With him promising no more drinking of hard alcohol, no using of coke, and some anger management classes/therapy, I am willing to give "us" another try.He vacillates between acting only businesslike over the lease termination situation and being loving/sorry/concilliatory, wanting to go to the anger management classes and talking about couples couselling while living separately, etc... He is talking the talk, but I have yet to see him start walking the walk...
So, I would rather be separated and working it out, but I am rather afraid that he is going to just disappear once the business stuff is concluded. I am torn between feeling that it could eventually wind up better than ever and that "we" only ever existed in my mind...
37 and still stupid...looking for a large enough hole to jump in and hide..."
Posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 14:56:16
In reply to Re: That was for » sunny10, posted by Toph on April 18, 2005, at 13:46:02
She's probably scared stiff.
Posted by Damos on April 18, 2005, at 17:18:13
In reply to Re: Got toooo excited ;-) » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 8:45:57
Now there's a thought huhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Posted by sunny10 on April 19, 2005, at 9:56:58
In reply to Re: Got toooo excited ;-) » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 18, 2005, at 17:18:13
please don't let me think that you meant scared women turn you on or that being scared turns you on...sexual fantasies that would never be acted on aside.
Right now I just couldn't bear it...
Have never felt less sexual in my entire life...
Posted by Susan47 on April 19, 2005, at 11:54:26
In reply to Re: scarng me now, Damos, posted by sunny10 on April 19, 2005, at 9:56:58
Fear and worry will do that, what a major drag.
Posted by sunny10 on April 19, 2005, at 12:40:33
In reply to Re: scarng me now, Damos » sunny10, posted by Susan47 on April 19, 2005, at 11:54:26
Posted by anastasia56 on April 19, 2005, at 12:45:38
In reply to Re: Got toooo excited ;-) » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 18, 2005, at 17:18:13
you don't scare me...okay, maybe if it was really early and i ran into you getting the paper and you hadn't brushed your teeth yet and your face was all stubbly and maybe if you had on some funny looking bugs bunny pajamas and slippers with little heads on them that should be cartoon characters but instead resembled something my dog dragged in...then, maybe, just maybe...
Posted by Susan47 on April 19, 2005, at 15:16:12
In reply to Re: Got toooo excited ;-), posted by anastasia56 on April 19, 2005, at 12:45:38
That sounds like a picture I saw of Cher, once, about twenty years ago. Pretty funny. Verrrrry funny.
Posted by Toph on April 19, 2005, at 17:18:54
In reply to Re: Toph, if I insulted you somehow, I'm sorry... (nm), posted by sunny10 on April 19, 2005, at 12:40:33
sunny, of course you didn't insult me. Even if things are strained at home it's important for me to hear a woman's perspective. Pray that all goes well tomorrow.
Thanks for updating me about you guys. You must love him a lot to be so patient. We have never met you in person sunny and yet we realize what a prize you are. How can someone who shares a life with you not seem to know this?
Posted by Damos on April 19, 2005, at 17:34:23
In reply to Re: scarng me now, Damos, posted by sunny10 on April 19, 2005, at 9:56:58
> please don't let me think that you meant scared women turn you on or that being scared turns you on...sexual fantasies that would never be acted on aside.
I can safely say non of the above sunny. The thought of making a woman afraid just makes me feel sick.
> Right now I just couldn't bear it...
>
> Have never felt less sexual in my entire life...I can understand that. With all things you're thinking and feeling right now I think I'd find it difficult just being numb. You're amazing to me sunny, simply amazing. It makes me very proud to know you even just the little tiny bit that I do.
Now come and play on the swings with Alex, Jai, Ana, Susan and me and let's see if we can't get Toph and his wife there too. What's your favourite indulgent snack and I'll bring some of it too.
(((((sunny)))))
Posted by Damos on April 19, 2005, at 17:37:27
In reply to Re: Got toooo excited ;-), posted by anastasia56 on April 19, 2005, at 12:45:38
No fair! You've been spying on me haven't you.
Posted by sunny10 on April 20, 2005, at 13:08:32
In reply to I'm sorry... » sunny10, posted by Toph on April 19, 2005, at 17:18:54
it took me many years to find people like you.
You all have brought me enormous amounts of joy- realizing that there are actually some pretty darn wonderful people out there to play with, to chat with, to love. I really had given up on humanity for a while...
I love each and every one of you. I'm not sure what I would have done if you all hadn't been here to listen, to comfort, to remind me to take some time to play throughout these last few months.
There are no words, but maybe that's 'cause there is a gigantic frog in my throat and tears in my eyes because I'm lucky enough to be getting to know you...
Guess it's time to play hide-and-seek, so I can hide behind a bush until I can stop embarassing my friends with my sloppy, happy tears...
who wants to be it first??
Posted by Larry Hoover on April 20, 2005, at 13:24:59
In reply to Re: To My playground friends..., posted by sunny10 on April 20, 2005, at 13:08:32
(not sure if I want to *let* you tag me, or not)
Lar
Posted by Damos on April 20, 2005, at 16:57:14
In reply to Re: To My playground friends..., posted by sunny10 on April 20, 2005, at 13:08:32
Who'd a thought it'd take 40 years to find the best kids to play with ever. Thanks for coming out to play sunny.
Posted by sunny10 on April 21, 2005, at 8:24:52
In reply to Quick! Sunny's 'it' - hide everyone. » sunny10, posted by Damos on April 20, 2005, at 16:57:14
darn, oh well, here I go...
hands over my eyes, one-one thousand, two-one thousand, three-one thousand, four-one thousand, five-one thousand, six-one thousand, seven-one thousand, eight-one thousand, nine-one thousand, ten-one thousand....
ready or not, here I come....
Posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 9:16:12
In reply to Re: but I needed to cry behind a bush for a minute, posted by sunny10 on April 21, 2005, at 8:24:52
I jumped into the lake for a midnight skinny-dip and you couldn't catch me. Sorry.
Posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 9:55:24
In reply to That was for Toph., posted by Susan47 on April 17, 2005, at 16:07:47
Sigh. It stopped. Helpless again. Dogging it. It's going to rain today. Thank god.
Posted by sunny10 on April 21, 2005, at 12:46:34
In reply to Re: but I needed to cry behind a bush for a minute, posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 9:16:12
Posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 16:03:32
In reply to Re: Is that Lar I see up in that tree?? (nm) » Susan47, posted by sunny10 on April 21, 2005, at 12:46:34
He's naked. No, nearly naked. He's wearing a loincloth. Mmmm. And crouching. On the tree branch, see him? I can't climb trees. Can we entice him down?
Posted by Larry Hoover on April 21, 2005, at 16:10:34
In reply to Re: Is that Lar I see up in that tree??, posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 16:03:32
> He's naked. No, nearly naked. He's wearing a loincloth. Mmmm. And crouching. On the tree branch, see him? I can't climb trees. Can we entice him down?
Ha ha ha!
Entice me down? Did you say skinny dip?
L
Posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 20:15:19
In reply to Re: Is that Lar I see up in that tree?? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on April 21, 2005, at 16:10:34
I did, I did indeed. The water was soft.
It was cool liquid darkness, caressing every inch of skin .. you would've enjoyed it. The moon was playing on the water, and it was deeply quiet. The ony sound was the lapping of the water on my skin. It was lovely. But then I heard the rustle of the leaves above, and I SPIED you in that tree, and as I yelled it to Sunny, I was jumping out and grabbing my towel.....
Posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 20:33:36
In reply to Re: Is that Lar I see up in that tree??, posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 20:15:19
....you doing up in that tree? That's what I want to know.
Posted by Larry Hoover on April 21, 2005, at 22:15:52
In reply to But what was Sunny doing? And what were, posted by Susan47 on April 21, 2005, at 20:33:36
> ....you doing up in that tree? That's what I want to know.
I had my binoculars. I was bird-watching. ;-)
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