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Re: Sex and me

Posted by Tamar on April 12, 2005, at 10:34:07

In reply to Re: Sex and me, posted by Spriggy on April 11, 2005, at 16:08:07

I like this thread!

I had been convinced for years that all that talk about a G-spot was a myth, but about a couple of months ago I found it. It took me a while to discover its full potential but now it seems to do everything it's supposed to do!

My poor husband has hardly slept a wink since, because of my constant demands. But he doesn't seem to be complaining.

 

Re: Sex and me » Susan47

Posted by AdaGrace on April 12, 2005, at 10:35:49

In reply to Sex and me, posted by Susan47 on April 11, 2005, at 14:48:55

Susan,

There are so many life factors in play with that special thing called the "O"

Medicine.
State of Mind.
Partner's willingness to be aware, concerned, and give a rat's a** about it.
Stress.
So many things......

However....I know where the "G" is. Noone has ever even cared to find it themselves. I have to show. Then of course they don't stick around there long enough to get it to "perform".

I can't do it myself. I fail at that.

 

Re: Sex and me

Posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 11:37:49

In reply to Re: Sex and me » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on April 12, 2005, at 10:35:49

You won't always feel that way provided you get to love yourself. Really, I don't know how to keep that feeling always, but I try and when I do feel good regardless of outside influence, it's awesome. But like you said, it's hard to keep that feeling around when you don't have a person reinforcing how special you are.

 

Re: Sex and me » AdaGrace

Posted by Larry Hoover on April 12, 2005, at 11:49:35

In reply to Re: Sex and me » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on April 12, 2005, at 10:35:49

> However....I know where the "G" is. Noone has ever even cared to find it themselves.

...yet.

> I can't do it myself. I fail at that.

There are, uhhh, specially constructed devices. (Not legal in all states. Seriously. Unbelievable, but true.)

Lar

 

Re: Sex and me » Larry Hoover

Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on April 12, 2005, at 14:00:40

In reply to Re: Sex and me » AdaGrace, posted by Larry Hoover on April 12, 2005, at 11:49:35

> > However....I know where the "G" is. Noone has ever even cared to find it themselves.
>
> ...yet.
>
> > I can't do it myself. I fail at that.
>
> There are, uhhh, specially constructed devices. (Not legal in all states. Seriously. Unbelievable, but true.)

I don't think that's quite what she meant..
It's not always about devices, maps and technical accumen.

>
>

 

Re: Where have I been?? LOL » Susan47

Posted by Damos on April 12, 2005, at 17:15:17

In reply to Re: Where have I been?? LOL » Spriggy, posted by Susan47 on April 11, 2005, at 21:45:27

Can't believe it's been 12 years since I was in a position where I could have shared this pleasure with someone.... :-( huhhhhhhhhh, and it's not like I can 'keep my hand in' (so to speak) without a friend who wants to play. Maybe someday, just gotta keep hoping I guess.

 

TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Damos

Posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 21:47:39

In reply to Re: Where have I been?? LOL » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 12, 2005, at 17:15:17

omigodican'tbreathe

 

Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! (nm) » Susan47

Posted by anastasia56 on April 13, 2005, at 0:05:13

In reply to TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 21:47:39

 

Sex and Him

Posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 9:37:59

In reply to Sex and me, posted by Susan47 on April 11, 2005, at 14:48:55

By the way men have their own version of a G-spot and I understand it's just as good as ours or better. It's their prostrate gland. It can be stimulated manually and it sends them right over the edge ... it would be terrible to be a man and lose a prostate to cancer, so guys, take care of that little gland .. it does a lot for you.

 

Re: Sex and Him

Posted by caraher on April 13, 2005, at 10:08:10

In reply to Sex and Him, posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 9:37:59

> By the way men have their own version of a G-spot and I understand it's just as good as ours or better. It's their prostrate gland. It can be stimulated manually and it sends them right over the edge ... it would be terrible to be a man and lose a prostate to cancer, so guys, take care of that little gland .. it does a lot for you.

Hmmm... I was wondering if there were some male equivalent. I've certainly heard of the prostrate gland but the only thing I've heard about doing anything manually with it involves doctors and rubber gloves, and precious little pleasure.

 

Re: Sex and Him

Posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 10:21:56

In reply to Re: Sex and Him, posted by caraher on April 13, 2005, at 10:08:10

I haven't done an internet search on it but IRL I know it's true .. I've always thought that must be part of the attraction driving some men to be bi, you know. The stimulation of that gland during sex. More women ought to know about that ... really. And more men ought to know about our spot, too. Sigh. I'm going to my grave without.

 

Re: Sex and Him » caraher

Posted by Tamar on April 13, 2005, at 11:04:34

In reply to Re: Sex and Him, posted by caraher on April 13, 2005, at 10:08:10


> Hmmm... I was wondering if there were some male equivalent. I've certainly heard of the prostrate gland but the only thing I've heard about doing anything manually with it involves doctors and rubber gloves, and precious little pleasure.

Yeah, and there's not much pleasure when women go to doctor either, but that's because of the circumstances.

The prostate can be as difficult to access as the G-spot in women, and it can help to use one of the devices that Larry mentioned earlier. But it's essential to exercise caution because unless the device is specifically designed for anal use it could get lost in there, which would entail an embarrassing trip to a doctor!

 

Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Susan47

Posted by Damos on April 13, 2005, at 17:11:54

In reply to TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 21:47:39

HOORAY!! YIPPEE!! I've finally managed to make a beautiful woman breathless....he,he. =0)

BTW, thanks for the capitalisation Suze, once I'd finished sweeping up what was left of my shattered ego I LMAO and girl you shoulda seen all the heads pop up above the partitions in the internet cafe, it was like a scene from Caddyshack.

 

Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » anastasia56

Posted by Damos on April 13, 2005, at 17:14:45

In reply to Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! (nm) » Susan47, posted by anastasia56 on April 13, 2005, at 0:05:13

Oh Ana, surely you wouldn't wish that much dissapointment on poor Susan

 

Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!

Posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 20:18:11

In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » anastasia56, posted by Damos on April 13, 2005, at 17:14:45

Well it can work both ways, Damos. It can work both ways.
You know it's a nice feeling to think that someone laughed like that at something I said. Very nice. And so far away, too. :-)

 

Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47

Posted by damos on April 13, 2005, at 22:02:01

In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!, posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 20:18:11

> Well it can work both ways, Damos. It can work both ways.

I don't think you could ever disappoint me no matter how hard you tried. Oh, and I reckon to handle someone with your beauty, spirit and enthusiasm I'd need to hire a mighty studdly stunt double :-)

> You know it's a nice feeling to think that someone laughed like that at something I said. Very nice. And so far away, too. :-)

And boy did I need it. Without my precious Kiwi friend it's very sad, empty and lonely down here.

Okay you want another laugh? Take 12 from 41 (my age later this year), done it? Okay, now take away from that the years till the first time - 23. doesn't leave much does it? I think I may actually have achieved sexual invisibility.

 

Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!

Posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 0:18:45

In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47, posted by damos on April 13, 2005, at 22:02:01

I'm speechless. It puts all my sex-less times into more perspective. What on earth do you do for human closeness? I mean, touch, you know?

 

Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Susan47

Posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 13:01:54

In reply to TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 21:47:39

Alright, Susan dear, you asked for it...sit down now...can't match Damos, I guess, but it'll be 10 years for me this December

And, if I wanted to get more detailed, if I counted from when it was an entirely meaningful experience, in every way possible, the way I believe God intended, well, that would either be never ( :-( ) or at least 21 years ago....

(paper bags to breath into are good for hyperventilating ;-))

PS -and I'm okay with it, 'cause some things are definitely worth waiting for...

 

Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » 10derHeart

Posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 13:23:34

In reply to Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Susan47, posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 13:01:54

Sweetheart you grabbed me where I live when you say meaningful in every way possible, "the way God intended" ... I've tried .. I have, but I always got it all wrong, there was something always missing, not where it should have been. I know what to look for now, though, and it was always here, inside myself, waiting for discovery. Trouble is it's not always there, and no one from outside me to reinforce it. That's what a lover is good for. That's what a lover is necessary for. I need a lover.

 

Oh yes, 10derHeart, I forgot this part

Posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 13:25:03

In reply to Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Susan47, posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 13:01:54

I can be a lover too, now, for the first time since I was eighteen. I remember I was eighteen when my heart was fresh last. It didn't last very long, though. Two months, I think. And it was absolutely incredible.

 

Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47

Posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 18:04:07

In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!, posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 0:18:45

Hmmm. the honest answer to that would be nothing. Last time I had any physical contact with another person would have been Christmas when a friend left to go overseas and she hugged me goodbye as a kinda thank-you for helpoing her out with some stuff. Hate to admit it but is felt really awkward.

Believe it or not I was once told that I give a mean foot massage.

Okay, touch and physical are a MASSIVE issue for me and I'd simply rather not have either if it means not making other people feel awkward or not attractive or just plain letting them down and hurting them. Okay, it's out there now. Sh*t where did all these admission come from

 

Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » 10derHeart

Posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 18:09:07

In reply to Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Susan47, posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 13:01:54

Oh 10derHeart what a perfect pair we are. I was obviously channeling through you when you posted this. They are my words and experience exactly.

Hope your waiting ends soon and it everything you hope for.

Lots a love.

 

Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47

Posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 18:50:19

In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!, posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 0:18:45

Okay, okay, okay. I can't bear the feeling of desolation, aloneness and hollow emptiness that always accompanied it either. Boy, the truth really sux.

 

Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!

Posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 21:17:33

In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 18:50:19

So when you had sex, then, you had bad feelings with it? Because that's what it sounds like, and like you thought you were hurting somebody's feelings or you weren't making someone feel good enough or something.

 

Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47

Posted by damos on April 14, 2005, at 22:06:24

In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!, posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 21:17:33

How did I wind up revealing all this, I can't believe it. Susan I wish I knew how to explain it, just not sure I can.

On one level there is the fact that I have no concept/understanding/whatever of the physical expression of emotion. Never ever saw my parents hug or kiss and can't remember ever being hugged or kissed by them. Come to think of it, a wacking was about it in terms of physical contact - I'm not talking abuse type wacking though, just your normal naughty kid stuff. Sh*t I can't even remember them expressing affection verbally. I'm getting better I don't actually cringe and pull away now if someone touches me, so that's gotta be good - doesn't it? G*d, I can even remember a girl asking me if I was ever gonna make a 'pass' at her. Sh*t. Never done it to this day, they've always had to start anything.

On another level there's the whole sex thing. Struth Susan I should be paying you a fortune for this. All I can tell you is that there has always been this crushing absence of something I know should be there, desperately want it to be there to share it with this other person, but never has been and it hurts like hell. I have only ever been with 4 women and have loved each of them so very dearly. But there has always been this presence, a presence of something absent if that makes sense. And it's me, I'm not there, I'm missing something important and essential and I really try I do, with every fibre of my being - so I push them away because they deserve better than that or they drift away cause I'm so tied in nots and too much like hard work. And I honestly don't know why I'm telling you this cause I'm shakin' like a leaf and my heart's in my mouth and I can't breathe. Whooooooo. In and of itself it's not that important to me, but that something that it can be a beautiful part of and expression of is, and I'd give anything to know that feeling just once. Enough, enough, enough for now.


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