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Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

Posted by Jai Narayan on March 3, 2005, at 15:36:46

I found this quite interesting.
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Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

The following anonymously written signs of unhealthy boundaries have circulated among groups such Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon, Ala-Teen, etc., for many years and have been modified, in part, for relevance to Extension professionals.
Signs that an at-risk client has unhealthy boundaries:

* Tells all
* Talks at an intimate level at first meeting
* Falls in love with an acquaintance
* Takes as much as possible regardless of need
* Gives as much as he/she can give for the sake of giving
* Believes others should anticipate his/her and fulfill their needs
* Falls apart so someone will take care of them
* Self-abuse
* Goes against personal values or rights to please others
* Allows people to take advantage of him/her
* Food and chemical abuse
* Sexual and physical abuse

Signs that staff working with at-risk clients have unhealthy boundaries:

* Giving your home phone number to clients and/or telling them to call anytime
* Giving intimate information about yourself to clients
* Believing that only you can "save" this person(s)
* Believing that the "system" doesn't understand, but only you do, therefore you must intervene.
* Believing that colleagues don't understand when you discuss/defend your behavior with clients
* Lending clients money
* Physical abuse
* Taking sides in an argument between clients
* Considering yourself "part of the family" with clients
* Experiencing stress induced illnesses such as asthma, angina, back pain, migraines, etc., when involved in interactions with clients

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