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Do you work outside the home?

Posted by Angel Girl on December 23, 2004, at 16:58:19

I'm BPII and PTSD and have not been working since fall of 2001. My moods and meds are still not stabilized and I don't think I could handle being back at work.

I was wondering if anybody finds themselves in my situation or are you working and what is your diagnosis?

I hope this question is not too personal to ask. If it is inappropriate, I'm sorry, I am not aware.

AG

 

Re: Do you work outside the home? » Angel Girl

Posted by Colleen D. on December 23, 2004, at 20:49:11

In reply to Do you work outside the home?, posted by Angel Girl on December 23, 2004, at 16:58:19

Hi! I'm starting a part-time on on Jan. 3. I've been a stay-at-home mom since March 2000. I'm a little anxious, but have been doing well on my meds so will give it a go! I think it will actually help me to get out among adults again. :-)

Colleen
PPD, GAD and OCD

 

i dunno

Posted by just plain jane on December 25, 2004, at 17:39:33

In reply to Do you work outside the home?, posted by Angel Girl on December 23, 2004, at 16:58:19

I work inside and outside my home. However, in the context which you are speaking, I believe you mean working for gainful employment in a location other than home.

Do you mean to exclude those who do their gainful jobs at home from "at home" in your question?

I worked outside the home, at the local school, as a volunteer for five years. Does this, although not a paid job, constitute working outside the home in your context?

I worked in my home writing articles and features for which I gathered my information by attending meetings and events and interviewing people and photographing, the results of which I sent to my employer, a newspaper, via the internet. Does this constitute working outside the home in the context you used?

Having been diagnosed (whoopee) as suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from multiple traumas, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Anxiety/Panic, Agoraphobia, and a lovely catch-all: PD NOS, Personality Disorder, Not Otherwise Specified, I have been judged 100% Disabled and Individually Unemployable by VA.

I could, however, write for gainful employment, as having a disordered personality did not prevent it before the doctor decided what my disorders were. I believe it facilitated it.

Where was I now? (scrolling back up to the topic)

I labor outside and inside my home doing the things most people pay others to do: carpentry, repairs on plumbing, electrical, heating, appliance repair, remodeling, redecorating. All the chores involved in having nine dogs and three horses. Will be building a house come spring.

When I do these things for others, they pay me.

Does doing these things myself instead of paying to have them done qualify as my working outside the home?

Geez, I'm glad they've pegged me as 100% Disabled.

My problem with "normal" working for other people jobs is the control factor. A huge factor in my disorders is having had others control me, causing traumatic situations and forcefully keeping me in them. The lifelong fallout from that makes normal employment intolerable after a point. By which time my disorders have done their dirty work and convinced people I am, truly, just plain nuts anyway.

So this is a divergent subthread.

Will you check my groceries?

just plain jane


 

Re: Noone could have said it better (nm) » just plain jane

Posted by AdaGrace on December 26, 2004, at 9:38:50

In reply to i dunno, posted by just plain jane on December 25, 2004, at 17:39:33

 

Re: Do you work outside the home?

Posted by bimini on December 26, 2004, at 14:35:25

In reply to Do you work outside the home?, posted by Angel Girl on December 23, 2004, at 16:58:19

Post Concussive Syndrome secondary to traumatic brain injury, Post Traumatic Vision Disorder, seizures, ADD, BP, anxiety/panic disorder, agoraphobia, schizophrenia to organic affective syndrome, chronic fatigue, myalgia so far since accident in 2002.
I returned to my employment, was eventually let go. I was generally discouraged from filing for disability, can't work a normal job and deal with people all day.
I started my own business, this is working out well except at times I would like to fire myself.
bimini

 

heh, bimini. that made me smile. (nm) » bimini

Posted by ghost on December 26, 2004, at 18:01:44

In reply to Re: Do you work outside the home?, posted by bimini on December 26, 2004, at 14:35:25

 

Re: Do you work outside the home?

Posted by ghost on December 26, 2004, at 18:06:57

In reply to Do you work outside the home?, posted by Angel Girl on December 23, 2004, at 16:58:19

i do work outside the home. i have no other options. i've always managed to "turn off" my illness (with a few excecptions) in certain situations or make it work for me. mania worked great when i was an EMT... working in a hospital worked great when i had depression (puts things in perspective)... my current job just kind of lets me be me, which is helpful, but i do worry. i know work for a company i should never leave, it's such a great place. (they'll pay me for 5 wks if i ever have mental health issues-- per year!), but in the past i used to get bored easy, change jobs quickly. i can't do that now-- i've worked so hard to get here, i can't leave. i'm more depressive and schitzo-affective (and borderline) lately, so the mania isn't as prevalent, which i don't know if it's good or bad.

anyhow. that's my story. pretty much. i know i've been lucky enough to make things work for me, with a few trips and stumbles on the way.


ghost

 

Re: i dunno

Posted by Angel Girl on December 28, 2004, at 18:17:50

In reply to i dunno, posted by just plain jane on December 25, 2004, at 17:39:33

> I work inside and outside my home. However, in the context which you are speaking, I believe you mean working for gainful employment in a location other than home.
>
> Do you mean to exclude those who do their gainful jobs at home from "at home" in your question?
>
> I worked outside the home, at the local school, as a volunteer for five years. Does this, although not a paid job, constitute working outside the home in your context?
>
> I worked in my home writing articles and features for which I gathered my information by attending meetings and events and interviewing people and photographing, the results of which I sent to my employer, a newspaper, via the internet. Does this constitute working outside the home in the context you used?
>
> Having been diagnosed (whoopee) as suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from multiple traumas, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Anxiety/Panic, Agoraphobia, and a lovely catch-all: PD NOS, Personality Disorder, Not Otherwise Specified, I have been judged 100% Disabled and Individually Unemployable by VA.
>
> I could, however, write for gainful employment, as having a disordered personality did not prevent it before the doctor decided what my disorders were. I believe it facilitated it.
>
> Where was I now? (scrolling back up to the topic)
>
> I labor outside and inside my home doing the things most people pay others to do: carpentry, repairs on plumbing, electrical, heating, appliance repair, remodeling, redecorating. All the chores involved in having nine dogs and three horses. Will be building a house come spring.
>
> When I do these things for others, they pay me.
>
> Does doing these things myself instead of paying to have them done qualify as my working outside the home?
>
> Geez, I'm glad they've pegged me as 100% Disabled.
>
> My problem with "normal" working for other people jobs is the control factor. A huge factor in my disorders is having had others control me, causing traumatic situations and forcefully keeping me in them. The lifelong fallout from that makes normal employment intolerable after a point. By which time my disorders have done their dirty work and convinced people I am, truly, just plain nuts anyway.
>
> So this is a divergent subthread.
>
> Will you check my groceries?
>
> just plain jane
>
>
>

I think I've just been put in my place. :(

AG

 

Re: i dunno » Angel Girl

Posted by just plain jane on December 29, 2004, at 16:48:10

In reply to Re: i dunno, posted by Angel Girl on December 28, 2004, at 18:17:50

> > I work inside and outside my home. However, in the context which you are speaking, I believe you mean working for gainful employment in a location other than home.
> >
> > Do you mean to exclude those who do their gainful jobs at home from "at home" in your question?
> >
> > I worked outside the home, at the local school, as a volunteer for five years. Does this, although not a paid job, constitute working outside the home in your context?
> >
> > I worked in my home writing articles and features for which I gathered my information by attending meetings and events and interviewing people and photographing, the results of which I sent to my employer, a newspaper, via the internet. Does this constitute working outside the home in the context you used?
> >
> > Having been diagnosed (whoopee) as suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from multiple traumas, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Anxiety/Panic, Agoraphobia, and a lovely catch-all: PD NOS, Personality Disorder, Not Otherwise Specified, I have been judged 100% Disabled and Individually Unemployable by VA.
> >
> > I could, however, write for gainful employment, as having a disordered personality did not prevent it before the doctor decided what my disorders were. I believe it facilitated it.
> >
> > Where was I now? (scrolling back up to the topic)
> >
> > I labor outside and inside my home doing the things most people pay others to do: carpentry, repairs on plumbing, electrical, heating, appliance repair, remodeling, redecorating. All the chores involved in having nine dogs and three horses. Will be building a house come spring.
> >
> > When I do these things for others, they pay me.
> >
> > Does doing these things myself instead of paying to have them done qualify as my working outside the home?
> >
> > Geez, I'm glad they've pegged me as 100% Disabled.
> >
> > My problem with "normal" working for other people jobs is the control factor. A huge factor in my disorders is having had others control me, causing traumatic situations and forcefully keeping me in them. The lifelong fallout from that makes normal employment intolerable after a point. By which time my disorders have done their dirty work and convinced people I am, truly, just plain nuts anyway.
> >
> > So this is a divergent subthread.
> >
> > Will you check my groceries?
> >
> > just plain jane
> >
> >
> >
>
>
>
> I think I've just been put in my place. :(
>
> AG


Angel Girl,

I am sorry if my post caused you to feel put in your place.

There was absolutely no intent of that on my part. I just get on a topic and start exploring/analyzing/wondering what others think. Mostly it's inane blather I let flow from my brain through my fingers, with no checkpoints in between.

As an extremely empathic person it hurts me greatly to know i have hurt you, even unwittingly.

Yours, as everyone's, comments on my verbiage are always welcome.

The "will you check my groceries" is a silly thing between my son (18) and I and he had just said it, so it got tacked on there.

Again, my apologies.

just plain jane PS

I know I babblemailed you, but wanted the forum to know also.

 

Re: i dunno » just plain jane

Posted by Angel Girl on December 29, 2004, at 17:34:03

In reply to Re: i dunno » Angel Girl, posted by just plain jane on December 29, 2004, at 16:48:10

jpj

I got your babblemail but haven't replied it yet. Don't worry, it wasn't you, it was me. I have a bad habit of reading and super analyzing and finding things that are not even there. I've gotten into some *very* heated arguments with people doing that. It's my whacky brain. It doesn't know how to think right.

Please don't put another thought to it. No harm no foul.

In hindsight, by your answer, I didn't even ask the question properly to get the answers I was looking for, another thing I have a habit of doing. BTW, all your scenerios would've fit into my definition of what I was really wanting to know.

I guess my question would've been better asked: How functional are you with your mental illness? But even that doesn't seem right. I don't even know how to phrase my own quesion. :(

Again, not your fault. Please don't worry about it.

AG


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