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Posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 22:16:58
OH, man this is hard! No one to talk to. No one to expect home. Is this home .. this place that I live all alone? Where did home go? I don't know anything ... just want to curl up in late father's blanket, smoke cigs, drink coffee. No one knocks on my door. My lip quivers and eyes tear up. I know I have so much love, kindness, and am worthy, .. of love for someone, or shall I, at my not-too-late age, accept that loving myself is all I really need? cf
Posted by Sebastian on December 16, 2004, at 22:16:59
In reply to ALONE @ CHRISTMAS, posted by corafree on December 14, 2004, at 16:50:14
It sucks, where do you live?
Posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 22:16:59
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS, posted by Sebastian on December 14, 2004, at 20:45:03
I'm in AZ. I have high standards for people/men. I guess that's why I will be alone. I was raised not to lie, cheat, steal, and am a nieve Aries. The men in my life have been like vultures. I am now dx w/ borderline. Forgotten how to be the sweet girl w/ lots of friends I once was. I have a little place. I have three children who will all be w/ the people they love. I've had a really bad day. How goes w/ you Sebastian? cf
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:00
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS » Sebastian, posted by corafree on December 14, 2004, at 20:53:47
Here is a stupid idea, but just in case it helps...do you like animals? Do you have a pet? Pets aren't people, but sometimes they can be so healing. I think that I make it through some days b/c I have my cats. Pets are there to listen to you w/o judging. And sometimes their happiness can rub off on you a little. Just a random idea. Maybe you could treat yourself to a kitten or puppy as a Christmas gift?
Even if this idea doesn't help, please know that I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling so down and I hope that things look up for you in the new year.
EE
Posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:00
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS, posted by Emily Elizabeth on December 14, 2004, at 21:40:03
I'm so sorry Emily Elizabeth (but glad for you), but I experienced a huge trauma with my last pet. His name was Noka and he was a Siberian Husky. I went to get eggs. He used to wait across the street for my car. When he saw it he began to run to me. Instead of opening my car door, at the site of an oncoming semi, I panicked, and I can still remember the terrible 'thrush sound' and then there on the ground lie my wonderful Noka's heart, still beating. I'm so sorry. I feel very, very upset tonight. These things, they hurt. It seems like every thought hurts. My father, I hardly missed a Christmas w/ him, but he has been gone now 10 mos. He was my soulmate and I always went North to see him. A man here, I had been trusting, thinking changed, AGAIN; he is a master manipulator; showed his true colors again. Many relationships w/ men have been hurtful. My son spends Christmas eve' w/ his father, a husband who abused me after he was born, right after, (a real O.J. - such a likable guy!!!), and stupidly awaited the children growing old enough to get out. My two daughters will be with the men they are loved by/in love with. I want my Dad, I want my first love, I want my Noka, I want it all back, ... impossible. I am in a group, but there is a lot of suicidal ideation there, so cannot converse. There is a guy who seems a bit more like me, but guys get scared if you seem to want their friendship. I am still very pretty and young-looking. But then, that is what has gotten me into so much trouble w/ men. They see me, they take me on their journey which ultimately reveals a disruptive lifestyle. I trust them; I cannot not trust. And, when I love, I cannot not love. Oh, so sorry for going on on on truly, cf
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:01
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS » Emily Elizabeth, posted by corafree on December 14, 2004, at 22:14:24
Oh honey, I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. Pets are hard to lose no matter what, but that's just awful.
I wish that I had some magic for you to cheer you up. Please be good to yourself. no one deserves to feel a low as you do.
Best,
EE
Posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:01
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS, posted by Emily Elizabeth on December 15, 2004, at 21:37:02
Thank you so much, really good to hear you out there Emily. I went to therapy today and she reassured me that my depression about this is just what it is, deep depression. It is my environment that is effecting my mood. It is not like I've lost it. That's pretty much what she said. She advised I try 'fast walking' (can't run anymore as 'someone' hurt my back) every 2day, so maybe I'll do that. It's not very cold during the day where I am. People like you make it possible to live through the storms! love cf
Posted by Sebastian on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:02
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS » Sebastian, posted by corafree on December 14, 2004, at 20:53:47
Well, I am probably going to be in the ame boat, alone @ xmas. I'm live in NC. No kids though. Scitzoaffective. I just had to raise my geodon. Thinking my standards are too high as well.
Posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:02
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS, posted by Sebastian on December 16, 2004, at 12:10:05
I live in mountain time zone. If anyone wants to chat Christmas eve, we'd have to start here around 5p. Does anyone know of any new movies that have come out that are really good, not too funny, not too sad; ocean's twelve won't be on video yet, darn. Anyone have ideas?
Posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:04
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS, posted by Sebastian on December 16, 2004, at 12:10:05
Probably have to go to video store early the 23rd to get any new releases to watch. cf
Posted by ed_uk on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:05
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS » Sebastian, posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 12:32:27
Hi!! :-)
I just got your babblemail! This is the first time I've been able to read my babblemail in Manchester, normally I can only read it when I'm at home. I'm not sure why but it doesn't normally seem to work :-(
I've no idea what I'll be doing on Christmas eve but I might be on psycho-babble! I really don't know yet, but we can message each other if I am.
Best Wishes,
Ed.
Posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:05
In reply to Re: Hi Corafree, posted by ed_uk on December 16, 2004, at 13:16:22
At 5 o'clock Arizona time, what time would it be there? Is that too early or late? If there anyone else that would like to join a messenger christmas eve, say for an hour maybe? I think Pacific would be 4:00, Central 6:00, and Eastern 7:00, right. Anyone who might be alone or need to talk Christmas Eve? I will invite you to my messenger list Sebastian. cf
Posted by jerrympls on December 16, 2004, at 22:17:06
In reply to ALONE CHRISTMAS EVE-GO TO MESSENGER? » ed_uk, posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 14:28:20
> At 5 o'clock Arizona time, what time would it be there? Is that too early or late? If there anyone else that would like to join a messenger christmas eve, say for an hour maybe? I think Pacific would be 4:00, Central 6:00, and Eastern 7:00, right. Anyone who might be alone or need to talk Christmas Eve? I will invite you to my messenger list Sebastian. cf
If my depression keeps pulling me down, I'm not going to be able to travel to my parents for xmas - so I'll be alone. It would be nice to be able to talk with others...
Jerry
Posted by Jai Narayan on December 16, 2004, at 22:35:05
In reply to Re: ALONE CHRISTMAS EVE-GO TO MESSENGER?, posted by jerrympls on December 16, 2004, at 18:35:56
I love this site.
There's never a time when no one is here.
Holidays are hard alone.
Jai
Posted by anastasia56 on December 16, 2004, at 22:53:09
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS » Sebastian, posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 12:40:25
definately hit blockbuster on the 23rd...everyone and their dog will be stocking up for christmas viewing.
don't you love that place tho? ok, here's my recommended rentals (recent) (don't know what you've seen)
shrek2
bourne supremecy
spiderman2
riddickthose were the last 4 i rented and they were all good. don't tell me you've already seen them cause i'm all out after those. although i haven't checked to see what was released this tuesday yet.
anastasia
Posted by anastasia56 on December 16, 2004, at 22:55:49
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS » Sebastian, posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 12:40:25
p.s. people just piss me off when they talk during a movie so movies are a great thing to do alone.
this is a p.s. because i posted separately with my rental suggestions.
anastasia
Posted by Poet on December 16, 2004, at 23:39:52
In reply to Re: ALONE @ CHRISTMAS » Sebastian, posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 12:32:27
Hi Corafree,
Have you seen *Love, Actually?* It's on HBO and available for rental. It's with Hugh Grant and it's a romantic comedy that takes place at Christmas time.
Not too romantic, not sad, and you will really root for the not perfect girl who wants to win his heart. I won't give away the ending.
Poet
Posted by ed_uk on December 17, 2004, at 5:00:40
In reply to ALONE CHRISTMAS EVE-GO TO MESSENGER? » ed_uk, posted by corafree on December 16, 2004, at 14:28:20
Hi cf,
I'm not sure what time it will be in the UK but I will find out.
Ed x
Posted by Angel Girl on December 23, 2004, at 15:59:01
In reply to ALONE @ CHRISTMAS, posted by corafree on December 14, 2004, at 16:50:14
cf
Hugs to you and anyone else who is alone this Christmas.
I actually find Christmas very hard when I'm with my family due to my depression. Would rather be alone, but that's me.
Christmas is a very hard time of year for many.
Hugs to all!!!
AG
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