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Posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 14:59:32
I couldn't help noticing how my 1-week block didn't seem much like punishment to me. I got more work done, I seemed less crabby with people, my wife and I did more things together, and I got more sleep. Maybe I should get blocked more often! Despite all these good things, what's the first thing I do when my exile has ended? Why, post on PB, of course.
-Toph
Posted by Fi on October 31, 2004, at 15:43:58
In reply to What's the matter with me?, posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 14:59:32
I do hope it was just a co-incidence! Welcome back, and I hope things in the rest of your life stay easier.
I'm finding it really easy to stay away from PBA, which certainly used to get me wound up sometimes
Fi
Posted by Angela2 on October 31, 2004, at 17:32:01
In reply to What's the matter with me?, posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 14:59:32
Toph,
That is totally something that would happen to me.
Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2004, at 21:37:16
In reply to What's the matter with me?, posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 14:59:32
Posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 22:05:03
In reply to What's the matter with me?, posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 14:59:32
My wife is definitely the administrator in my house.
It's always a good idea to try and learn something from an experience that didn't go well. In this case, I will try to avoid comments and judgements about other posters, focusing instead on ideas, information and process. Please help me with this. Dinah, you and others are so good at staying rational and cerebral, while I tend to be impulsive and emotional. I don't think I can stay away from admin because I identify with everyone's struggle with authority and the constraints set on free expression in a therapeutic setting. I wish I could be more involved on this board but I never ran with the popular crowd. I was the guy who got attention by putting a tack on the teacher's chair.
Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2004, at 22:36:54
In reply to Re:, posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 22:05:03
Only sometimes, Toph. Other times I get inarticulate and incapacitated by emotions.
I wish I could say I don't post that way, but the truth is that I do.
I think it helps that I have a strong academic interest in the rules. It gives me a measure of distance to think of them as interesting things to study. And then there's the challenge of trying to say what I want to say while staying within the civility guidelines. That's an academic challenge as well.
But sometimes I get thoroughly fed up, and no techniques help.
Posted by partlycloudy on October 31, 2004, at 22:46:11
In reply to What's the matter with me?, posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 14:59:32
Toph. I'm glad you're back. People's postimg styles have to fit within a pretty narrow set of requirements. I personally try to expand my vocabulary by finding new or different words to express how if feel. (Sometimes they might be uncivil but well protected by culture, which I think is admirable.)
Mostly I try very hard not to become repetetive of the signs I use. I understand that these symbols can become misunderstood quickly, and I don't wish to be involved in such a competition for affection.
This is a heady dance we have entered into - keeping civil communication lines open on both sides of the border.
pc
Posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 22:52:05
In reply to Re: » Toph, posted by Dinah on October 31, 2004, at 22:36:54
Though not here long, it seems, Dinah, that you get the most puzzled and perturbed at Bob.
Posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 22:55:34
In reply to Re: What's the matter with me? » Toph, posted by partlycloudy on October 31, 2004, at 22:46:11
Thanks, PC. "Signs?" I'm not sure what you mean.
Posted by partlycloudy on October 31, 2004, at 22:59:57
In reply to Re: What's the matter with me? » Toph, posted by partlycloudy on October 31, 2004, at 22:46:11
I haven't the faintest idea what I meant by that remark - maybe I try not to use a happy face or other emoticon devices, because I find that they distract me at other sites.
maybe.
Posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 23:07:05
In reply to Re: What's the matter with me? » partlycloudy, posted by partlycloudy on October 31, 2004, at 22:59:57
OK, I see, PC. I like your metaphor of the dance in your previous post. I can relate, especially when it involves stepping on other's toes.
Posted by Dinah on November 1, 2004, at 7:32:54
In reply to Re: » Dinah, posted by Toph on October 31, 2004, at 22:52:05
Perhaps because I expect a lot from him. :)
Posted by gardenergirl on November 1, 2004, at 12:59:07
In reply to Re: » Toph, posted by Dinah on November 1, 2004, at 7:32:54
Toph,
I'm glad you are back, because I think your humor really adds something here. I get emotionally caught up in stuff at times, too. It's hard not to when you are a compassionate person, as you seem to be. I guess perhaps being aware of that and knowing our limits will help. and perhaps a big "Danger, Will Robinson" sign that flashes when you enter Admin. as a reminder? hee heeGood to see you back.
gg
Posted by Toph on November 1, 2004, at 14:06:33
In reply to Re: Toph, posted by gardenergirl on November 1, 2004, at 12:59:07
GG, thanks for the welcome. I'd like to say that I'm glad to be back, but I got overly involved before, and so I'll be more careful this time to balance my involvement. When I was so ill years ago I spent a lot of energy resisting the mental health system that was trying to keep me safe, testing my doctor who I wanted to be certain cared about me, and of course, fighting with myself over acceptance of my illness. On PBA I fall into these old patterns easily.
If you see me as a compassionate person, I am very flattered. I really feared that people viewed me as an agitator and a bully after I got frustrated with what was happening with Mary and others over there. I hope you'll see a kinder, gentler side of me in the future.
-Toph
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