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Posted by Dinah on September 26, 2004, at 18:27:33
In reply to Re: Hmmm.. Unexpected Babble benefit » Dinah, posted by crazymaisie on September 26, 2004, at 5:02:24
No it doesn't sound cold. It sounds like what I need to hear. As long as they aren't technically certifiable, they are responsible adults in charge of their own destinies.
Maybe I need to spend some time thinking about what sort of boundaries I can morally keep. And talking to the social worker.
Posted by Gabbix2 on September 26, 2004, at 18:40:50
In reply to Hmmm.. Unexpected Babble benefit, posted by Dinah on September 26, 2004, at 0:59:49
> I get embarassed at the unrelenting blackness of my own thoughts when I start to write them down and am embarassed into thinking more positively.
>
Oh, I can so relate to that! Unfortunately for me it has to be said or written to someone else to work, and then I just feel silly. I tried
sending myself an e-mail a few times -- it didn't work :(
Posted by Skittles on September 26, 2004, at 18:48:19
In reply to Re: Hmmm.. Unexpected Babble benefit » crazymaisie, posted by Dinah on September 26, 2004, at 18:27:33
Dinah, I just wanted to say that I appreciate your sharing this experience with us. At 30, I've been wondering when I'd stop feeling that my parents had such a hold over me (it seems like they share some of your parents' negative traits). You've helped me see that it'll never happen unless I do something about it. Maybe if I can figure out those boundaries now, life will be easier for me later. As an only child, I think I need to get a plan in place right away so I won't be so overwhelmed as they get older.
Know that you are in my thoughts. I am sending you warm wishes and hoping that every day you discover little reserves of strength and courage you didn't know you had. You are a remarkable woman.
Posted by 64Bowtie on September 27, 2004, at 13:20:17
In reply to Re: Hmmm.. Unexpected Babble benefit » Dinah, posted by Skittles on September 26, 2004, at 18:48:19
> Dinah, I just wanted to say that I appreciate your sharing this experience with us. [[[At 30, I've been wondering when I'd stop feeling that my parents had such a hold over me]]] (it seems like they share some of your parents' negative traits). You've helped me see that it'll never happen unless I do something about it. [[[Maybe if I can figure out those boundaries now, life will be easier for me later.]]] As an only child, I think I need to get a plan in place right away so I won't be so overwhelmed as they get older.
><<< Thank yourself first, also thank you for connecting the dots...
> Know that you are in my thoughts. I am sending you warm wishes and hoping that every day you discover little reserves of strength and courage you didn't know you had. You are a remarkable woman.
<<< Three cheers for (((Dinah)))
hip-hip-hooray
hip-hip-hooray
hip-hip-hoorayRod
Posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 16:38:45
In reply to I'm so ashamed, posted by Dinah on September 25, 2004, at 22:52:46
I'm surprised at how much compassion I feel for her, even though she did say she told them she wanted them to save the leg until my father dies in a short time. The *doctor* doesn't think my father is necessarily going to die in a short time, but she keeps saying it over and over including in front of him. But still, I know how independent she is and she sounded like a little kid when she talked about losing her leg. It made me want to take her in my arms and hold her.
Posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 17:09:04
In reply to They just told my mom., posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 16:38:45
My mother just called in absolute hysterics about being asked to sign a consent form to take off her leg below the knee.
I managed to calm her down considerably by reminding her how much her doctor has fought in the past to save her toes. If he fights so hard to save her toes, wouldn't he fight that much harder to save her leg? And only take it as a very last resort?
And she listened! She calmed down considerably and is considering signing it. She wants to write in "only as a last resort" but I told her that even if the hospital doesn't allow that that the main thing was that she trust her doctor.
Wow.
I'm stunned.
Posted by just plain jane on September 27, 2004, at 17:57:01
In reply to Good G*d! It worked!, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 17:09:04
a small victory over the manacles.
Posted by 64bowtie on September 27, 2004, at 18:14:28
In reply to Good G*d! It worked!, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 17:09:04
(((((((({{{{{(((((Dinah))))))}}}}}}))))))
Rod
Posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 18:17:27
In reply to Good G*d! It worked!, posted by 64bowtie on September 27, 2004, at 18:14:28
She actually signed it and is in surgery right now. I've got my fingers and toes crossed. My poor mom. She was snuffling like a toddler.
Posted by Susan47 on September 27, 2004, at 18:24:00
In reply to Good G*d! It worked!, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 17:09:04
I haven't read through the entire thread yet, I have two more posts from you to read but my heart really really goes out to your mom.
Posted by Susan47 on September 27, 2004, at 18:26:36
In reply to Thanks, Jane and Rod, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 18:17:27
Maybe your mom feels like a toddler right now. I mean, really really emotionally feels like a little kid who's really scared. (((((Dinah and your mom)))))
Posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 18:37:22
In reply to Dinah, posted by Susan47 on September 27, 2004, at 18:26:36
Probably so. That's probably why I feel like holding her close and smoothing her hair and telling her everything will be ok, no matter what happens with her leg. In fact, I think I did tell her that and put on my best momly voice.
Posted by gardenergirl on September 27, 2004, at 23:17:29
In reply to Re: Dinah » Susan47, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 18:37:22
Dinah,
You are such a special woman. I'm so glad that you were able to comfort your mother. That must have been such a moment.I'll keep her in my prayers and light a candle for her coming thru surgery easily.
And now, sweet Dinah. Just breathe. In two three four, hold two three four, exhale two three four.
Repeat as needed.
I wish I could enfold you in a Babble circle to help you in this time. I'm sure it would be a piece of cake to get a group of willing and eager participants.
(((((((((dinah))))))))))
gg
Posted by just plain jane on September 27, 2004, at 23:47:39
In reply to Re: Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on September 27, 2004, at 23:17:29
gg,
you did say you're serving cake at the circle...
right????
(sorry, dinah, I'm thuch a thmartath thometimes)
hoping all's well
just piggy jane
Posted by AuntieMel on September 28, 2004, at 13:32:03
In reply to Good G*d! It worked!, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 17:09:04
I know your mom has tried you patience so many times, and yet you rose to the occasion.
Would that I had half your strength.
Posted by 64bowtie on September 28, 2004, at 14:31:59
In reply to Thanks, Jane and Rod, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 18:17:27
(((((((((((((Dinah,Mom,Jane,Rod,AuntieMel,Dad,Dr-Bob,DaisyM,Gardenergirl,Susan47))))))))))))))....... and anybody else who wants in......
Posted by gardenergirl on September 28, 2004, at 22:38:33
In reply to Re: Dinah and cake » gardenergirl, posted by just plain jane on September 27, 2004, at 23:47:39
Posted by AuntieMel on September 29, 2004, at 9:25:10
In reply to Re: Dinah » Susan47, posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 18:37:22
How are things going today with you (and mom)???????? Are you ok?
Posted by Dinah on September 30, 2004, at 21:23:31
In reply to Re: Dinah??? » Dinah, posted by AuntieMel on September 29, 2004, at 9:25:10
She had to have all her toes off on the one foot and a bit of the foot as well, but that's better than her leg.
She'll walk again.
Posted by Susan47 on September 30, 2004, at 23:58:59
In reply to My mom's ok, posted by Dinah on September 30, 2004, at 21:23:31
Wow, Dinah that's wonderful!!
Posted by gardenergirl on October 1, 2004, at 0:49:14
In reply to Re: My mom's ok, posted by Susan47 on September 30, 2004, at 23:58:59
Thanks for letting us know, and I'm glad it came out better than expected.
Take care,
gg
Posted by partlycloudy on October 1, 2004, at 6:52:31
In reply to My mom's ok, posted by Dinah on September 30, 2004, at 21:23:31
Oh, Dinah, I am so glad it wasn't as bad as you'd feared. Any further talk on the home health help front or are you taking it one thing at a time?
pc
Posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 8:10:47
In reply to Re: My mom's ok, posted by partlycloudy on October 1, 2004, at 6:52:31
I was getting too overwhelmed. I cancelled with the social worker, and am just going to concentrate on trying to get my mother to consolidate her requests to reduce my visits to see her.
I know she'd like company at the hospital, but my life is a mess and I have to take care of that.
Posted by AuntieMel on October 1, 2004, at 14:00:42
In reply to Re: Definitely one thing at a time, posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 8:10:47
Posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 14:20:39
In reply to Re: What a relief! (nm) » Dinah, posted by AuntieMel on October 1, 2004, at 14:00:42
I have a list of several sitter services.
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