![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 25 of 53. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
Ugh, I'm trying to avoid another solitary birthday, so I asked a friend to get together. Now I'm regretting it. We haven't crystallized plans, in fact haven't spoken, only exchanged phone messages. He said he'd get together, but sounded tentative about what we'll do. I remembered why I don't rely on this friend much. Typically when we get together we either do what he wants, or if we do what I want, then he kind of ruins it for me by being fussy about things like temperature, air quality, smells, noise, and food selection. Everywhere we go, something is a problem for him. Not a person who's easy to be around at all. Well it's my birthday dang it and I want to do what I want, and I don't want to be worrying about someone else's sensitivities. In fact I think I want to go out for ice cream sundaes. Banana splits, yum!
I realize there's little chance he'd drive to where I want to go, endure the noisy restaurant, and eat ice cream with me. I'll probably just have to back out of our tentative plan.
Then... do I go out alone for ice cream, or buy all the stuff and make it at home? I'd end up with 2 kinds of ice cream and 3 toppings and marschino cherries and nuts and whipped cream all leftover. Crimeny, there has to be someone else to invite.
Posted by octopusprime on March 31, 2004, at 11:11:37
In reply to My birthday plans, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
tabitha
why leftover ice cream does not sound like a problem at all! rather an embarrassment of riches. frozen liquid gold, a reward for a long day and a life well-lived. then you can have a week-long birthday celebration!
i'd go for ice cream with you. but failing that, if you want a virtual ice cream party, please set the time (remembering that i'm pst) and i will buy some ice cream and we can sin together. happy birthday!
ps - i went out by myself on my birthday (my friend at work ditched me) and it was less than pleasant ... mostly because of an unpleasant run-in with an ex at the movie theatre ... however your mileage may vary. do whatever makes you happy!
Posted by kid47 on March 31, 2004, at 11:12:44
In reply to My birthday plans, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
BIRTHDAY!!!! ...um....I'm really not doing much of anything......and I adore mariscino cherries. I'd bring Scrabble and Yatzee and Trivial pursuit!! and Liquid Plummer. Have a GREAT day.
kid
<< Crimeny, there has to be someone else to invite.>>
Posted by greywolf on March 31, 2004, at 11:26:34
In reply to My birthday plans, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
Tabitha:
I would not waste a birthday on someone who is not going to put you first. I suggest that it's better to pick that one activity or treat that you love and enjoy it fully simply for the sake of pleasing yourself. Compromising your enjoyment of the day to get the companionship of someone who may make it less happy is probably not the way to go.
While having someone physically present to share the day with is nice, appreciating that you have friends who care for you, though from a distance, is, in my opinion, more rewarding.
Whatever you do, enjoy your day.
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 31, 2004, at 12:26:12
In reply to My birthday plans, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
Whenever your birthday is..HAPPY BIRTHDAY..I would go to the place yourself and maybe meet your friend later at your place for company that way you can go eat the ice cream where and how you like it none of his issues and not spend it alone..by seeing him late..like having your cake and eating it too :)
Posted by Karen_kay on March 31, 2004, at 13:26:05
In reply to My birthday plans, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
You could always invite me and I could give you my red jacket and boots to match your watch... Happy birthday!!!!! It's hard to say in this situation. I have a friend who is very similar. She is snappy to waiters, complains about the food, complains about everything. But, she's my friend and I love her dearly, even if we can't always agree on the service or where to go. So, I guess you could tell him upfront you want it to go your way? I just try to tell my friend to relax. And when she complains about waiting, I say "It hasn't been that long" or "Well, the girl is cute, so it's worth the wait" or "The food is very good" or "Well, that gives us more time to talk" So, if you go with your friend, take the opportunity to try to point the things out that perhaps your friend doesn't realize. Or ignore it. Or run out to your car and scream if you must. Or, back to plan A and invite me. I will compromise and do whatever you want. I'm not picky, promise! (And the whole time, jsut think, "At least I'm not fussy and perhaps I can create a less fussy person!" That seems to work for me. I agree though, it's sometimes frustrating. My old man won't eat with her and she asked why. I had to tell her. That was quite a conversation, let me tell you!)
Posted by Dinah on March 31, 2004, at 19:25:18
In reply to My birthday plans, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
I hope you have a great birthday whether you spend it with a friend or friends, or that very very special person who is Tabitha.
I'd be happy to join you in a banana split if you like. You can have a Babble party and we all promise to pig out on ice cream and cherries right along with you. :)
Posted by fallsfall on March 31, 2004, at 22:14:58
In reply to My birthday plans, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
I think you should invite me. I have been named the ICQ - the Ice Cream Queen.
I like Dinah's idea of an online ice cream orgy. Just let me know when it will be and I'll be there!
Happy birthday!
Posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 22:39:19
In reply to Re: My birthday plans » tabitha, posted by fallsfall on March 31, 2004, at 22:14:58
Alright, I'll provide party hats and favors and an ice cream bonanza. You all can enjoy virtual banana splits or else use this excuse to treat yourself for real. The day is Sunday April 4..
What is in a banana split anyway? Well I guess I just go to the store and buy all the ice cream toppings that look appealing, plus cherries, whipped cream, and nuts. Right? And bananas of course. And ice cream.
Posted by Poet on March 31, 2004, at 23:50:44
In reply to Re: Online Ice Cream Party it is!, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 22:39:19
I want lots of whipped cream, the real stuff, not that junk in the plastic tub and pecans and...
Poet
Posted by Dinah on April 1, 2004, at 7:07:05
In reply to Re: Online Ice Cream Party it is!, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 22:39:19
Ummm. That's the night of our bon voyage party for my brother, but right after that I'll be there. Or before that. Celebrations at my parents' don't last long.
What time is this party?
Posted by tabitha on April 1, 2004, at 10:12:50
In reply to Re: Online Ice Cream Party it is!, posted by Poet on March 31, 2004, at 23:50:44
> I want lots of whipped cream, the real stuff, not that junk in the plastic tub and pecans and...
Must admit I have mixed feelings about real whipped cream. Sure it's delicious, but it's so grown up. The spray can has the fun factor. BUT for you, I'll break out my mixer and whip and whip and whip...
Posted by tabitha on April 1, 2004, at 10:16:07
In reply to Re: Hooray! I'll be there. » tabitha, posted by Dinah on April 1, 2004, at 7:07:05
>
> What time is this party?Dunno.. all day long? I'll stock up on ice cream the night before. Guests can drop in anytime they want. I'll crank the party music (how about that Little Marcy stuff Medusa posted? Perfect for a birthday celebration) and hand out pointy hats to all comers.
P.S. do you think margaritas go OK with banana splits?
Posted by octopusprime on April 1, 2004, at 10:23:46
In reply to Re: Hooray! I'll be there., posted by tabitha on April 1, 2004, at 10:16:07
i'm going away but i should be back by 8 or 9 pm pst ... so i'll hold up the midnight spooky witching hour!
ps - is it ok if i cheat and get some gelato? mmm ...
Posted by tabitha on April 1, 2004, at 10:40:05
In reply to well i'll be the night owl, posted by octopusprime on April 1, 2004, at 10:23:46
>
> ps - is it ok if i cheat and get some gelato? mmm ...Oh, OK. And I suppose you want some fancy non-standard banana variety too? Maybe a plantain? And soy whipped cream? A blueberry instead of a cherry? Fine. Noooo problem. ;-)
Posted by octopusprime on April 1, 2004, at 11:15:37
In reply to Re: well i'll be the night owl » octopusprime, posted by tabitha on April 1, 2004, at 10:40:05
Posted by Jai Narayan on April 1, 2004, at 15:49:23
In reply to Re: well i'll be the night owl » octopusprime, posted by tabitha on April 1, 2004, at 10:40:05
I want lot's of whipped cream with stevia. I'm still on a diet.
I want a party hat....something in the shape of a dog....is that possible?
How old are you? or should I say young.....
x0x0x0x0
Posted by tabitha on April 1, 2004, at 23:30:31
In reply to tabitha happy birthday you sweet person!, posted by Jai Narayan on April 1, 2004, at 15:49:23
> I want lot's of whipped cream with stevia. I'm still on a diet.
> I want a party hat....something in the shape of a dog....is that possible?Wow, a creative challenge. Maybe something in papier mache? I'll make up a batch of wheat paste and set out some newspaper for you. It really needs to have a red tongue.. I'll dig up some felt. And oh, what about a rhinestone collar? I've got rhinestones.
> How old are you? or should I say young.....
> x0x0x0x0I am proudly entering my early forties.
Posted by Jai Narayan on April 2, 2004, at 14:05:59
In reply to Re: tabitha happy birthday you sweet person! » Jai Narayan, posted by tabitha on April 1, 2004, at 23:30:31
> Wow, a creative challenge. Maybe something in papier mache? I'll make up a batch of wheat paste and set out some newspaper for you.
*Sorry I have a gluten allergy...so I will pass on the wheat paste. I bloat up almost immediatly. I am feeling a bloat coming on just discussing this.
Maybe a lot of scotch tape...I seem to be okay with that.
>It really needs to have a red tongue..
* Boy you aren't kidding I need lots of red tong....
wow that doesn't sound like I meant it to sound....
I guess I'll just discretely back away from that comment.
I like the idea we can drop in at any time of the day...I get up real early...and I am such a party animal (dog) I will stay all day.
I do need a nap later in the afternoon.
I will bring my powder blue bankie....
Who else is coming?The forties were my favorite decade so far.
Posted by tabitha on April 3, 2004, at 0:37:06
In reply to I doggon better be at your birthday party, posted by Jai Narayan on April 2, 2004, at 14:05:59
> *Sorry I have a gluten allergy...so I will pass on the wheat paste. I bloat up almost immediatly. I am feeling a bloat coming on just discussing this.
Oops! Sorry. I'll bet you somewhere there's a website with a gluten-free papier mache paste recipe.
> I will bring my powder blue bankie....fine, I'll set up a hammock in the backyard for napping. You know, I think the best nap I ever took was in a teepee.
> Who else is coming?
Anyone who's anyone my dear!>
> The forties were my favorite decade so far.
>
>
I do think they're turning out to be a good decade. I'd hate to think it's downhill after the 40s though. I'm hoping for ever increasing goodness til I die.
Posted by Dinah on April 3, 2004, at 1:45:06
In reply to Re: I doggon better be at your birthday party » Jai Narayan, posted by tabitha on April 3, 2004, at 0:37:06
And a darn good one it is, too.
Posted by tabitha on April 3, 2004, at 13:42:45
In reply to That will be my birthday wish for you! » tabitha, posted by Dinah on April 3, 2004, at 1:45:06
Made me go back and read what I wrote. I'll assume you meant the ever-increasing good decades rather than the gluten-free papier mache. :-)
Posted by Jonathan on April 3, 2004, at 23:01:43
In reply to My birthday plans, posted by tabitha on March 31, 2004, at 10:30:13
Posted by Jonathan on April 3, 2004, at 23:09:13
In reply to Happy birthday, wise, witty and beautiful Tabitha (nm), posted by Jonathan on April 3, 2004, at 23:01:43
Posted by tabitha on April 4, 2004, at 1:03:36
In reply to Oops..1 hour early! You're not on summer time yet? (nm), posted by Jonathan on April 3, 2004, at 23:09:13
What the heck, I set my clock ahead already, so I accept your greetings! May I offer you an ice cream sundae? How about one with a lit sparkler in it?
Go forward in thread:
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.