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Posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:29:47
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 9:19:32
Sandy,
I feel your pain, please dont feel like you have no more options, you do, there is help right there waiting for you to seek it. Please dont give up on yourself you can acomplish anything even if it takes longer than you planed, and please don't let your perception of failure ever get in the way about how you feel about yourself.
You deserve to be happy like the rest of us do, we are all beautiful and specail no matter the misfortunes and struggles we encounter.
Please remain with us in this site, maybe reading about some of our struggles will help you realize that you are not alone.
I hope you can see the light at the end of the tunnel because it is there.
(big hug)
Magdalena
Posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 12:46:24
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » SandyWeb, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:29:47
Sandy, you dont know me but I am struggling too. I have felt like giving up sometimes too. Then I think about my children, my grandchildren. Your children need you with them!They love you. I know how hard of a struggle this is, believe me. Please dont give up. You will get better. You need to have your meds adjusted. I prayed for you today in church. I want you to know that if you need to talk to anyone we are all here for you. PLEASE dont give up. God bless you.
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 14:38:52
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 9:19:32
Sandy!
I am so glad you found your way over here! We are concerned for you because we have been where you are, and are in some phase of coming out of it. I was absolutely ready to give up on life just a week ago - I couldn't even get myself out of bed. My doctor tried so many meds to no avail. And then, voila! I hit on the right one. Now I am a new person! We will hold on to you through this battle. Lean on us all you want. The people here are so wonderful, and really probably more help than I could be. So please get to know them. Just don't give up!!!
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 14:53:12
In reply to Re: Magdalena, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:02:21
> you are in michigan? i am close but on the other side of the border, i live near Toronto,(Ontario, Canada) its ok here but i feel too far from the ocean. How do you like living where you are? I've been through Michigan a few times but havnt really stoped anywhere.
Toronto is great! I love Toronto. Michigan is ok, it has its ups and downs. It's nice to know we are almost neighbors.
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:05:54
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 11:57:40
Hi Mystic,
Thank you for your concern. Unfortunately, a med adjustment wouldn't help the situation. I know what needs to be done, and so I've got a few things to take care of.
I'll be going to the University tomorrow and putting an end to it all. The end of who I thought I would be.
I will need to file bankruptcy so that my debts don't fall on anyone I love....my kids or my parents.
I need to make sure we end the lease on the apartment in time so that payment won't be due each month for a year when noone would be living here.
I need to get my daughter into therapy because she is scared to sleep at night. In fact, we have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday. That will get the ball rolling. She is afraid of dying at night, and thus will stay awake until the sun comes up. Then, of course, she's too tired to go to school. The only way she will sleep at night now is to sleep with me. We need to get her some help.
So, I have a few things to get done around here. I just wish it hadn't come to this. But there's just no point, you know? It can't be this way.
Thanks for the friendship.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:10:59
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » SandyWeb, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:29:47
Hi Magdalena,
I can NOT accomplish anything. It has taken longer than neccesary to get to where I am now, and I still have not accomplished anything. And it IS too late. Everything has run out. There ARE no other options.
I'm just trying to let you know that there really is nothing else I can do. I'm not depressed, nor am I angry. It just is what it is. I'm deflated. I've struggled for too long, and there is NOTHING to show for it. It is time to stop and just exhale. I'm tired.
Thank you for the message. I appreciate the effort. And I feel silly that you ladies are taking an interest in me. I'll let you know how things are progressing.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:15:18
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 12:46:24
Hi Susielalala,
I am so touched that you prayed for me in church today. Please keep that up?? I always wear a little cross around my neck. I find that it keeps me closer to God. He knows I'm tired. But please keep me in your prayers.
Thank you for the beautiful act.
Sandy
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:21:18
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » SandyWeb, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 14:38:52
Hi Simus,
Hi sweetie. You have a big heart! Thank you for reaching out to me.
I am soooo happy that you are feeling better now. It's good to get out of bed, isn't it? *smile*
I need to take care of a few things around here. It's a relief, but it's also such a disappointing place to find myself in. But I guess I knew it would eventually come. There never has been much strength within me. Just a statement of fact, not a pity-party. *wink*
You hang onto that "upward mobility" you're on. Ha! You are going to be okay.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 17:27:05
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:21:18
Sandy...You can not leave your children they need you and you will eventually get out of this state that you are in...You just have to hold on a little longer...How do you think those children will grow up healthy with no mother...They need to know that you are there for them and they are there for you..There is no better reward than to have your childrens love..Please hang in there and please call for some help there is a lot of help out there...this cant be the end for you...I'm praying for you ....A Friend amoung many Mystic
Posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 17:56:03
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » susielalala, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:15:18
Sandy please, please, please don't do anything!! If you want to talk to me I will give you my email address then my phone number. Please don't do anything. You said that your daughter can't sleep at night now, well if you do that to yourself she will never sleep and will be totally screwed up. Think of her!!!!! I do know how you feel,tired of trying. Have faith and pray. We are all here for you. Please don't do anything!!!!
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 18:17:31
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 17:56:03
I won't be doing anything. I'll leave you all alone now. I'm sorry for getting you all so worked up. Don't worry.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 18:45:21
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » susielalala, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 18:17:31
Please don't leave us alone!!! We are here for you. Please don't go away. We are not worked up. We are all concerned for you. Please stay and talk to us.
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 20:57:38
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:21:18
Sandy,
If we all told you our stories, then you would realize why we are reaching out to you. WE HAVE BEEN THERE!!!
I have never shared my story in full yet, but I will for you. I will just hit the highlights (and lowlights). I grew up in poverty, neglected and borderline abused, with depression/anxiety/OCD. But I was blessed with intellect. I graduated as senior class valedictorian, worked my way through college and graduated Summa Cum Laude with a degree in mechanical engineering. I had it all, a great career, a good marriage, two lovely children, a nice house, etc. ...and depression/anxiety/OCD. Yadda, yadda, yadda,... couldn't even remember my middle name, no job, bills, stressed marriage, couldn't take care of myself or my children, financial and emotional burden to all, and no hope of anything changing. Sound familiar?
But the Lord put people around me to help me. I swallowed my pride and leaned on them, and they pulled me through. And, as you read in my testimony, the day is bright again. Yes, some of yesterday's doors have shut, but I am telling you as sure as I live and breath, the Lord can open up new doors if you just hold on and look to Him. Suddenly you will find that you have hope and a bright future again, and that life is truly good! It is never too late!
We love you,
Simus
Posted by wantinfo on March 21, 2004, at 21:12:09
In reply to RE: lexy » wantinfo, posted by sexylexy on March 20, 2004, at 16:23:26
hey lexy! im so sorry you went through that crap but it sounds like you handled it perfectly!
how long were you on the 15 before going to 20? im on the 15 now for almost 2 weeks and think i feel a bit better...the dizziness is going away...but i still dont feel as good as id like to. i AM expecting my time of the month this week though so we will see ;)
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:28:43
In reply to Please help!!!, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:22:30
Okay. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:30:51
In reply to Update on Med Change, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:35:54
Simus, I am so excited for you. Your post is full of hope and happiness. You deserve to feel better and I know that you have struggled for quite awhile. Congrats to you and continued success. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:35:15
In reply to RE: magdalena » Mrs. C, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 0:35:45
Hi, I am doing very well tonight. Thanks for asking. I have been suffering from headaches most of my life. They usually come about when the weather is changing. I have been having them alot lately. I do not believe that they are related to lexapro at all. I hope that your subside soon. If they are from Lex, they should go away soon. Most of my side effects lasted about 2-3 weeks. You can probably expect to feel better in a few more weeks. Hang in there. 2 weeks is not long enough for Lex to take effect. Remember, you're changin brain chemistry! You will begin to see gradual changes very soon. Hang in there. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:37:14
In reply to Re: Magdalena, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 4:18:06
Hey guys, I just had to put my 2 cents in. I am from the Buffalo area. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:44:12
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 9:19:32
Hey Sandy, I was going to try to find you later tonight after I read all the posts. I am so glad that you decided to join our board. There are so many wonderful caring people here and we have become like a little family. I haven't read your post that got Simus so concerned. Are you up to filling me in? I am guessing that you are close to giving up and feeling hopeless. If I am right about this, I would like you to know that you need to hang on. Give the meds some time to work. You are just experiencing a brain chemistry problem that gets in the way of your ability to cope. It sucks! But it isn't hopeless. We will help you get through to the other side if you are willing. Bye for now. Mrs. C
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 21:46:04
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » SandyWeb, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 20:57:38
Well said Simus...well said...Your great and glad you are feeling better...Mystic
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:48:54
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 11:57:40
Okay Sandy I have just gotten to some posts where you tell more about yourself. I am also a 38 year old woman with 2 children. Mine are girls. I have never felt how you are feeling so I won't pretend that I understand. But I do know that life is precious and whatever has gotten you to this place where you are now is not your fault or your children's. You need to seek help NOW! You have an entire life to look forward to and I want to know why you think it is not worth living? Please respond. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:51:19
In reply to Re: Magdalena, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:02:21
Magdelena, I lived in Ft.Lauderdale for 15 years before moving back to upstate NY. I will never ever live anywhere else again. Although the ocean is beautiful and the weather is warm, there is no place like home. We live in a wonderful area of the country and you really can't appreciate that until you have lived some place else. I hope some day you have the opportunity to find that out for yourself. Mrs. C
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 21:52:00
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:48:54
Well said to Sandy Mrs C.....feel like we have to get through to her and not sure she will be back on to read them..but feel we have tried to give support and she knows we are here for her...Glad that you are feeling soo good as I said in an earlier post...Take care Mystic
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:55:27
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » mystic, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:05:54
Sandy, what happened to you to make you feel this way? Did it also involve your daughter? Sounds like what you are planning to do will only make things worse for her. Please reconsider. Where are you? I have never felt so frightened for anyone before in my entire life! Please respond. Mrs. C
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 21:56:52
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:55:27
I'm with ya Mrs C....I freeking here myself and have been all afternoon..worried sick...not sure what to do...helpless and dont like this feeling....Mystic
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