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Posted by Mrs. C on March 20, 2004, at 21:08:18
In reply to RE: magdalena, posted by Magdalena on March 20, 2004, at 19:18:10
Magdelena, I hope you don't mind me responding to your post to Mystic. I just wanted to give you my support and let you know that I am thinking of you tonight. I know what it's like to feel like you will never get better. How long have you been on meds? Mrs. C
Posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 22:51:19
In reply to Re: Thank you all, posted by sexylexy on March 20, 2004, at 16:34:15
> I have come to terms now that God is allowing me this experience because it truly has made me a better person. I am more understanding of my clients (I am a therapist), more kind to people and less vain and prideful. All of these are good things that have come from this experience.
You know, Lexy, you are so right. As hard as this battle has been, I wouldn't have gone back and changed a thing if I could. Because then I wouldn't be the person I am today.
Posted by jlynne on March 20, 2004, at 23:16:22
In reply to Re: To everyone, posted by Magdalena on March 20, 2004, at 19:28:14
> can i ask what your bad experience on the paxil was? you might have told me before but i honestly dont remember what it was.
>
> thanks a lot for being you.
> > MagdalenaMagdalena, if your boyfriend is smart, he will figure out how lucky he is to have found you:) The intimacy thing is a matter of trust; the more you trust the other person, the more intimacy you will allow with them.
It is good that you are cautious, because you are very vulnerable. But you are very strong, too. It takes a lot of courage to take the steps that you are taking, and you are willing to reach into unknown territory to find healing for that little girl you are protecting. I am excited at the possibilities that lie ahead for you.
As for my experience with Paxil, it was several years ago, and I really had a bad reaction to it. I experienced tremendous anxiety and irritability on it, and by the third day I felt like I was losing my mind. I couldn't function, and I really felt like I was in danger of seriously hurting someone. I had to stop taking it after the third day.
Some people just react extremely different than expected on some medications. And as I mentioned, this all happened very soon after I began taking it. You are doing fine on it - I can tell by your posts that you are feeling so much better now than your were in the beginning.
But, don't feel obligated to say that you are doing well, if you're not - ok? [Like most of us, you probably learned to get good strokes by being "a good little girl", eh?]
I, myself have been having a really hard day today; feeling pretty down. I am hoping that it is just because I ate too many sweets yesterday. Tomorrow will tell, I guess. I am going to my brother's house tomorrow for a housewarming. He and his wife live over near the ocean (Pacific) and it is a good three-hour drive from here. The drive will be good for me - it is a beautiful drive, and I enjoy driving (as long as I can hide behind my sunglasses:)
Well, I didn't plan on writing a book . . . sorry; I just got on a roll. Sleep well tonight, and have a peaceful tomorrow. ...jlynne
Posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:22:30
In reply to Re: Thank you all » sexylexy, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 22:51:19
You are such a kind, loving group. I have to ask a favor of you all.
Please go to Psycho-Babble under the thread "I've made a mess of my life" and read what SandyWeb wrote, and what the responses back to her were. I have asked her to please come to this site to write to all of you, but I am not sure if she will. Could any of you please try to find your way over there and help/encourage her? I would be greatly indebted.
Thank you in advance,
Simus
Posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:35:54
In reply to Re: Thank you all » sexylexy, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 22:51:19
Well, friends, it has been three days on Wellbutrin with NO Lexapro at all (still taking Xanax at night). I have to tell you I feel like a new person. The sun is shining again!!! I haven't felt like this in years! I cannot believe that I am the same person I was a week ago! I have had NO withdrawal effects from the Lexapro, and virtually no side effects from the Wellbutrin (I had a slight buzzing in my ear for a few seconds when I got up today, but that is so minor.) Now I know it is only the third day, and that is too soon to make any judgements. But at the very least, praise God, it was three days of feeling great as opposed to another three days of gloominess!
I don't want anyone to misinterpret my post. Lexapro may be the exact medicine for some of you, and Wellbutrin may be all wrong for you. My hope was just to share my victory to hopefully encourage you to hold on until yours comes!
God bless you all!!!
Posted by jlynne on March 20, 2004, at 23:49:38
In reply to Re: Thank you all, posted by sexylexy on March 20, 2004, at 16:34:15
>> I have come to terms now that God is allowing me this experience because it truly has made me a better person. > Lexy
Lexy, I know what you mean about becoming a better person, but the setbacks are a @#?!.I had a major breakdown in 1975 (I was 26yrs old and a single mother with 3 children ages 4, 5 and 6yrs). It took me years to recover from that exerience, and I did things during that time that I never thought I was capable of doing. Since then I honestly believe that anyone is capable of doing anything, given the right circumstances.
But, like you, I can say that I have become much more tolerant and understanding of others because of it, and I would not go back and become my former self for anything. I really feel like I went through some kind of metamorphosis(sp?).
I thought I was doing pretty well without meds, then last summer my husband of 17yrs decided to go through his mid-life crisis, and he left me for another (younger) woman. It has been a very difficult time for me, but I am looking forward to discovering a newer, stronger version of me.
The support I have found on this board has been unbelievable. Thanks for the post. ...jlynne
P.S. I am in the social services field; I work with the elderly. Sometimes they help me more than I help them!
Posted by jlynne on March 21, 2004, at 0:20:03
In reply to Please help!!!, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:22:30
> You are such a kind, loving group. I have to ask a favor of you all.
>
> Please go to Psycho-Babble under the thread "I've made a mess of my life" and read what SandyWeb wrote, and what the responses back to her were. I have asked her to please come to this site to write to all of you, but I am not sure if she will. Could any of you please try to find your way over there and help/encourage her? I would be greatly indebted.
>
> Thank you in advance,
>
> SimusSimus, thank you for calling this to our attention. I have submitted a post to SandyWeb; I hope she will find us. My heart aches for her. You are right that this is a very special group of people we have here. ...jlynne
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 0:27:56
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by jlynne on March 21, 2004, at 0:20:03
Posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 0:35:45
In reply to RE: magdalena, posted by Mrs. C on March 20, 2004, at 21:08:18
Hey i didnt mind you responding at all, actually it made me happy, thank you so much for careing, my headache is still here but it isnt so bad n-e more. im just going to stay in tonite,
i have only been on my meds for 2 weeks so i guess its really too soon to think that it isnt going to work for me..i guess somtimes the pessimistic in me comes out.i hope your night went better than mine, how are you feeling today?
Magdalena
Posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 0:41:19
In reply to Magdalena, posted by jlynne on March 20, 2004, at 23:16:22
Thank you Jlynne and i hope your day goes well tomorrow too. So you like driving? guess what i drove today (ok dont laugh i dont have my lisence yet) i just never went for it, but my boyfriend let me drive his car aound my area today and taught me how to paralel(sp?) park haha it worked a few times..then i got fed up.:)
i wish i lived near the ocean all's we have here is the great lakes, which produce deformed fish (ok maybe it doesnt but i wouldnt be shocked). my dream is to one day live by the ocean.
Sweetdreams and i hope to hear from you when you get back.
:)Magdalena
Posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 0:45:06
In reply to RE: magdalena, posted by mystic on March 20, 2004, at 19:59:12
Mystic, the headache is still kicking but its not bothering me as much anymore, thanks for asking, yeah i am pretty sure they are gonna up my dose cause im not really feeling anything anymore..it could aslo be that i convince myself that i feel this way..these are things i think of when i am not feeling so good.
at least i dont work this weekend so im going to just chill back and try to enjoy it.
is there anything you do that makes you feel better? i find that playing guitar helps a bit but i think i need some lessons, im stuck playing the same 4 songs! lol
anyway sleep well, dream well and i will talk to you soon
Magdalena
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 4:18:06
In reply to Re: Magdalena, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 0:41:19
> ...paralell park...haha it worked a few times..then i got fed up.:)
>
Don't worry. I have been driving for almost 30 years, and I still get fed up with trying to parallel park.> i wish i lived near the ocean all's we have here is the great lakes...
Really? I am from mid-Michigan? Are you close?
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 8:42:18
In reply to Update on Med Change, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:35:54
GREAT NEWS Simus...I'm very proud of you...You are soooo right Lex is not for everyone and there are soooo many things to chose from out there and obviously this one just might work for you..and that my friend is the best news..dont be afraid to take chances and get help in your recovery..I'm very happy for you..Talk to you soon..Mystic
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 9:19:32
In reply to Please help!!!, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:22:30
Simus, you are such a sweet, sweet lady. Thank you for your concern, but I feel so bad that I've caused you to be upset. It's okay to let me go.
As you can see, I haven't taken that walk in the woods yet. *smile*
I don't really know what to say. I don't really have a lot of energy to type or think.
But I will be okay.
Thank you for the care you have shown towards me. You have a big ole heart!
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 9:28:31
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 9:19:32
Welcome Sandy...It is good that you made your way to this room...Could you tell a little about yourself...Are you on lexapro or any meds right now...How can we help you???>>>are you in therapy???...Like I said in the other room...Depression is tricky and it makes you think that it will never get any better and that there is no way out...BUT THERE IS AND WE CAN TRY TO HELP...Please stay with us and let us help...A friend Mystic
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 10:51:16
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 9:28:31
Hi Mystic,
Thanks for taking the time. *smile*
I'm on:
Celexa 80mg
Neurontin 1600-3200mg (depending on the day)
Inderal LA 160mgI don't think that I'm depressed. I've just come to the end of my struggle. What I have been working towards for years has not been achieved, and there is no more time, money, stability, or energy to continue on with something else. I know myself, and it will not work.
So I feel dead. I'm not depressed. In fact, the Celexa is keeping my head above water so that I'm not sinking into that dark pit. I just have no decisions to make. There is nothing else left. And I don't really feel anything about that.
I'm not asking for help. Actually, I don't really know what I'm doing on here. Maybe just talking to hear myself speak. Who knows?
Thank you for being nice to me. (By the way, I'm a 38-year old with 2 children. I've been separated from hubby for MANY years because he was not exactly a "gentle" man.)
Take care. I wish you the best.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 11:57:40
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » mystic, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 10:51:16
Sandy...I'm very worried about you..have you called a suicide hotline and spoken to someone....I know that if you have children they desperately need you and love you and you have got to get better for them...Maybe a med adjustment or trying something else might help...obviously the meds are not helping if you are this disraught...please you must get some kind of help right away...Keep posting...Mystic
Posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:02:21
In reply to Re: Magdalena, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 4:18:06
Hi Simus,
you are in michigan? i am close but on the other side of the border, i live near Toronto,(Ontario, Canada) its ok here but i feel too far from the ocean. How do you like living where you are? I've been through Michigan a few times but havnt really stoped anywhere.:)
Magdalena
Posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:29:47
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 9:19:32
Sandy,
I feel your pain, please dont feel like you have no more options, you do, there is help right there waiting for you to seek it. Please dont give up on yourself you can acomplish anything even if it takes longer than you planed, and please don't let your perception of failure ever get in the way about how you feel about yourself.
You deserve to be happy like the rest of us do, we are all beautiful and specail no matter the misfortunes and struggles we encounter.
Please remain with us in this site, maybe reading about some of our struggles will help you realize that you are not alone.
I hope you can see the light at the end of the tunnel because it is there.
(big hug)
Magdalena
Posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 12:46:24
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » SandyWeb, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:29:47
Sandy, you dont know me but I am struggling too. I have felt like giving up sometimes too. Then I think about my children, my grandchildren. Your children need you with them!They love you. I know how hard of a struggle this is, believe me. Please dont give up. You will get better. You need to have your meds adjusted. I prayed for you today in church. I want you to know that if you need to talk to anyone we are all here for you. PLEASE dont give up. God bless you.
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 14:38:52
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 9:19:32
Sandy!
I am so glad you found your way over here! We are concerned for you because we have been where you are, and are in some phase of coming out of it. I was absolutely ready to give up on life just a week ago - I couldn't even get myself out of bed. My doctor tried so many meds to no avail. And then, voila! I hit on the right one. Now I am a new person! We will hold on to you through this battle. Lean on us all you want. The people here are so wonderful, and really probably more help than I could be. So please get to know them. Just don't give up!!!
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 14:53:12
In reply to Re: Magdalena, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:02:21
> you are in michigan? i am close but on the other side of the border, i live near Toronto,(Ontario, Canada) its ok here but i feel too far from the ocean. How do you like living where you are? I've been through Michigan a few times but havnt really stoped anywhere.
Toronto is great! I love Toronto. Michigan is ok, it has its ups and downs. It's nice to know we are almost neighbors.
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:05:54
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 11:57:40
Hi Mystic,
Thank you for your concern. Unfortunately, a med adjustment wouldn't help the situation. I know what needs to be done, and so I've got a few things to take care of.
I'll be going to the University tomorrow and putting an end to it all. The end of who I thought I would be.
I will need to file bankruptcy so that my debts don't fall on anyone I love....my kids or my parents.
I need to make sure we end the lease on the apartment in time so that payment won't be due each month for a year when noone would be living here.
I need to get my daughter into therapy because she is scared to sleep at night. In fact, we have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday. That will get the ball rolling. She is afraid of dying at night, and thus will stay awake until the sun comes up. Then, of course, she's too tired to go to school. The only way she will sleep at night now is to sleep with me. We need to get her some help.
So, I have a few things to get done around here. I just wish it hadn't come to this. But there's just no point, you know? It can't be this way.
Thanks for the friendship.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:10:59
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » SandyWeb, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:29:47
Hi Magdalena,
I can NOT accomplish anything. It has taken longer than neccesary to get to where I am now, and I still have not accomplished anything. And it IS too late. Everything has run out. There ARE no other options.
I'm just trying to let you know that there really is nothing else I can do. I'm not depressed, nor am I angry. It just is what it is. I'm deflated. I've struggled for too long, and there is NOTHING to show for it. It is time to stop and just exhale. I'm tired.
Thank you for the message. I appreciate the effort. And I feel silly that you ladies are taking an interest in me. I'll let you know how things are progressing.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:15:18
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 12:46:24
Hi Susielalala,
I am so touched that you prayed for me in church today. Please keep that up?? I always wear a little cross around my neck. I find that it keeps me closer to God. He knows I'm tired. But please keep me in your prayers.
Thank you for the beautiful act.
Sandy
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