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Posted by Stryker88 on February 6, 2004, at 22:57:45
I just realized today and this past week how lonely I really am.Something happened to me were I have fallen into a depression even though I am on Effexor 150mg. I am about to say something about myself that might seem unusual to most people. I am an attractive young 27 year old healthy guy, but I have only had sex twice in my life, I know kinda strange. Everywere I go I see couples holding hands and being together, it seems like everyone is in a relationship exept me. It is strange how I can go for so long single, not even dating, just in my own world, and not realize how alone I have always been. I have been living by myself for 4 years, and I wonder if I am ever going to meet a girl who likes me at all. Sometimes I feel suicidal and others I feel different. I also run into couples from time to time were I think how did that "looser guy" get a hot girl friend like that. I am physically fit, slender, and clean cut, and would make a good boyfriend to any girl who is looking for someone with a good head on their shoulders, but they always fall for some other idiot guy instead,
Posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 23:33:58
In reply to I'm So Tired Of Being Lonely!!!, posted by Stryker88 on February 6, 2004, at 22:57:45
I am sorry you hurt and are lonely. I am lonely too and am married so a lot of those happy couples you see aren't so happy and some are or are at that moment. I dont have a lot of wise advice or even smart things to say to you I just wanted you to know youre not alone here...I am down too. Maybe a med increase will help you get out and find someone?
Posted by jay on February 6, 2004, at 23:39:23
In reply to I'm So Tired Of Being Lonely!!!, posted by Stryker88 on February 6, 2004, at 22:57:45
I very much agree with you. I am a 34 year old guy, and I never realized how damn lonely
this illness is until the past few years. I've posted a similar post as your's before, as I am a nice guy who doesn't buy into the
macho crapoola, and women always end up seeing you as a nice "friend", but not someone who
they could date. Oh..and another thing...as far as being intimate and having sex goes, I have found
it only seems and feels *really* good when you are with someone you have developed
a nurturing relationship with. "Casual" sex doesn't interest me really, anymore. I don't understand it all....I really don't. <sigh>Jay
Posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 23:43:22
In reply to Re: I'm So Tired Of Being Lonely!!! » Stryker88, posted by jay on February 6, 2004, at 23:39:23
WOW You two guys are the kind I keep looking for and never find. AND I do not have any JUST guy friends so its not like I have overlooked someone. Keep looking and hang in there youre both a rare and good catch
Posted by leo33 on February 7, 2004, at 13:27:37
In reply to I'm So Tired Of Being Lonely!!!, posted by Stryker88 on February 6, 2004, at 22:57:45
Stryker, I can completely relate with your current situation. I too am completely lonely and have not had sex in 6 years thou until the age of 30 I had plenty of it. I too am told I am an attractive man and I keep my body in very good physical shape, educated and intelligent and don't understand why I can't attract any women other than I don't have any money now. My female friends tell me it is my lack of confidence, they say women love confidence, but I say how am I supposed to build up my confidence if no one will give me a chance any more. I too feel like a social outcast with friends and people in general since most of the people I know are in relationships, especially at my age. They all go out and do couple things and sometimes ask me to go along but I feel like a fifth wheel and then become envious at looking at their relationship and longing for one myself. I have seen it many times where the girl will fall for the a-hole man rather than the nice guy. I have a few friends who are renound womanizers (use them, cheat on them, treat them like crap, talk behind their back, etc...) and yet the women flock to them like they were the last man of Earth and they would not even give me a consideration even thou I provide comfort and understanding to them for their boyfriends shortcomings. I just don't understand it. Well at least you are not alone, I'm there with you, keep your head up because I know how difficult the situation your in can be.
Posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2004, at 13:57:29
In reply to Re: I'm So Tired Of Being Lonely!!!, posted by leo33 on February 7, 2004, at 13:27:37
I just want to say that I used to date the obnoxious guys. It took a lot of maturing on my part before I could recognize what the nice, good men had to offer. Now I am married to one. I don't know if I would have been attracted to him had I met him years earlier. So there is hope, I believe.
Also, I wonder if the time of year has anything to do with it. I was at the mall last Saturday night, and all the Valentine's Day stuff was out. I felt lonely because I was there by myself. I think it serves as an unfortunate reminder.
Last, as a couple who often invite single friends out to join us, PLEASE do not feel like a fifth wheel. I know we invite our friends out because we truly enjoy spending time with them, whether they are single or attached. If I felt like they would be an intrusion, I wouldn't invite them for that particular outing (such as a romantic dinner with my husband).
Take care,
gg
Posted by Stryker88 on February 7, 2004, at 19:26:18
In reply to Re: I'm So Tired Of Being Lonely!!!, posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2004, at 13:57:29
That is strange that you mentioned the Mall, when it was yesterday that I was there noticing all the couples and checking out the cute girls that I might approach and to find out to my dissmay that they are with a guy already, like someone I feel like I could do better than.Oh well maybe it is my fault for being single for so long, maybe if I was looking for a girl a long time ago then I could be with one of the girls that are already taken by someone else.
Posted by Stryker88 on February 7, 2004, at 19:30:08
In reply to Re: I'm So Tired Of Being Lonely!!!, posted by Stryker88 on February 7, 2004, at 19:26:18
Thank you everyone for responding this message center is pretty cool, and helpful.
Posted by Penny on February 7, 2004, at 23:32:44
In reply to I'm So Tired Of Being Lonely!!!, posted by Stryker88 on February 6, 2004, at 22:57:45
Tell me about it...
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