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Posted by Tootercat on January 19, 2004, at 16:10:34
For the last two weeks I've been doing so well. I actually started to enjoy the solitude of my little duplex unit. (getting a divorce, never lived by myself before and am 46)I've been on Zoloft since 12/29. Last night I woke up at 12:30 (fortunately DIDN'T have a panic attack) and never really went back to sleep...Am feeling sad and lonely and desolate. I guess hormones are playing a part (started my period yesterday) The weather sucks; it's overcast and cold. And what I think is the biggest culprit is the fact that I now have someone in my life who I adore and who adores me but the logistics are such that we can only see each other every couple of weeks and when we part I go from being gloriously happy to feeling like a piece of my heart has been torn off. Someday we hope to be able to be together but right now it isn't possible. We talk everyday at least, but it's hard. I think we're being tested. Oh well I just needed to "talk" about things....I'm hoping this is just a day setback cause I hate feeling like this.....
Posted by Poet on January 19, 2004, at 18:16:59
In reply to I was doing so well, posted by Tootercat on January 19, 2004, at 16:10:34
As the song from Call Me Madam goes, *you're not sick, you're just in love.* Or for you, you adore this person so much that it hurts that you can't be together more. Divorce, and living alone for the first time are anxiety inducing. A relationship, long distance or not is anxiety inducing. This isn't a set back it's a normal human reaction.
Stay warm inside and out.
Poet
Posted by Tootercat on January 20, 2004, at 10:17:17
In reply to Re: I was doing so well » Tootercat, posted by Poet on January 19, 2004, at 18:16:59
Poet, thank you for your insight. I am much better today. I managed to eat last night and get a full nights rest. Amazing what fuel and rest do for your ability to function (LOL) and be present in life. I just wish that I could hold on to the positive (like being able to spend ANY time with him) instead of immediately focusing on the fact that I can't have him with me ALL the time. You know, the glass is half full not half empty. My mission in life I guess, replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations....
Tooter
Posted by Poet on January 20, 2004, at 11:19:41
In reply to Re: I was doing so well, posted by Tootercat on January 20, 2004, at 10:17:17
Tootercat,
I have the same life lesson, for every positive thought I have, ten negative ones wipe them out.
I told my therapist that my glass is empty because it has a crack in it. I got her "honestly" look for that one.
Poet
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