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Posted by NikkiT2 on March 26, 2003, at 8:26:58
I use a chat site, its an American chat site, but I've been using it, or its sister sites, for 6 1/2 years now. I have got to know many many people, some better than others.
Theres a message board there, much bussier than this one, but one I love being part of. Its un-moderated, so has it dodgy moments, but there are such an amazing mixture of people, races, religions etc that discussion there can be so stimulating.
One lady there was a regualr poster. She never had a bad thing to say about anyone it seemed, often posting wonderful things ont he board. Sometimes standing up for her beliefs, harranged by others for what she posted, but one of those people that stick out.
Today I go to the board, and I see a post with her name in the subject line.
Last week, this lovely lady died.
And now I feel.. I don't know. I don't even know what she looks like, or what state in the US she lived in. I feel so sad, but what right do I have to feel this way about someone I knew nothing about.
*sighs* Things are just so so sad at the moment.
Nikki
Posted by Dinah on March 26, 2003, at 8:31:08
In reply to A strange feeling, posted by NikkiT2 on March 26, 2003, at 8:26:58
What do you mean, you know nothing about her? :)
Seems like you knew the most important things about her. And grief seems perfectly logical.
A very wise poster once told me, and I'm paraphrasing here so forgive me wise poster if I don't get it right, that you can know who I am or you can know "me", and I think that is what these anonymous boards are about. We can reveal ourselves in a way that would be impossible if we knew each others' names and real lives.
I'm sorry for your loss, Nikki.
Posted by tina on March 26, 2003, at 11:02:05
In reply to Re: A strange feeling » NikkiT2, posted by Dinah on March 26, 2003, at 8:31:08
You just have such a sensitive and open heart Nik. Feeling sad is perfectly normal. You may not have known her in the real world but that doesn't stop you from caring about her. I'm sure she's happy to know that she had an impact on someone so far away. You honor her by remembering and by feeling grief at her passing.
You're a sweet person Nikki.
love ya
tina
Posted by wendy b. on March 26, 2003, at 21:24:27
In reply to A strange feeling, posted by NikkiT2 on March 26, 2003, at 8:26:58
Nikki,
I imagine you would be very upset about this - I know I would be. And I feel sad for you, cuz I'm sorry you are second-guessing your own emotions. You feel loss, grief, it's ok. Very natural, and like Tina said, you are a sensitive and giving person, so things affect you strongly. It's better than the alternative, you know.
I am sorry for this loss, this woman was a real person, and meant a lot to you...
Wendy
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