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Posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
I need to go away. My dog was hit by a car and died last night. I am dying inside. He was the son of my favorite dog in my life, who died a month ater my daughter was born. The dog who remains is the dead dog's mother. She is noticeably sad.
My husband and daughter were out whilst I was at Weight Watchers, melting into nothing with another 3.6 pound loss. My dog had gotten away from them while chasing a fox at the park. By the time I got home, my husband was on the main road carrying out our beatiful boy to the car. He was already dead. Five years old. We are not well. He was so loved by everyone. He was the kind of guy who would wake you to say you were in danger. He could find anything with his nose.
I closed my e-mail account last night because people were writing to squibble with me personally about e-mail rumors being spread by others. Questions started with "Did you really?" and ended with "Of course I didn't." I only felt worse. It was like someone wasn't even listing to me, just reinterpreting everything, as if I were some foreigner who had no interest in what was being repeated 'cause I'd never find it out anyway. When I feel a little better, maybe I'll open another acount and will write to you--Shelly, Mair, a few nice girls.
I can't do mean for the sake of mean or rumor control for which there should be no rumor. I am wiped out. And people are just plain mean. There's no other explanation for it. I'm not a mean person.
I have to go away.
beardy
Posted by Phil on November 14, 2002, at 8:18:46
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
Beardy, Sorry for your loss. You've gone through a lot lately. I'm sorry about your dog, it's devastating to lose a friend.
Phil
Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2002, at 8:36:45
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know what good friends dogs can be. When my little one died, I grieved for a year, and still haven't recovered. How is your daughter? It must have been so traumatic for her.
You certainly didn't need that or anything else to burden you on top of the worries you already carried. Were you able to sleep last night?
People can be mean, but not all people choose to be mean. Many are indeed very kind. That concept is sometimes hard for me to hold on to, and I see you're holding on to it too. Mair is a gem, isn't she?
I'll be thinking of your family today.
Dinah
Posted by bluedog on November 14, 2002, at 9:15:18
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Whenever you are ready here is are some links to internet sites that I found helpful to me when we lost our beloved cat last month.
http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rainbowb.htm
http://rainbowsbridge.com
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown...
Best wishes
Posted by dreamerz on November 14, 2002, at 10:34:42
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
Sorry about your dog Beardy, I know how hard it is to lose a companion.
Posted by NikkiT2 on November 14, 2002, at 10:58:38
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
Oh hun... *wraps you in a huge hug*
To lose a dog is heart breaking... I've nevr wonded a cat so don;t know about cats... the only time I *ever* saw my dad cry was when Holly (his dog) died...
Everything I'm trying to say isn't sounding right.. so maybe I'll write more later...
But, stay with us sweetie.. I love your posts above most peoples, and i sense a seriously caring wonderful woman at the end of my internet line. We've not had alot of interaction, but I respect you hugely, and you're important to my life on the board.
I have my own internet "troll" that like to spread shit about me and post on sites I use to simply upset me.. people liuke that are simply bastards... but its very hard not to let it get to you. People say that the internet isn't real life.. but to me, it very much is and I ahve mnay very dear friends on line.
I just can't believe that anyone would say stuff about YOU though...
Never forget how wonderful you are though... *more huge hugs*
Nikki xx
Posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 11:28:01
In reply to Re: voodoo on me, posted by bluedog on November 14, 2002, at 9:15:18
The vet how prolonged the quality and quantity of the life of my dog Beowulf, this dog's father, sent me this story in a card when he finally died just after my daughter was born.
It's a sweet though. Thank you.
beardy
Posted by jyl on November 14, 2002, at 11:56:42
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
i never owned a pet-
your post made me cry(but what doesnt?)
hope you ae coming to my house when you leave.
i need a nice person in my life..
getting the tea ready..
waiting for you
jyl
Posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 11:59:25
In reply to Re: voodoo on me » BeardedLady, posted by jyl on November 14, 2002, at 11:56:42
I'll be over in (how far do you live from Baltimore?)--
Posted by Mal on November 14, 2002, at 12:31:53
In reply to decaf tea. better try sleepytime. » jyl, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 11:59:25
Beardy, I am so sorry to hear about your dog. A couple of weeks ago, our dog was excited and ran in front of the truck as we returned home. We could have killed him but we were lucky- it only damaged the skin on one foot. But it was close. We were just lucky. You must be devastated.
I hope you don't leave for good. I would really miss you. You have been so sweet to me.
Thinking of you, MAL
Posted by mair on November 14, 2002, at 12:48:56
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
Beardy
I don't know how it is in your household, but in mine, no one is happier to see me walk in the door at the end of the day than my dog, and no one is as greatful for the things that I do for him as my dog. ...And he never complains about the food I serve! Such unconditional adoration is very hard to come by, and you have every reason to mourn his passing.
I'm sure your daughter is upset, but kids do tend to be pretty resilient. It's probably worse for you because you need to do your own mourning plus worry about how your daughter is dealing with this loss. (as if you didn't really also have a ton of other "stuff" to distract)
Please keep posting.
Mair
Posted by IsoM on November 14, 2002, at 13:34:28
In reply to Re: voodoo on me » BeardedLady, posted by mair on November 14, 2002, at 12:48:56
Beardy, I'm so sorry about your loss too. I have cats now but I had a beloved German shepherd many years ago when I was young & alone. We did everything together - she was devoted to me & I still miss her after +20 years. Now, my cats do everything with me that they can. They tend to follow me from one room to the next as I move about the house & try to be a part of whatever I'm doing - except the very oldest tires out & sleeps a lot now.
I'd hate to see you leave PB. Your posts are always interesting & you're one person who I read consistently. If you just need a break, I hope you'll be back soon. You do have my email addy so whenever you wish to write, do so, please. Thank you for all the encouragement & affirmation you've given me - that & the smiles too.
Posted by Robin David John on November 14, 2002, at 15:40:57
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
Beardy Hon My tears are for you today and after hearing of your loss and then reading bluedogs post they are abundant...you take what ever time you need we will here when you get back
Lots of hugs ..Robin
Posted by Pfinstegg on November 14, 2002, at 17:38:42
In reply to Re: voodoo on me » BeardedLady, posted by Robin David John on November 14, 2002, at 15:40:57
Beardy, I'm so sorry to hear of the death of your wonderful young dog, just in the springtime of life- it's unbearably sad. We, too, have had generations of the same kind of dog- in our case, springer spaniels, but we have never lost a young one- I know it would be just devastating.
I don't know, of course, what was going on in some of your other net connections, but it clearly must have had to do THEIR problems. You have always been warm-hearted, very caring, very smart, very resourceful and sometimes very funny in all your posts here. I'm always so glad that I have read your posts, and I notice that everyone on this thread is saying the same thing!
Be sure to keep those things in mind if you take a break for a while. PB is a wonderful source of information, understanding and support, but it does take TIME- not to mention ENERGY- and you may need to use those things differently for now.
Don't forget that the door is always open and welcoming here.
Pfinstegg
Posted by Krazy Kat on November 14, 2002, at 22:12:59
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
Well, I thought I could post again easily, and wrote a long response, but that does not seem to be the case. Apparently I have to take the quiz again because I've been a prodigal child. And then my post was "poof" - gone.
Beardy, I sent you a note. Please email me if you didn't receive it. My thoughts are with you.
- KK
Posted by Tabitha on November 15, 2002, at 2:56:44
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
I'm so sorry about your dog. You've gone thru so much lately, it just doesn't seem fair.
Posted by Gracie2 on November 15, 2002, at 6:03:10
In reply to Re: voodoo on me, posted by Tabitha on November 15, 2002, at 2:56:44
Beardy-
Look at all the friends that you have here. I am one too. I don't know about your situation, why someone would be mean to you and spread rumors, I always find your posts to be warm-hearted and wise.
I know what you mean by saying that you have to go away. Sometimes you just have to crawl into your shell for awhile. Whenever you are able, let us know how you're doing, cause we care about you.
Then come on back when you're feeling better...I've done this myself a couple of times.
-Gracie
Posted by BeardedLady on November 15, 2002, at 6:59:08
In reply to To Beardy, From Krazy, posted by Krazy Kat on November 14, 2002, at 22:12:59
Iknow what courage it took for you to post here. I am flattered. I cancelled my other e-mail address, and with it went everyone's e-mail addresses. I would rather not post one here, as I am not feeling all that good. If you'd let me know yours, I'll write from a new address.
Thanks.
beardy
Posted by Dinah on November 15, 2002, at 11:00:45
In reply to To Beardy, From Krazy, posted by Krazy Kat on November 14, 2002, at 22:12:59
I've missed your name along with so many others.
I hope you're doing well.
Dinah
Posted by Ginjoint on November 16, 2002, at 12:37:53
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
Beardy....
I trust animals far, far more than people. My cats are my best buddies in the whole world, and I have lost treasured pets (though I think of them as familiars, not "pets") in the past. My heart absolutely goes out to you, and I wish I could wrap my favorite blanket around your shoulders. Beardy, you have a friend in this corner.
Ginjoint
Posted by shar on November 17, 2002, at 21:52:42
In reply to voodoo on me, posted by BeardedLady on November 14, 2002, at 7:43:41
Posted by Gabbix2 on November 18, 2002, at 0:49:31
In reply to BL, my very deepest sympathy, my heart to you (nm), posted by shar on November 17, 2002, at 21:52:42
Oh Beardedlady
How terribly sad.
I'll light a candle for your dog tonight, and for you.I'm so sorry.
Posted by BeardedLady on November 18, 2002, at 6:44:43
In reply to Re: BL, my very deepest sympathy, my heart to you, posted by Gabbix2 on November 18, 2002, at 0:49:31
This grief is particularly hard to shake. My dog's father (the mother is still here, and she has been grieving by burying each morning milkbone that they used to go lie outside on the grass and eat together--every day for five years) died when my daughter was 6 weeks old. It was the second saddest day of my life. The first came two weeks later when my grandmother died, unexpectedly.
This little dog was the last we had of Beowulf.
My husband wants to put a puppy under the xmas tree. He's way ready. He's been blaming himself 24/7.
Meanwhile, my dead dog is in the herb and tomato garden with a plate of candles on top of him, burning each night.
But your candle made a difference. I waited 'til 2:00 to take the ativan. Fell asleep on my own like normal. Woke up at two like normal. Overslept on ativan 2 mg. of ativan that took at least an hour to kick in. But I did it.
Thanks for the good wishes.
beardy
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