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Posted by Marie416 on May 28, 2002, at 16:32:02
I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and half after kind of knowing each other for years. This past weekend his mother made a comment to me at his family birthday party dinner about how her daughter (who was also there) took off 20 lbs and I gained the weight she took off. Then when my boyfriend brought his dessert plate over to the table and told me to eat his leftover icecream cake since that was the only dessert there I was interested in and the small icecream cake was gone, HIS mother said "oh no" and pulled it away from me and then said "Well, someone has to help her" THEN, his mother told my best friend who is her real daughter in law that my boyfriend shouldn't let me eat and that she was going to have to have a talk with him. Because of depression and changes in eating habits through medications I have gone from a size 5/6 to a 9/10. I am absolutedly disgusted right now. My best friend doesn't want me to relate what the mother said specifically to her because she doesn't want to start a family argument. I am not a part of that family yet, nor do I even want to be at this point. All I said at the time was "Thanks" in an unfriendly tone but after hearing what she said to my friend I am beyond pissed. Who needs to be concerned about all the craziness in the world when the real a**holes are all in the family. Any advice?
Posted by mair on May 29, 2002, at 12:30:20
In reply to future mother-in-law......help????????????, posted by Marie416 on May 28, 2002, at 16:32:02
Marie
What's your fiance think about all of this? Is he willing to tell his mother to back off?
Mair
Posted by Marie416 on May 29, 2002, at 13:27:44
In reply to Re: future mother-in-law......help???????????? » Marie416, posted by mair on May 29, 2002, at 12:30:20
I spoke to him again about it. He said he was really sorry and he did tell her the next morning to knock it off (when I was not around). His mother apparently is a control freak and one of those people who feels they can just say whatever she wants. My boyfriend felt really bad and said that he's sick of having to make apologies for other people because they have no accountability. And although he did tell her to mind her own business, he cannot control her actions.
Posted by SandraDee on May 29, 2002, at 22:20:20
In reply to Re: future mother-in-law......help????????????, posted by Marie416 on May 29, 2002, at 13:27:44
I'm sorry that happened to you. You are still ONLY a 9/10 Sheesh, that's good!
I had a similar experience when I was a kid (about 10-11) and my AUNT pulled me aside at a family reunion event and told me that I should really start watching my weight and not go back for seconds and stuff like that. We had spaghetti that night and I wanted more, but didn't go back, my mom asked why I didn't have more (since I was hungry later) and I told her about what my aunt said. She was sooo mad, and had a nice little "talk" with her. That little comment has scared me my whole life. Try not to let that happen to you. You are still a small size (since the average woman is supposedly a 12-14) so don't feel to bad. My mother-in-law is far from a saint, but I handle it... what else can ya do, right? :)
Good luck,
Me
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