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Posted by DannaB on March 18, 2007, at 19:12:57
It was probably a mistake to go out drinking last night with friends b/c naturally I feel ill and depressed today.
I am so sad. I was dumped recently. This happened right before my therapist went on vacation. My doc is the best, though, and called me right before he left.
I feel that I am not able to attract and keep love in my life. I'm insecure and people don't seem to find that attractive. The one person I have that I really love and trust and respect and admire and all of those good things is my therapist. But of course I can't tell him how I feel and there's no point anyway b/c as we all know it can't go anywhere. But my appreciation for him goes so deep that if I even just think about him not being there or moving away I will cry. I am so pathetic--the one person I feel closest to of course is one I have a one-way, doctor-patient relationship with. I meet a million guys in real life and it never goes anywhere.
Anyway, I'm really down so I could use some words of encouragment.
Posted by karen_kay on March 19, 2007, at 19:15:44
In reply to Post dump, now down in the dumps, posted by DannaB on March 18, 2007, at 19:12:57
sometimes life is fun and sometimes life just downright stinks! sounds like right now, for you, life is smelling of rotten fish, eh?
well, if you keep your head up and keep thinking abotu that mistrer prince charming that's out there right around the corner, then he'll be there.
i actually saw soemthing on 'the daily show' about soem miss cleo person or somethign like that. seh was on oprah or something saying 'if you think it, believe it, dream it, then it will happen!' wowsa! if it were only that simple, eh? well, she's a bizzilionaire right now and about a zillion people have bought her book. guess it worked for her??
sweetie, like i said though, life is tough. but, i believe prince charming is out there. some of us are luckie enough to run into him sooner rather than later, you know? just keep on truckin. you'll bump into him, when it's the right time. then again, i never claimed to be miss cleo, so i could be fullof poopie too. just want you to know i'm listening to you and i understand you too.
take care doll,
kk
Posted by DannaB on March 23, 2007, at 2:59:59
In reply to keep on truckin!, posted by karen_kay on March 19, 2007, at 19:15:44
Thanks, Karen_kay. I appreciate the good thoughts!
Posted by Susan47 on April 7, 2007, at 22:33:19
In reply to Post dump, now down in the dumps, posted by DannaB on March 18, 2007, at 19:12:57
> It was probably a mistake to go out drinking last night with friends b/c naturally I feel ill and depressed today.
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> I am so sad. I was dumped recently. This happened right before my therapist went on vacation. My doc is the best, though, and called me right before he left.
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> I feel that I am not able to attract and keep love in my life. I'm insecure and people don't seem to find that attractive. The one person I have that I really love and trust and respect and admire and all of those good things is my therapist. But of course I can't tell him how I feel and there's no point anyway b/c as we all know it can't go anywhere. But my appreciation for him goes so deep that if I even just think about him not being there or moving away I will cry. I am so pathetic--the one person I feel closest to of course is one I have a one-way, doctor-patient relationship with. I meet a million guys in real life and it never goes anywhere.
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> Anyway, I'm really down so I could use some words of encouragment.Are you still around? Your work has to be with a therapist but if you feel you can't tell him how you feel because you have a crush on him then you should tell him that. It can bel really dangerous to see a T you have a crush on for a long time .. his job is to move you out of the crush and into friendly trust so you can feel how he appreciates you and you want to live into that. You need to live into his respect for you and from that, you can develop real-life relationships, any ones that you want.
Posted by DannaB on April 8, 2007, at 22:13:51
In reply to Re: Post dump, now down in the dumps » DannaB, posted by Susan47 on April 7, 2007, at 22:33:19
I've tried to tell him in little ways so he may have an idea, but I can't get the words out to say it for real. Basically, I've become extremely dependent on him. This is made even worse because he is not sure if he will be at this job (or in this city) for more than a year. I've been working with him for several years now and basically I've had feelings for him all of this time, although sometimes they are more powerful than others.
The other thing is that I feel that he is extremely fond of me. He is the utmost professional, but I can tell that, in a professional way, he really cares for me. This makes it hard because I really want and need someone who cares for me in my life, but I don't have that right now, not family and not friends. He's the only one I can really count on.
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