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Posted by Deneb on February 8, 2007, at 22:06:07
I hate this!
I had another argument with my Mom. I told her not to call me so much. I told her not to worry about me, not to bug me about getting up in the morning. I get so annoyed.
I'm so angry! I don't know why I'm so angry. I felt like punching a hole in the wall.
I hate it! I hate it! I just want everyone to leave me alone! Leave me alone! Don't bother me! Don't call me to check up on me! I hate it! I hate it! Stop asking if I'm OK. STOP!
I'm so angry! Sooo angry!!!!
I just want my parents to leave me alone! I hate it!!!!!!
I made my Mom cry. Now I feel bad. I hate this!
I'm never talking to my Mom again! F*CK OFF!
Posted by annierose on February 10, 2007, at 20:09:51
In reply to Had another argument with Mom, posted by Deneb on February 8, 2007, at 22:06:07
Just from the things you have shared, I think the issues between you and your mother are worth exploring with a therapist. When I was in my early 20's (I'm 46 now), I went to therapy. My therapist would really try to open up my eyes to my relationship with my mom that I thought was "fine". I couldn't or wouldn't see what she heard.
When I first became a parent, my world opened. Then I could see what that therapist was trying to help me see.
Your mother is a little like my mom, from what I read. She seems more concerned about how your life reflects on her, than how you are feeling. Yes, she loves you. Yes, she is concerned for your well being. But there is something more.
Posted by Kellie on February 14, 2007, at 21:51:41
In reply to Re: Had another argument with Mom » Deneb, posted by annierose on February 10, 2007, at 20:09:51
I can relate to how you feel my mom is the same way with me. The more she calls the less I feel like doing anything that day. I know she cares about me and is scared for me but, she doesn't see that it is not helping.
The hard thing is that I am a mom too and it puts a strain on my relationship with my daughter when my mom over mothers me. Even though I know that she cares I can't help but feeling that she calls so much because she is worried that somehow my illness is her fault. She doesn't suffer from depression, or have the other problems I do so she only feels that I could just get up and get over it. Not talking to your mom probably isn't the answer though and for me I realized that getting her to understand isn't happening either. I dedided to get rid of my answering machine (because she'd leave upwards of twenty messages saying stuff like "it;s time to get up" and crap on it, then I set up a schedule of mom duty time I call it where I talk to her, then once a week I visit and play nice. It is sometimes hard to keep but, I've learned that it is easier than the alternative.
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