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Posted by DannaB on December 23, 2006, at 13:59:25
As I just posted, I have trouble staying on the medication that works for my depression:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20061212/msgs/714396.htmlI am in a new relationship right now and currently am not on a medication that is working. My doctor and I area having a lot of trouble finding something that works that I can tolerate. Unfortunately, this means that right now my depression and anxiety aren't fully under control.
I am crazy about this guy but my depression and anxiety are already causing us problems. If I don't fix this medication situation soon I'm afraid I might lose relationship with a really wonderful person. I have tried to explain the situation to him (he's struggled with depression himself) but since it's a new relationship he hasn't known me when my depression was more under control and I'm afraid he might give up on me.
What should I do? Please please do not say that it's not the "right time" for me to be in a relationship...it might never be the right time but I have finally met someone wonderful and I'm so afraid that my depression will mess things up. I have so many problems with low self esteem and insecurity, and these issues are much less prominent when my medication is working. My guy seems to really have a hard time dealing with my insecurity so I just don't know what to do. The depression isn't "me," it isn't who I am, but right now it's affecting my mood and my behavior, and therefore, the type of person I seem to be.
Posted by Phillipa on December 23, 2006, at 13:59:26
In reply to Medication change during new relationship, posted by DannaB on December 16, 2006, at 21:04:37
I answered you above you say that celexa does these things for you. If your boyfriend truly cares for you and has had depression and taken meds he would understand if you're having sexual problems. Have the two of you discussed it? Love Phillipa
Posted by becksA on December 23, 2006, at 13:59:26
In reply to Re: Medication change during new relationship » DannaB, posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2006, at 21:51:36
I am in the EXACT same situation as you, only reversed. I am the male and I'm worried about her thoughts about me. I'm not good at relationship advice, but if you have any questions, I'm here. I know, it's frustrating. I almost want to go back to what was working before even though it wasn't what I really wanted. That is not going to happen though.
Posted by DannaB on December 23, 2006, at 14:00:10
In reply to Re: Medication change during new relationship, posted by becksA on December 17, 2006, at 0:05:25
> I am in the EXACT same situation as you, only reversed. I am the male and I'm worried about her thoughts about me. I'm not good at relationship advice, but if you have any questions, I'm here. I know, it's frustrating. I almost want to go back to what was working before even though it wasn't what I really wanted. That is not going to happen though.
Hey, becksA. You also had sexual side effects that caused you to go off your meds? Not that misery loves company, but it helps me to know that I'm not the only one in this situation.
I don't know what to do. I have dropped four pounds in the last few days because I have no appetite. I am living in terror because I am totally in love with this guy and I am just not in the greatest place right now... It is really scary for me to think that he will get the wrong idea about me and what type of person I am. I have been acting very insecure and jealous, but this is because when I'm depressed I tend to ruminate, and therefore stupid little things that normally wouldn't bother me are magnified in my mind.
Posted by madeline on December 23, 2006, at 14:00:10
In reply to Re: Medication change during new relationship, posted by DannaB on December 17, 2006, at 8:50:18
I'm not sure that a drug change will fix this situation, and I'm not sure that therapy will help quick enough.
I can't believe that I am going to suggest this (although I seem to be doing it a lot lately), but I would talk to your doc about prescribing you a short course of the benzos.
I think these would really help with the anxiety you are experiencing and help you to ease into trusting your partner a little better.
And they might also help you to tolerate these uncomfortable feelings a little better.
If this relationship is something that you really want to keep, then it is worth fighting for - even if the fight is largely with yourself.
Good luck
Maddie
Posted by Phillipa on December 26, 2006, at 18:08:02
In reply to Re: Medication change during new relationship, posted by madeline on December 17, 2006, at 10:05:50
Maddie are you against benzos? Even for people like me that that was the only thing to prescribe in the 70"s any suggestions? Thanks Phillipa
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