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Posted by baby21 on September 11, 2006, at 21:39:35
my bf and i have been together for 3yrs and every time we have sex he dosent seem to last not even the second time around the longest he might last for is 10 min what can we do please help
Posted by Declan on September 13, 2006, at 1:23:06
In reply to my b/f don't last long in bed why, posted by baby21 on September 11, 2006, at 21:39:35
10 minutes is not as good as the movies or the books but isn't so bad, except for you.
What should you do? Some tantric thing, lots of getting almost to the point and then backing off, and things other than penetration.
There's a special pleasure (for me, at any rate) in feeling I've given someone pleasure. Presumably he lives without this feeling.
Posted by llrrrpp on September 16, 2006, at 7:52:20
In reply to Re: my b/f don't last long in bed why, posted by Declan on September 13, 2006, at 1:23:06
Yes, well, 10 minutes is okay, it's not spectacular, but it's pretty normal for many couples. If you need longer, you might want to figure out what will help you get what you need and either start a little earlier (saving the end for the last 10 mins) or get finished a little later (haha- guys usually pass out incoherent for at least a minute or so- kinda breaks the flow a little bit, huh?).
My main advice to women who are frustrated like this is: know thyself. If you can't make it happen in solo practicing, the duet is not going to make you feel much better either. Or, rather than just making it about some "goal", try enjoying sex moment by moment, for what it is. It's hilarious. smooshie bodies and compromising positions and saying bizarre things to each other, and wierd noises you may never have heard your guy make before. people are a strange animal. get to know yourself better, go with the flow!
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